Author	Thread: Hey - Barbara from OKC!
Barb77 View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 27 May, 2020 05:42 PM Hello. I've never been on anything like this before. I thought it would be nice to be with like minded people. I'm certainly not finding that on match, & even Christians on match are making fun of me for abstinence after divorce & waiting until marriage. Maybe I can find people who think the same. Being obedient to God is proving to be difficult for sure. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 28 May, 2020 05:03 AM Hi Barbara, my name is Matthew and I am from South Africa. I wanted to share a couple of things with you in response to what you wrote. Firstly, your obedience to God in abstaining from sex until you are married is so refreshing and inspiring. You are leading a life obedient to God and that shows that you love God and proves that He is the guiding influence for you. Secondly, the only thing you need to take away from people making fun of you is to know how much we need to pray for these people. It tells us in the Bible that we will be persecuted for the name of Christ. Matthew 5:44 tells us, But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 1 Peter 3:17 tells us For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God's will, than for doing evil. We glorify God when doing these things! 1 Peter 4:16 Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name. I hope this helps. Stay strong in your faith! Post Reply
steadychevy^ View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 28 May, 2020 05:55 AM Like Matty I want to commend you with your stance and beliefs. It is a rare and precious thing. I've only entered the on line dating thing less than a month ago. The first site (highly recommended for Christians) showed the zodiac sign as the first thing. Even on CDFF many only go to church occasionally or infrequently. I pray you and a man who loves you like Jesus loved his church and who can you love and honour find each other. I pray the same for myself. Post Reply
dance2cedm View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 1 Jun, 2020 07:46 PM When I first saw "from OKC," I thought you meant OKCupid! (Well, OKCupid is owned by Match, and you were on Match...) I've been on OKCupid since 2012. What I like about OKCupid is that they have many questions people answer, which can tell you more than a profile typically does. One question is, "Do you have to sleep with someone before you will marry them?" I've learned that the majority of people who say they are Christian and it's important, and talk about how much they love God and all their church involvement, answer that question yes. CDFF doesn't ask such questions, so you're on your own to find out. Based on my experience at OKCupid, I would say you should assume they expect sex before marriage unless you find out otherwise. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 5 Jun, 2020 07:55 PM Hey Barbara. Continue in your path, and stick to those golden choices. You're doing great. If it gets difficult, that's just the other nature (evil), playing games with you. So, hold on, cry it out if you have to, because we're battling princes and principalities - look that up in the Bible. Also, I've realised there are some seriously rude people on this site, so please be ready to get emotionally attacked, in other words - have a plan. Regarding sexual purity, take all things to God in prayer. He already knows when we'll fail, get weak, discouraged and so on; but, it's our choice to go to Him, for strength. Congratulations for sharing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 5 Jun, 2020 07:56 PM Hey Barbara. Continue in your path, and stick to those golden choices. You're doing great. If it gets difficult, that's just the other nature (evil), playing games with you. So, hold on, cry it out if you have to, because we're battling princes and principalities - look that up in the Bible. Also, I've realised there are some seriously rude people on this site, so please be ready to get emotionally attacked, in other words - have a plan. Regarding sexual purity, take all things to God in prayer. He already knows when we'll fail, get weak, discouraged and so on; but, it's our choice to go to Him, for strength. Congratulations for sharing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 7 Jul, 2020 03:30 PM Could have just said you didn't want to talk. Sorry for trying to be a friend. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 7 Jul, 2020 03:30 PM Could have just said you didn't want to talk. Sorry for trying to be a friend. Post Reply
PJ_Jill_ofAll_Trades View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 16 Nov, 2020 03:34 PM Wow. Just wow And no They are clearly incorrect for lying to you to lead you astray Doesn’t sound like that can happen 👍 Clearly not from God others telling you not to remain celibate after a divorce Physical passion Emotional or mental are to be THOROUGHLY enjoyed WITHIN a marriage between husband and wife—the ultimate love, the ultimate relationship God made for HUSBAND/WIFE Those telling you that are trying to use your body...the temple of the Lord for their selfish desires, knowing your platform and strong beliefs I’m guessing the snakes are thinking no chance of sexually transmitted diseases if you have obeyed God in this respect. I have counseled women on abuse, trauma, God, values, exploitation .....ANYONE telling you that sex outside of marriage is a go....definitely is not a believer...it is clearly written that is sin And sin is death Thanks, PJ Post Reply
PJ_Jill_ofAll_Trades View Profile History	Hey - Barbara from OKC! Posted : 16 Nov, 2020 03:39 PM One more thing; Don’t expose yourself so much As in don’t proffer your precise situation or experiences on match That gives predators a rise Excited to see if they can also bypass and defeat the challenge Don’t give them any ammo to start with No blues about personal sex life for sure If a man is indeed a Christian he will respect and expect boundaries Not cross them or persuade you too Let them talk Make a list For your qualities Personality Character traits And if you have that you can see clearly if they are in line with the Ephesians man Ask God for discernment To see them through his eyes Post Reply