Author	Thread: Scare to try online friendships-
HMS3381 View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 05:28 AM Like many of you I joined recently, just today discovered the chat forum, and frankly I'm intimidated because many of the fellows want younger , slender attractive women and they enumerated few qualities of the heart and character, its not fair because the majority of us are not like that! I'm not a beauty queen ,have a few extra lbs , some well earned wrinkles and:rolleyes: almost 55! I'm content with who I'm, Love God and Jesus , I'm loyal,loving giving , driven,smart and REAL ( it almost sound rhetoric) but is who I'm. so the question Brothers is what is where does this leave me and the many mature sisters like? who do not meet the Barbie's expectations? should I leave? :waving: Post Reply
Write4Jesus View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 05:45 AM Hi Sisters & Brothers in Christ, I am 51 years "young" and like myself more now than I ever have. I bet many of you feel the same way. Although the virtual scene can be all about looks (and the false fronts many put out there) I have made the choice to be myself. I am not perfect and although I do love Barbie, I have recognized that God didn't make me a plastic doll with inhuman proportions. Be yourself! I have a sneaky suspicion that you are absolutely wonderful the way God made you and I know there is someone out there who will love you "just the way you are." If you try to present a facade it will crumble and eventually the truth will come out. I've found many men and women put "old" pictures of themselves online (10 and more years old) or pictures of their daughters (can you believe that ladies) presented as themselves. If you eventually want to meet someone and they see you face to face, there will be the problem of not being the person you presented and you have started a potential friendship on a lie. You are marvelous at this age, weight and time! God didn't make a mistake and there are people who will like you for you. Write a profile sharing all the wonderful traits your friends love about you, be honest about your interests (no matter how different), there might be someone out there looking for someone to share that interest. Most importantly, learn to like yourself. Don't let others opinions of you take your self esteem away. You are a precious child of God. Don't forget it! Blessings, Jo Rae Bottom line, I'm not sure if the online world works for me but one thing I know for sure, I'm only good at being myself. Post Reply
View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 05:53 AM dear joe rae, awesome post lady.. nuttin like bein yourself cause cant nobody else be ya.. smile ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 05:54 AM dear hms, welcome to the forums.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 06:06 AM MY SISTER, I BELIEVE THAT JO RAE GAVE A FANTASTIC ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTIONS AND I SECOND ALL THAT SHE SAID. PLEASE MEDITATE ON THE VERSE BELOW. PROVERBS 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. :angel:GOD BLESS:angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 06:21 AM PLEASE ALSO SEE THE THREAD BELOW, THERE ARE SOME USEFUL COMMENTS IN THAT THREAD. http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=2577&forum_sub_cat_id=9&start=0 Post Reply
View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 06:27 AM dear jo rae, you have a wonderful gift of expressing yourself well. and you gave very very good words of wisedom to hms i believe it was.. oh and sorry i misspelt your name on the post.. im terrible for that ... takes me a few times to see it for i get it right most times hehe.. ole cattle aka keith Post Reply
HMS3381 View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 04:30 PM Aloha Thank you for your response with great advice and words of encouragement! Is precisely the lack of honesty what I find disconcerting as I read some profiles and as you point out the practices that have developed ( posting old pics, or someone else�s etc..) I moved to Hawaii recently and haven�t found a church ,what drew me to this site was the word �Christian � and the need to reinforce a healthy sense of community (and, interestingly, the more connected I feel, the higher my degree of generosity and compassion) naive maybe , but for me the word �CHRISTIAN� implies all of what is taught in the Bible . Anyway I�ve realized if I started to talk honestly I would get honest responses which I did and appreciate Thank for answering and participating! Love in Christ in need of friends Flora ps I will update my profile soon Post Reply
HMS3381 View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 2 Aug, 2009 04:32 PM Thank you ! and good day to you too Post Reply
really_54 View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 3 Aug, 2009 09:57 AM Dear Write4Jesus I enjoyed your comments and advice...but... how does one talk to you if your "Mail Settings" prevent so? Blessings, Really_54 who is really 55 Post Reply
Chellegirl View Profile History	Scare to try online friendships- Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 11:35 AM Hi there! I know exactly what you're talking about and I'm just 39. It's amazing how shallow so many men are about a woman's size. They can love everything else about her but if she is just not the right size they throw everything else out the window so to speak. You hang in there! God has that special man out there that is looking for a special lady just like you. He will be willing to accept and love you just the way you are. Until then, hold your head high and make new friends with those who you find common interests. Wish you the very best in your search!! Post Reply

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