Author	Thread: Am I wrong???
Admin	Am I wrong??? Posted : 13 Feb, 2013 07:32 PM So I have been separated for 1.5 years now and I'm just on here wanting to chat and meet people just in case we are that match and then after my divorce we can take it further. I am not trying to have a relationship with anyone. My ex cheated on me while I was in Iraq and did it very viciously. When I say that she had cheated the same night she came home to me in bed. So as a Christian I forgave her but I couldn't forget.It's true what the Lord said. Don't marry anyone who is not a Christian they will bring you down. Anyway hope to hear back. Post Reply
MikeWheeler View Profile History	Am I wrong??? Posted : 14 Feb, 2013 06:01 PM no. having been in the military i know how it is out there. military life i mean. and, there are way too many women out there just for the money, and non for god. i mean, it's one thing to say she repented. but, you can only speak in retrospect, it was not a great decision to marry someone without the respect for the covenant of marriage. but, isn't that what mistakes are for? learning from them! move on bro... explore the pain, connect with healthy walkers in christ, embrace the mistake to spread the wealth of wisdom gained by it. Post Reply
Fuzzybluetoesox View Profile History	Am I wrong??? Posted : 14 Feb, 2013 07:44 PM Are you wrong? Wow, that's a loaded question. :glow: IMHO, in theory, yes, you are wrong. You simply are NOT single until you are divorced, so looking for a friendship that could turn into a "real" relationship after the ink is dry on the divorce papers might seem logical but you are technically still married. (As a Christian to me the Bible verse telling us to "abstain from all appearance of evil" would apply in a case like this.) I'm not trying to whack you over the head with a legalism stick, though, and I feel much empathy for you. 1.5 years separated is a painfully long time. After my ex told me he was leaving me to pursue another woman, our separation lasted 6 months and that felt like an eternity. Let me add, however, that I have a close personal friend who was in a situation very similar to yours and even though I always caution people DON'T RUSH INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP, my friend met a woman about 2 months prior to his actual divorce. They became friends and eventually married. He didn't go looking for her, though. I don't know. In the end, we all have to do the same thing. Pray about how God wants us to handle certain things in our lives and then strive to be obedient. What you ultimately choose to do is really just between you and God. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I wrong??? Posted : 21 Feb, 2013 11:44 AM Yes, you're wrong. The Bible says you can divorce if your spouse is unfaithful. If this woman is toxic, then leave her Before you seek someone else. Meeting someone new IS an emotional affair, whether we like to admit it or not. So, rather than join your wife in sin, do the right thing. Obviously you knew it was wrong when you questioned it. Honestly, how often do we question wonderful, Godly decisions? Better yet, how many married men in the Bible had "female friends" Not a single one. Only Christ hung out with women and he was single. Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I wrong??? Posted : 23 Feb, 2013 03:58 PM Forgiving is forgetting, just keep that in mind!!! if youre not healed how come you think you could work for Gods kingdom healing others that lived the same situation?Have this clear....she was just a simple human, someone that makes mistakes...I lived the same but God restore me because I asked him, God please i dont want to be a divorced woman full of bitterness... Stay blessed Post Reply
View Profile History	Am I wrong??? Posted : 4 May, 2013 02:02 AM . Post Reply