Author	Thread: Can men and women be 'Just Friends'?
Admin	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 19 Feb, 2010 06:35 PM On my profile, I have a picture of me hugging a friend. About 5 guys have sent me a private message asking who the guy is and why I have him on my profile. I always respond and let them know that he is a friend and I put it there just like I would have if my friend had been a woman. I got to thinking, I had several male friends before I got married, but my then husband didn't like me hanging out with them alone. So, they all fell away til I had none. I resented it at the time and I think I would do it different next time. I can't deny that I have had male friends where there is underlying sexual tension. What do you all think? Can a man and woman have a close intimate relationship and be just friends? Post Reply
pluc View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 12:13 AM Ok 1babygirl Here is my take on it from a guys prespective. I do not think its is really good unless the relationship is defined right up front. I mean if you are attracted to a guy then you should not have be great friends with that person unless it could become more. I have a lot of female friends. On in particular comes to mind. I would not date her for any reason at any time and the feeling is mutual. We are very close. But make sure I am never seen with her in public because we are too close. I don't want my good to be evil spoken of. SO not I do not think it is good unless you have a very clear understanding. As for your husband, if I were him I would be the only male best friend you would need besides Jesus. I would be you all and all outside of the Lord. So I applaud the husband that says no way this has got to stop. Watch yourself girl you don't want to run off a good man for a few busta friends. Pluc Post Reply
View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 01:07 AM Mr. Pluc! Why did I just KNOW you would be the first to comment? How does your mutual woman friend feel about your "undercover" relationship and you not wanting to be seen out with her? And are you saying that you are going to get rid of really close friend completely when you find the woman that will be your wife? Why can't you have both? Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 12:04 PM babygirl, I see nothing wrong with a man and a women being close friends. Growing up I had a lot of close female friends, however when you look at the ideaology of finding someone, becoming friends with them, and taking that relationship to the next level...I think that you run the risk of there being that temptation of making someone who is supposed to be strictly a friend and wanting them to become more. This could be why your ex-husband had issues with you hanging out with other males. In his eyes, he should have been your best friend. It is possible, I think, for a man to become insecure if his wife is finding that female/male connection with another male. I don't have too much experience with this, so I'm just offering what I have experienced. Post Reply
View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 22 Feb, 2010 07:12 AM At this point, based on experience, I'd have to say no. I've tried to be "just friends" with many woman and they end up wanting more or I find out they secretly would like to become more. Woman get attached very easily and guys on the other hand can become buds with just about anyone. I only see having friends of the opposite sex working out when you're both involved in a deep relationship with other people. Then it'd be more of a couples to couples thing I suppose. Other than that, woman get way too attached!!! Post Reply
pluc View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 23 Feb, 2010 01:53 PM I agree my brother it is because you are the man that they get so attached to you. So in that case you have to watch yourself and who you befriend. I think each person will have to make decision and know their heart. Remember scripture says to guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life. So watch how your heart turns. Post Reply
View Profile History	Can men and women be 'Just Friends'? Posted : 5 Apr, 2010 10:09 AM That's funny! I'm pretty sure that was sarcasticallly but thanks!!! And for the record, i've found yet another friend who's revieled that it's hard to just be my friend. It's flattering and frustrating all in one!! And I made sure the rules and boundries were well comprehended on both ends like you stated previously. A relationship is 75% friendship and some don't know where that line is that crosses over into relationship. Post Reply