Author	Thread: How do other users deal with this particular issue?
isaiah36 View Profile History	How do other users deal with this particular issue? Posted : 15 Feb, 2017 12:51 PM I recently joined CDFF a few days ago and although it's free service there is a drawback. When setting up your profile you can stipulate the minimum and maximum age. About 95% of the available Christian women in the city I live in apply this to their profile. As a result I have limited options as I'm unable to contact any that I like. It's disheartening as a Christian man as there are women whose profile I like but due to their maximum age limit I'm unable to contact them. I'm a 36 year old male and the women whose profiles I've pursued are around 22 years of age and upwards. They would for example limit the maximum age to 28 for any potential suitor thereby blocking me! I'm not saying it's wrong just tad bit unfair. I know people can and possibly do deliberately change their age on their profile to circumvent this problem but I'm an honest person and as a Christian man I always want to do the right thing. It's such a shame that because you're a certain age (in my case 36) you can't contact a women who is say 23 or 25. It's ridiculous and just makes meeting prospective and potential partners impossible! I've had a bit of a moan but I felt I had to get it off my chest. Please reply and give me your two cents worth!! Post Reply
View Profile History	How do other users deal with this particular issue? Posted : 20 Feb, 2017 04:47 AM Well, there are other paid websites where there are more members and you can contact younger women such as eHarmony and match.com. Also, you might try okcupid or POF (both of these are free). "It's such a shame that because you're a certain age (in my case 36) you can't contact a women who is say 23 or 25." I am also going to turn 36 this year, but I would not want to contact a woman who is that young, because talking to someone like that would feel like I am talking to my child. And I don't want people asking me if she is my daughter. I have seen a couple where the guy is approx. 20 years older, and they have a very big gap in terms of understanding or being on the same page. I don't want to have that issue. I want someone who is at least a little bit close to me in experience in years and maturity. I am not saying that young women are immature, but there is a difference between how a 40-year-old thinks about the world and how someone in their early 20s thinks about the world. Let's admit it, if we're single now, we might be 40 by the time we get married. So, we have to think ahead. And you're right, no 20-year-old in their right mind would marry a 40-year-old man. I just can't picture that difference in age gap. lol Well, of course, if you want to order a young bride from Russia, and you have the money, then you can buy beauty. But maybe that's not what you want to do. Post Reply
View Profile History	How do other users deal with this particular issue? Posted : 21 Feb, 2017 06:01 PM I would give you this advice.....Young girls of 22-25 do not want to date anyone 10 years older than them. They are not mature enough to handle the difference in age. Most young girls are looking for men within a 5-7 year age difference.....period. I would like to encourage you to find women 34-42 more desirable. I don't know what your age limit is. I have not gone on your profile to review your interests. I am just saying....from an OLD women-stick within 3/5 years either side of your age and you will get more interest. I have men who just turned 40 asking me out. I am 55. I gave it a try and honestly-it was not a good fit. They should be asking my daughter (32 and single) out. Not me. Good luck. Post Reply
isaiah36 View Profile History	How do other users deal with this particular issue? Posted : 27 Feb, 2017 12:04 PM Hey URMorningstar, I really appreciate your advice and feedback. When I joined CDFF it was my intention to hopefully meet a women between the age of 22 to 28. I now realise that my expectations are unattainable. Some women in this age group are mature and settled and I think some of them could potentially deal with the age difference. The age difference between my parents was significant but they genuinely loved each other. Many man and women have successful relationships where there is a noticeable difference in age but it shouldn't be a barrier to finding someone to love. I could contact women in my own age group but I don't want to be contacting women older than me! I'm not saying older women who are above 40 are unappealing, it's just that men naturally desire women who are usually a few years younger than themselves. Hearing your experience about dating men who are younger was interesting. I know when people are at difference stages of their lives, that this can cause potential difficulties and issues but I think if people are willing to compromise and make allowances then the age difference wouldn't be a stumbling block. Unfortunately I haven't the benefit of previous relationship experience as I've never met the right women. I've sadly never been in a relationship in my life but not because I haven't asked women out. I've made a concerted effort and tried on-line dating which so far has achieved nothing. I've asked out women I've liked and then been rejected. I've asked colleagues to set me up on blind dates but to no avail. I love God first and if he plans for me to meet the right women then it will happen in his time and according to his will and not mine. Incidentally if your daughter is still single I would definitely ask her out!! ;) I'm a hopeless romantic at heart!! Post Reply