Author	Thread: Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single.
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 10 Nov, 2011 04:49 AM It is common for people to accept a situation they are in and believe it is God's will for them just because they don't see anything changing. I have learnet the difference between need or desire. Our body needs the nutrients of food in order to function well, but sometimes we desire a certain food just for the pleasure. Other times we have such an urge to eat certain food when it is not a physical need or healthy desire to enjoy it, but an emotional need manifesting in the physical. The Bible is very clear about God creating woman from man and for man and they shall be attracted to each other to become a complete (good) being. It is important to have a healthy, a godly desire for a life partner, not just for the pleasure and specially not to satisfy our emotional needs. It is God's design for us to join the opposite gender, so don't accommodate in your singleness accepting it is God's will for you when you deeply desire to be in pair equally yoked. Examine yourself, seeking God for revelations to see if your expectations of the other person comes from an emotional need caused by wounds you received in your soul. If so seek healing by opening your heart to God and coming to a place of complete forgiveness to those who hurt you. If your wound is very deep you might need someone to minister to you. One example of unhealthy desire is when unconsciously we are attracted to someone who has something very much in common with our mother, father or previous partner who failed to provide what was natural for us to receive from that relationship. Have you ever felt attracted to someone who physically remind you of your previous partner? You get a good feeling thinking, this is a better one, who will satisfy you on what the other one couldn't. You raise your expectations very high but it is a big mistake. What are you really looking for in a life partner? Man and woman are very distinct with their strengths and softness, physically and also in our personality. Once we are emotionally healthy we will be attracted to those who match us, where we will complement the other weakness with our strength and vice-versa. After coming to a place of being emotionally healthy see if your desire to have a life partner is still there or not anymore. God has a purpose for us in each stage of our lives, as single or as a couple. I am not saying you should only get into a relationship when you are emotionally healthy. You might never be completely healthy, just be careful, examine your feelings and your motives, seek the Lord in everything. The way you respond or react to every person in your life, tell a lot about your emotional and even spiritual condition. God created us beautiful and pure, but the contaminants of life in this world have changed our appearance. Only God can refine us, this only happens when we allow Him to do so, if we resist we will just burn and hold on tight to those contaminants. Everything works out for the good of those who loves and trusts the Lord. God bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 10 Nov, 2011 08:34 AM thank you for the great post Christina, I so agree with it. After 14 years of being single I "feel" I would be a good mate but I leave the final judging of that up to the Lord;) This site is not real busy is it. But I can't see paying money to sites that charge for the same opportunities we have here:) Someone said that folks that "pay" for meeting someone are more serious about it but I don't necessarily agree. It could be they just have the money to blow and think it's better since it costs, LOL!! Anyway, your topic is perfect for where I am today:) Hoping to meet someone but yet, only wanting God's will in my life:) God bless, ysic, Denise Post Reply
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 10 Nov, 2011 09:02 AM Hi Denise Glad to know you have peace in your heart that you are ready to receive your other half. May the Lord look upon you with great favor and grant you the desire of His heart for you. Be blessed! Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 10 Nov, 2011 01:24 PM Thanks Christine, the very same to you!! Does this site ever pick up much? I am hoping so;) God bless your day, Denise, ysic Post Reply
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 15 Nov, 2011 03:50 AM I appreciate this post being read, but I have no idea of how you readers feel about it. I would love to know at least if you agree or do not agree with the statements. If you don't, it would enrich me to know about your convictions and experiences. Thank you and be blessed! Post Reply
1newguy View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 16 Nov, 2011 07:18 PM I agree. We should be "healthy" emotionally and seeking marriage for godly not selfish reasons. And as a man, I believe we should be spiritually mature as possible. There is a lot of responsibility before the Lord in being the spiritual leader and it should be taken very seriously. Blessings Post Reply
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 17 Nov, 2011 12:46 AM Thank you for your reply. I would love to see more men being aware of their role as a spiritual leader in a family. There are many people who are shallow christians taking grace for granted and not seeking deep healing, having the manifestations of their deep wounds affecting their lives and being ignorant of their origin. Psalm 139:23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Shalom! Christiane Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness (part 2) To be or not to be Single. Posted : 21 Nov, 2011 09:40 PM Hello Christiane! :glow: Very nicely written there sister! God bless You! and...I wish you well...with your desires of your heart! laketime Post Reply