Author	Thread: Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode
pluc View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 05:57 AM Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Hello all of you seekers and those being sought. Remember this from the words of a thinking photographer. People do not view you and your life in video like you do. You see a video gives you lots of information. It tells you what to think. Whereas a still picture freezes the frame and captures a moment of time. It leaves a lot to the imagination. So one person looks in the eyes and sees beauty, another person sees wisdom, and another love. So when people look at you they can not just keep staring that is rude. So that sub consiously take a still photo of you use it to make decision about who you are, what you do, how you act, and where you are going. They make these decisions based on their view point not yours. They look at your life through their lens not yours. WAKE UP THAT IS HOW THE WORLD WORKS. Life is not fair. So in order to win you must show them the truth about you. Show them that you have it together, that you are cool, that you are confident, that you are successful, with your dress, your smile, your hair, and your demeanor. So look at your pictures and see what they are saying. Remember a picture is truly worth a thousand words. Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 12:30 PM What's up edw! In all honesty, I really just like arguing and being contrary with P-Luc. I admit I get a lot of pleasure from that. I could have passed this post by, but....:rolleyes: I understand all that you are saying and yes, in my opinion you do have valid points. I actually really love this type of venue because of our different experiences and the way we are wired, we all have different opinions that at least if only in our own minds, are valid. I'm not so slow that I don't understand the way the world works and how our looks are the first thing that are judged. I actually acknowledged to Pluc that for most of the post I agreed with him. There is a freedom that I experience in that I present myself the way I am. Since I'm alway clean, hair done (usually, and when it's not I don't take pictures) :laugh:, and have on the clothes from my closet, this is who I am. You can accept me or not. I feel no pressure to have the majority of the guys here find me attractive. God is fully in control of my life and all situations because I yield them to Him. In essence what I was saying to Pluc, is that the Bible is our guide to live in the world but not be of the world. For example, there are jobs I shouldn't have gotten because of my qualifications, but I did, because of God's favor. What I'm saying is that I don't subscribe to the world's system of getting what I want, most definitely not obtaining a spouse. God is my source and I depend on His might and power and His moving on my behalf. Following and being obedient to the Spirit will lead us(my boo and me) together in due season. I agree that men are visual and people judge you by first impressions until they go deeper find those impressions to be true or false. That means my boo will 'visually' like what he sees and will be interested in getting to know me, since what I look like is only part of who I am. Concerning tattoos and piercings, I've never felt strongly either way because it's never come up. I have no tattoos and have only my ears pierced. I guess I figure it's either all wrong or alright. My church is located in the 'hood' and every year my Pastor calls for a dress down day on Easter and Christmas because many people only go to church on those days and won't come if they think they have to dress up. So we wear jeans and gym shoes and advertise it and welcome all. I think your opinion is shaped by how you were raised. My understanding is that man is looking on the outside and I don't think God is concerned about anything but the status of our heart. Post Reply
pluc View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 12:45 PM Ok guys so since I started all this I will respond once again. First of all to the gentlemen from the sticks. Preach brother I love all your points. You are the man to me. By the way your advice to the guy that had not been in a relationship was awesome. To you women out there. Take a note at how the men are saying your looks matter and the women are saying your heart matters. THAT IS MY POINT WOMEN. We look at things differently. We want our women to look good. EVERY MAN WANTS THAT PERIOD. And for you men out there. EVERY WOMAN WANTS HER MAN TO HAVE THE RIGHT HEART. They are not just looking at looks like we do. That is not all we look at it is just the first thing we look at. Then if we have the right heart we look at the rest. You could say we look at it backwards at first but we do judge it based on the heart and character first. BUT THE FIRST THING WE MEN SEE IS HOW YOU LOOK. for you 1babygirl. You are presenting who you really are but a lot of women in our christian culture are not. They think beauty is over rated. But yet they want man with good character and also good looks. Yes they will settle for a not so good looking man with the right character but they want a good looking man too, if he is available with everything. So 1 babygirl stop preaching that super spiritual stuff and allow these women to present themselves as the georgous women that they are. Post Reply
idaholadylovinggod View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:02 PM get em baby girl.... I can't wait to read... Cat:applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:29 PM Glad to see ya P-luc. I was starting to experience withdrawal. :rolleyes: I am going to attempt to stop 'preaching' even though I am called to teach and I will try to squash the Holy Spirit even though this is a Christian site. No, I really won't. :laugh: Just trying to rile you Pluc. For real, I don't totally disagree with the facts and statistics you are quoting. I do wish some men of depth would come forward to refute your assertion that all men are looking at the outer shell of women first, at all times. I believe they are out here. My question goes to back what we first started talking about the first time we met on these forums. Who are these beautiful people and the not so nice-looking men women will settle for and all that? I just have a problem with your EMPHASIS on this standard of