Author	Thread: dating with a disability
Mark1123 View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 09:14 AM Hello. My name is Mark. This is my first post. I am visually impaired but not totally blind and I would like some feedback from others on here who may have a disability. What has your experience been with dating with a disability. Do you feel people can prejudge you at times and think your weird or different because you have a disability? Do you feel that people may feel that you can't be a good partner or that you will be a burden to them? Your responses would be greatly appreciated! Be Blessed!! :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 08:01 AM Hi, Mark! I'm a guy here who is physically-challenged too, so I know how you feel and the difficulty it can be to find a gal who doesn't care about that and will be willing to look at the inside more than the outside in considering you for a dating and/or life partner, God's BEST for her!!! Those gals are out there waiting for us, Mark, so don't despair about it, though, I know, like you, that some days it can cause your heart to really wonder how LONG it will take for you to find a gal who looks beyond your physical abilities to your heart and spirit in Christ and your SPECIAL, UNIQUE and DYNAMITE MAN OF GOD PERSONALITY that could possibly be JUST RIGHT and GOD'S BEST for HER!!! :yay::yay::yay: ... to those gals from God who do!!! My physical challenges are a result of developing "young people's arthritis", Mark, when I was 16 in 1963 ... I've been through quite a journey of growing in the Lord and dealing with my physical challenges since then ... and I'm happy and blessed to share that He's brought me wisely and faithfully to where I am today ... into experiencing such a close, intimate and trusting relationship of unconditional, tender and passionate love with Him and others, guided by the Holy Spirit and strengthened by the faith He's given me in His agape love for me and His heart's desires for His BEST for me, Mark!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: ... I'm blessed to be able to be, basically, an independent adult who takes care of himself with only the assistance of a few "tools" at home and few gracious kindnesses from others in helping me with some things I can't do for myself in my home and outside of my home, such as reach up to shelves higher than I am to get a product I want to buy down off the shelf to put it into my cart or lift heavier products and carry them to put them in my cart etc ... I walk around with the aide of half-crutches, Mark, and so sometimes I must hold onto the crutch handles and also hold something in my hands too as I carry it someplace that I'm going ... in the kitchen at home I can hold onto counter tops or use just one crutch while preparing my food items, coffee or other drinks and carrying them over to the wheeled cart I have to use to wheel my food and drinks to where I'm going to sit and eat and drink them, Mark, and this works out perfectly for me to enjoy being blessed to live independently in my own home and, like I said, basically, take care of myself, except for a few things I need others to help me to do ... so, we can difinately relate to each other, Mark, as physically-challenged bothers in Christ and the challenge this is to us romantically in finding gals to date who might be THE gal God has waiting for us who is His BEST for us as the love of the rest of our lives who will feel blessed to become our complementing wife ... hang in there with God, Mark, as I am doing, and trust Him and just "keep on keepin' on" in sharing your heart and spirit and personality and lifestyle with the gals who interest you here and elsewhere and let God and the gals who find themselves intersted in you too do the rest, always being honest and "up front" with everyone about yourself "unto the Lord". Steve Post Reply
Mark1123 View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 05:20 PM Hi Steve. Wow, thanks so much for your great wisdom and honesty. That was really nice to hear. A disability in my opinion can actually make us more sensitive to others needs because we are going through a physical challenge and can be a little more accepting of others who may have non-physical challenges!! It's the love of Jesus in our hearts that is most important and I think you would make a great partner for a woman and she would be very blessed to be with a man of God like you!!!! I feel that because of what Jesus has done in my heart I can provide the love, care and understanding that a woman needs. We all have some kind of challenge we are dealing with and we should not pre-judge others! Praise God for his love and mercy and grace I love this line from a song which goes, "When I could not find MERCY...MERCY came running to me!!!" Thanks Steve and Be Blessed!!! Mark Post Reply
View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 11:54 PM I have ADD so i hope to find somebody who can help me its hard at times but god has is hand on me!!!! Post Reply
Mark1123 View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 09:49 AM Yes. God has his hand on you and hang in there and let God work in your heart and then people will see his love in you more and more. God has a loving, Godly woman for all his brothers!! Don't give up!!! Mark Post Reply
View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 10:35 AM Let's face it! When you market anything, or anyone, boasting of all the positive attributes is the way to lure "the market". "I am legally blind" or " I am disabled" is not a popular hook! The stategist / seller wants to appeal to a buyer. Generally, I think, (as I have not encountered "most people" really), most people want as trouble free a partner as s/he can get. The term baggage is used much. When I got online to seek a partner 3 yrs ago, I was exceptionally dizzy, had lost my career, and become Disable and on Social Security, as a result. I thought, how in the world can I share my life feeling this way! One of my thoughts was, who'd really want someone who feels ill, is given to bouts of downtime, has such limited income, etc. We are online to help find out just who that compatible with our needs individual is! Did God supply her / him here, on CDFF? Christians, I also got the revelation, that who I am in Christ is truly the attractive trait I bring to the table. Naturally, there is practicality to consider... This venue is great because, ie: you being legally blind is advertised along with other qualities and circumstances that describe who you are and what you'd like. Those who are not attracted, baited, will not waste your time or there's. meanwhile, may we all glorify God with our lives, and encourage one another in Him! Post Reply
View Profile History	dating with a disability Posted : 31 Oct, 2010 11:28 PM Hi,mark,rudym3,steve and davita3 ,first the fact that you can openly declare about your condition your very courageous,congrats,i dont know hw you,ve managed all those years lets say grace.the grace is sufficient .God looks at the heart but man looks at the outward apearance,if i could have a wish i would wish to meet each one of you so that we share a meal and talk about our father God,and welcome all cdff members you,ll notice how all of us are spiritually disabled and dont even and for a moment you,l tearfully,truthfully,shamelessly,genuinely.humbly thank God again. Woula rather have a blind,deaf,or even a physically disabled man who knows how to love the lord thus will love me the Gods wants than have the strongest,fittest,even the healthiest,most educated if i may add who believes in even alittle of what He has physically than God.because i dont want to depend On myself other than Our lord and saviour Post Reply