Author	Thread: Pursing Christian Women
simple63 View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 27 Mar, 2009 12:38 PM How do Christian men feel they should treat the women they are pursing for a Relationship or for Marriage Post Reply
View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 29 Mar, 2009 06:12 AM I personally believe the appropriate way is to just to talk and get to know the person. I get countless messages from people asking for my phone number, and I have never even said BOO to them! It really is a sure fire way to scare someone off. I think the main thing is, to be patient and careful. You could " click " with a person in two days, it is possible. However, jumping the gun is never a good idea. ( As if my cartoon drawing here isn't enough of an indication ) :P Good luck Post Reply
View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 29 Mar, 2009 08:56 AM I agree Ms.Tango. Seems everyone is in a hurry to get a number,yahoo ID,or email. That is a big no-no when you first start talking to someone on a dating site. For me,that is a big turn off when asking for my number is the first thing out of a guys mouth. I understand people would much rather hear a voice instead of typing in a box. But,be respecful of a woman's wishes on not exchanging this personal information. After all,you can first chat,see if there is a click from there,and when the two decide they have spoken eough by 'text' then they will make that decision of exchanging numbers. (and words can say/tell so much!). Don't rush or push a person with this information...it makes you seem desperate and one thing a person does not want is a desperate,pushy person. If they push and continue with the number thing...they will usually push for more...such as meeting you,etc. Take your time,get to know them. Also,a safe way of communicating back and forth is through microphone on Yahoo instant messenger or any of the other messengers. You do not have to give out any numbers and it is safe and you can hear a voice. Let the lady choose...be a gentleman and respect her and her decisions on these things. We like that in a guy! :applause: Thanks!! Post Reply
vitalunion View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 29 Mar, 2009 11:23 AM Hi Gals, In defense of us guys out there and to give you an objective view into our minds.... Internet dating is like "reverse dating"!! It seems like you spend weeks and weeks with hours typing back and forth to each other only to eventually share numbers with trepidation, which then may lead to a meeting and God knows maybe even a handshake... only to finally meet in person and see if you have any chemistry??!!!! LOLOLOL Whatever did you do when meeting people was by going to the grocery store, or a club, or a function somewhere???? It cracks me up how some people are so afraid to share their personal (but anonymous) email, yet they would in the past have thought nothing of dancing with a complete stranger in their hometown, (who could problably follw them home afterwards!! LOLOL) We have let our technology so seperate us in fear and distance that we think it will somehow miraculously show us who is real or not. I think the funniest thing I ever saw was a group of individual people all sitting at an internet cafe, texting & emailing others in cyberspace; while right around them, there were a dozen REAL PEOPLE sitting right next to them, whom they could have perfectly decent conversations with!! :-O LOL!!! I don't believe any amount of emailing is going to be a barometer of who you really want to meet. If you initially find the person attractive, and interesting, then why not share your cell number??? It may be the best way to know who is truly real or just a scammer from another country!!!??? Just some thoughts fom a real, honest, genuine, Christian, tenderhearted, Godly man (who you will probably never call...oh well.) God bless and keep you in His perfect peace and love anyhow! In His Grip, Ron Post Reply
vitalunion View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 29 Mar, 2009 11:27 AM P.S. You can still chat via cell phone and remain perfectly anonymous by dialing *67 just before the number and that way your number does not show up in the caller ID of the person you call. Simple and safe. God bless! Post Reply
simple63 View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 29 Mar, 2009 01:04 PM I agree with the ladies, get to know a person via emails or the microphone or instant messaging. Cell phone or not, if you want to win a woman's heart respect her wishes and have patience a phone number will come in time but let her be the first to offer it, or could even say when you are ready maybe we can share numbers and email addresses Post Reply
mpirosjr View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 28 Jun, 2009 03:54 PM Just saw this post and don't know if it's still active but if a person types and feels they have a communication connection there is nothing wrong with typing even months, or years. God sets a timeframe and if we follow we are rewarded for it. You have the right attitude about numbers, e-mails, etc. Anyone who feels they care for a woman or man should be willing to wait. Post Reply
Merilee View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 26 Aug, 2009 10:02 PM Hi All; Interesting topic. You got me thinking about my ways of getting to know folks better... i'm a phone person. I find it difficult to tell much about someone through a one dimensional medium like the net or even skype. I prefer the personalness (is that a word) of good old Alexander Graham Bell. After a few emails I'd move to the telephone before facebook or an email address. From someones voice a whole bunch can be determined, moreso then in letters or short communications (fb chat) although ones innards might come out sometimes in fun ways with humor and such on those. I've found that letters can leave out important data like honesty, mood, sarcasm, genuine character, personality traits. It is easy manipulative in writing, a bit harder when it's voice to voice early on. Meeting takes a lot of thought, especially if it's LD. Thank u for bringing this up Meri Post Reply
View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 17 Jan, 2010 10:34 AM Very well spoken! I totally agree! I love the truth and transparency that you spoke. We are to love with God's love and not be so suspicious. God will let us know when to beware if we will listen. " Fear brings torment, but perfect love casts out fear" Post Reply
View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 22 May, 2010 06:13 AM Excellent point. Post Reply
Amyo View Profile History	Pursing Christian Women Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 03:43 PM Hi Ron, I love what you have to say here. Great insight, and well explained. Gave me a new look at being so afraid to share that private info. Amy Post Reply

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