beauty that we women must aspire to. It sounds like you are saying that these not so good looking people are in some way inferior to who you consider beautiful and unless they do what you say they will have to settle for less. Beauty is the eye of the beholder. Believe it or not, we are all beautiful to someone. What is this standard of beauty? Please tell me because I am dying to know. Please tell the women here how they should wear their hair. Are jeans okay? No? Should we put on a evening gown? Should we turn around, give you a look over the shoulder pose so you can see what we look like from the back (and you know what I mean)? Is that the only way to win you and other men who are going to pass by our profiles otherwise? I say keep passing by until you find the ones that meet your standard and may you beautiful people who project the 'right' image be very happy together. I just late last night before I got off the computer, had a 'fine' guy to me, write me to say after reading my profile he was intrigued and wanted the opportunity to get to know me better. THAT'S what I'm talking about! Like I said, everyone is beautiful to someone. Post Reply
wingsofaneagle View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:34 PM I understand tha men are visual by nature. However, the heart of a man/woman tells much more about him than any photo that he presents. I want someone that takes pride in their appearance (i.e someone who brushes their teeth, combs their hair, and has good grooming habits) but they don't necessarily have to be Brad Pitt to grab my attention. I also don't understand the bit about you not wanting babygirl to quote deep spiritual philosophies. By nature we as christians are to delve deeply into the word for our outlook because the word is a true portrait of God in black and white. Also, the as far as tatoos and piercings go those are just outside markings. If we as Christins can't look at all people with love who are people suppsed to turn to? What if that tatoos and piercings were made before they got into church? So again we must look to the heart of a person to be a good part of the barometer we use when chosing a mate. I speak from experience. I dated a very good looking man who treated me poorly. So I am not nearly as driven by looks as I was before. Also the person who foretold of the arrival of Jesus was John the Baptist. This man was unothodox. He cried in the wilderness, ate honey and locust al thel while wearing animal skins. He was not the most obvous choice to herald the coming Saviour. So there is my opiion for what it is worth. Oh yeah babygirl rocks!:rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:37 PM To Idaholady, I hope I made you proud! :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:37 PM Thanks Pluc, and Babygirl, 1 more thought while I'm still thinkin' about this: A lot of women say they don't go after men just because he may look good to them. They aren't as shallow as men, they look at what's on the inside. Well, that sounds good on paper and is a very noble concept, an admirable trait. BUT....... there's no way you can honestly tell me that if a woman saw Jamunji Man out there she would go all "Axe" over him 'cause he was a beautiful person deep down. The first thing she'd do is make him take a bath, cut his hair and change clothes. Like they say, beauty may be skin deep, but ugly goes all the way to the bone! LOL, just kidding. I personally think it's not only how a person feels about themself, how they present themselves, how they carry themselves, their attitudes that make them attractive--yes that's a great big part of it-- but you've got to acknowledge a million Revlon commercials can't be wrong or they'd be broke by now. Men & Women are attacted by physical appearance. It's an achile's heel, but it's true. It may be shallow, hypocritical, or mean. But it's the way of life. I'm not saying now to go get all botoxed, dolled up, lipo'd,etc. Just make the best with what you have. Make an effort. Even Phillis Dillar tried. I'm ugly as dirt but I make the best with what I have. I make an effort, not only because I represent my family name, but I represent all children of God. No, God doesn't care how you look, He made you, He is your Creator. But, people do care. They do judge, they do compare you with others. THEY are the ones you seek companionship on earth with. As a Christian, you should already have God in your life by now; you are seeking Human companship- so make yourself look nice! "That's all I gotta say 'bout that" :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:43 PM Oh man! This is getting good and I've got to go! I will be back though to answer Edw and anyone else who is speaking directly to me. Thanks Wings, you see P-luc got him some back-up. Yall jump in if they double team me! :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:46 PM edw, I see what your saying..but I cannot help thinking that God does not mind what we wear when we go to worship Him. Afterall, what He is concerned about is our heart, not our attire. I've been in both types of churches, for many years I had to wear dresses/skirts every service 3 times a week because I was in leadership and we all kind of felt the same way your feeling about the way you present yourself. Now, I'm at a church that is more casual and I have never felt so much freedom in my christian walk. The whole atmosphere is different. I measure it this way...dressing up/down will not get me closer/further from God. I feel the same about piercings/tattoos. Your right, our bodies are the temple of God but those things will not keep us from relationship with Him. Blessings Riveroflife Post Reply
View Profile History	Be aware that people view you in still picture mode not in video mode Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 01:52 PM Ok, I lied. Sue me. It was not my intent to dis' ugly people. I'm no Brad Pit. You are only as ugly as you think you are. The lady was correct when she said beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I did not mention stature, hair or eye color, teeth or no teeth, I was talking about general over all appearance. Clean yourself up beauty. BTW, piercings can be removed, tattoos erased or covered, and John the Baptist is more than welcome in the church I attend anytime. (Just to put this in to rile you) Post Reply

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