Author	Thread: Never been in a relationship
Admin	Never been in a relationship Posted : 8 Mar, 2010 10:18 AM My whole life iv always had more girl friends than guy friends, but even though iv been around women more i have never had the confidence to ask one out. Is there something wrong with me? Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 8 Mar, 2010 02:07 PM My situation is close to yours...I did however have the courage to ask out a couple of girls in my past, but with no luck...good luck in the future!! Just remember that God knows best!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 8 Mar, 2010 02:45 PM Hello Jason! First off, NO, there's nothing wrong with you. I had the same problem at your age-which was almost 30 years ago. I was an extremely shy young man in East Texas, where high school football is king and jocks were "IT"- and I was neither a jock nor a sportsfan. I was 5'8, weighed 110 lbs soaking wet, and stuttered so badly I could talk to a busy signal for 20 minutes. :ROFL: I lacked confidence and had nobody at all in my life to give me any type of assurance at all. Although I had to raise three younger brothers, worked full-time to pay all our household expenses,( all since the age of 15)- I still looked down on myself. I had no belief in ME. I thought surely no nice young lady would have anything to do with a boy like me. That all changed the day I read Phillipians 4:13-(Yes, Jason-there's a Bible verse for everything!)..."I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me." I'm not going to lie to you. I was scared. I realized though, even after I got the confidence and the courage it took to ask a girl out that I would have to show that confidence. THEN, I would have to prepare myself how to react in the event the girl I ask out would say no. And they did. ALOT! But I was a persistant little cuss and never gave up. I learned from watching other couples out on a date at the local drive-in (While I sat in my 1973 Old's 98 by myself) that it really didn't matter how the guys dressed, how handsome they were, how much money they had, that they all had the same thing-(besides a girl) They had confidence, they were smooth, most of them were full of, ugh, balogney, but the girls liked them anyway. They all had that "George Jefferson" swagger. So, I became even more confident; I got a "I don't care-you can say what you want- attitude- Even though my knees were shaking so bad the first few times- I just got bolder and bolder and pretty soon I had girls asking ME out!Really. 25 years later my son- who at 17 looked like a Leonardo Dicapprio double -and still does- came to me and posed the same question as you. My reply was the same-(probably a little less wordy, though) Guess what, it worked!:yay: He started dating the homecoming queen, ended up marrying a beautiful girl after graduatng, but he lacked confidence in the beginning. He did not believe in himself. He was so afraid the girls would say NO and was afraid of embarrassing himself. I told him like I'm telling you, they can say yes just as easily as no. It's not like they are going to put your picture in the paper with a big "L" on your forehead. They won't laugh in your face or go tell all their friends-"Hey-you won't guess who had the nerve to ask me out!" And even, even if they did, so what? That just shows their character and better you found out then than later. So..... hopes this helps. A good confidence builder besides the Bible is Dale Carnegie's- "How To Win Friends And Influence People" God bless you and good luck Jason. Let me know if this helps. CE :rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 8 Mar, 2010 05:14 PM i never had a boyfriend either dont feel bad Post Reply
HisGrace3 View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 9 Mar, 2010 11:24 AM There is something wrong, not with you but how you think, and you are probably very shy. Also, you may have fear of rejection and acceptance. Pray to God to give you courage and wisdom in all you do, and He will. He is a good God and He loves you very, very much. Satan, likes to put fear in us and wants for us to think we are not good enough - that there is something wrong with us, he is a LIAR! Remember that. God Bless You and may you began to enjoy and be blessed with the love and friendship of someone whom the Lord has been waiting to bless you with! Amen. P.S. - If you are rejected don't take it so hard, not everybody is for everybody, we are all different, that is how God made us. But there will be someone out there who God knows will be a blessing to you. :yay: Post Reply
jbaspire7 View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 10:20 AM hi jason, don't feel bad, you're still very young. when you get older, you would probably realized it was great that you did not enter into one in such a young age. my tip, get to know the girls around and search yourself what kind of personality fits well with yours. look into the qualities of the girl you would want to date too. lastly, i view dating and relationships as a step to getting married, if you're not ready yet, don't push it! God bless! =p Post Reply
View Profile History	Never been in a relationship Posted : 14 Mar, 2010 09:08 PM Wow, Thanks for the advice everyone it sure means a lot! Post Reply