Author	Thread: Singleness in Church
NoSelfie View Profile History	Singleness in Church Posted : 30 Mar, 2016 05:58 PM I am 45 and have never been married. I am discouraged in attending church because there are few singles in churches. Some married couples I can tell don't want me around, and I don't have marital status in common with the major of people. I also don't have children, so beside my Christian faith, I don't have much in common with other Christians in churches. To add to the loneliness and social awkwardness I experience church, many sermons are about marriage and family. While the main reason Christian go to church is to worship God, the other things I have already mentioned are also significant factors in people's decisions to attend any given church or to move on to another church. They also play a factor in some cases with whether or not a person even attends church. For singles, the social aspect I believe is really significant in terms wanting to have fellowship with other Christians and to feel a sense of belonging. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how a single person can feel comfortable in attending church? Post Reply
CarlAHartwell View Profile History	Singleness in Church Posted : 30 Mar, 2016 09:00 PM Hello Sister. I am touched by your story, you are right that the main and absolutely overriding feature of any service ought to be to plainly worship God. If the church you attend is indeed more interested in pandering to its couples, then perhaps you should consider finding a different church as this is certainly not common to all churches. In the mean time though, commit this matter in prayer to the Lord, the prayer of a righteous man (woman) availeth much and it may be that you are pleasantly surprised when you next attend. I pray that the Lord our God gives you strength and joins you to your husband in the quickness of time in Jesus's mighty name. Amen. Post Reply
JamesEG View Profile History	Singleness in Church Posted : 6 Apr, 2016 04:58 PM Hi NoSelfie, You make an excellent point about the focus of many churches upon families and children. One possible solution is to attend a large church that has a singles group. If your town doesn't have such a church, the nearest large town/city probably has at least one church that includes a singles Sunday School class and activities for single adults, even singles in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. However, as one who has never married and has no children and am in my 50s, I know that in this age group there are relatively few singles who have never married and lack children. While I can and do develop friendships with other singles who are divorced and/or have children I know it is nice to have single friends who have never married and don't have children. I meet this need by keeping in contact with friends from schools I attended, etc., who remain single. Though we now live in different towns, we remain friends via online contact, etc., and occasionally meet. Perhaps you have one or more good friends from high school, college, work, a former job, a former town, etc., who remain single to keep in contact with. I hope my suggestions are helpful for you, and I pray for God's perfect will for you in your search. If you follow God's calling, I know that God can and will lead you in the right direction, whatever that may be. Romans 8:28 might be a good verse to keep in mind. Post Reply