Author	Thread: Online dating etiquette
Admin	Online dating etiquette Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 12:10 PM What is the "dating" etiquette for online? I haven't tried to meet people since 1980 and it wasn't online then, it was in college. Do women still wait for guys to make first contact? Is it still impolite to not answer when "spoken to" even if it is electronically? Can a woman start a conversation? Is it more acceptable to email or instant message or wink? Is there a "read between the lines" on any of those I don't know about? And how does this distance thing work - do people just have continual online "relationships"? In this bold new world, I am "old school" and struggling with new roles. Any advice would be appreciated! Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating etiquette Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 07:20 PM Hello and welcome! I can relate, as I had a long time between forays into the dating world, also. After three years using the internet to find a husband, I can offer the following: You do not have to wait to initiate contact. I (personally) consider it impolite to not answer "winks" and/or emails. Even if just to say "Thanks for your message (or wink)". This site also has a "thanks, I don't think we are a good match" button that takes care of things for you. Some men don't mind instant messaging, but what I have found is that many men do not type as fast as I do, and so IM conversations tend to take a lllllooooonnnnnnggggg time :laugh: Men are different, so you will have to pray about whether to send just an email, or just a wink, or an email AND a wink, etc. If a man does not respond, don't take it too personally. On most dating web sites it takes a lot of contacts before meeting someone you may hit it off with. I suggest you NOT give out any personal emails or phone numbers without several days of correspondence. Give it time. If a man wants to hurry you ---- it is a very good chance that he is not from the Lord. Pray about it. Be yourself, be friendly, be honest. Don't compromise. Pray about all contacts. You'll do just fine. Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating etiquette Posted : 6 Aug, 2010 07:41 PM @godslamb - Wow, your message was inspired. I learned from that. So may I please say, "thank you" for that!! Truly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating etiquette Posted : 13 Sep, 2010 07:53 PM I can only tell you how I feel. 1. I am not comfortable making first contact (e-mail message). I do send winks and wait for a response. Many will not respond for whatever reason. 2. I send a reply to every email and wink that I receive. Whether someone likes the answer (not a good match) is not up to me to worry about. I simply think it polite and good manners to respond. 3. Women can start conversations by wink, email or instant message. I am not into instant messaging and do not use it at all. 4. I only look at singles in my area, never log distance. To me a relationship requires that I actually spend some time with the person. This are my opinions only and do not reflect the ideals of this site. I hope this helps. Post Reply