Author	Thread: Do I Kiss or Not Kiss
pluc View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 17 Feb, 2010 08:41 AM Ok So I had this goal. The goal was to marry a woman that I have not kissed. I want to do this because I want to stay pure. I am a full red blooded american man. african american at that. So I like (well love) what ever other man likes. But I love MY Father more and want to please Him more than anything. So I thought I won't even kiss a woman until wedding day. Nice goal right. To this date I have kept my goal. No kissing, no touching, not really any hugging. I love it because I get to enjoy the real things that are precious about a woman, her smile, her sense of humor. I mean I get excited when the right woman says my name or simply sends me her phone number to call on the email. I think wow that is great I think she likes me. But Am I being a boy or a man. I think I am a MAN come on I have 3 children so I know what is up, but I have become so sensitive to the small things a woman does. But now I want to simply kiss a woman again. Nothing else just a little something something you know. I mean I don't even have a relationship developed up to that point yet but I am thinking about it. Ok ladies and gentlemen tell me what you think. Should I change my goal or not. I have learned a lot by not kissing. I am more sensitive to the needs of the one I am with. But I know I a kiss is not a sin and it does not mean you will end up in bed. I could not see myself breaking my God's heart like that anyway. I need some help here. By the way I know what I am going to do I just want to see what you guys thinks. I will reveal my final decision at the end of the blog. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 19 Feb, 2010 02:55 PM dear folks, babygirl, moves, and mercy welcome to the forums... pluc, i would have to say that you set that goal for a reason you truely believed in.. as most folks dont actually set a goal they dont believe in and want to achieve.. thats what goals are.. and no matter whether i think its right or wrong , my question is are you a man that sets his goals and then goes after that goal and will not stop till he achives it? if so then i recon you dont kiss till youre married again.. hehe i read a book one time way back that was on how to set your goals.. and it said you can make goals that are definitely hard to reach .. sometimes even goals that are really unthinkable and hard to imagine at first.. but it said not to set a goal for yourself thats utterly unattainable .. and impossible for you to reach .. so i definitely aint settin that goal of not kissin till im married again hehe... now i dont know if im right or wrong but less it gets out of hand i dont see a problem with it.. one reason being youll feel guilty that you couldnt attain that goal.. a big letdown within yourself.. plus itll mean you quit on something you truely believed in ..and make it easier to quit again at another time.. so ifn i was you id do my best to keep the goals i set... and from now on maybe think long on the goals you are goin to set for for yourself.. also it might pay to remember theres also someone else involved in said kiss.. are you responsible for makin them stumble ? its alot to think about there.. im also reminded that we are all human and can and will make mistakes sometimes.. if ya do, then ask forgiveness and then forgive yourself as well.. i do wish you the very best.. whatever you decide. ole cattle Post Reply
pluc View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 12:28 AM Thanks Ole Cal Well I think it is about time for me to reveal my decision about this whole kissing thing. Well i started out with this goal as a protection thing to make sure I did not fall into sin. After 22 years of marriage I was afraid I would not know how to stop. While kissing one thing leads to another and before you know it you are in trouble. But one young lady asked be what are you afraid of. You act as if you can not control yourself. I mean I would not even hug at time. That made me think why am I dong this and is it realistic. So I started the forum to see what you guys thought or if you could change my mind on what I was going to do. As of today i still have not kissed a woman since I have been single. And I am proud of that. But I am getting back in the game DAWG. As soon as the right one comes along I am going to do it. Of course I think I have met a person that I would love to dive in with the first kiss, but we will see. Thanks for all your input it is changing my life for the better. You guys truly are the body of Christ. Love You Pluc Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 11:07 AM I don't think that kissing is wrong. And if you can have self control and want to kiss a woman then I think you should. Now I personally believe that a kiss says and means a lot..there a several different types of kisses, passionate, loving, and of course getting intimate. Just be careful because things can lead from one thing to another. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 21 Feb, 2010 10:39 AM For myself, I do not date unless i feel he could be a potential husband. So...I've been out 3 times in the last 7 years. If these men attempted to kiss me, I was very uncomfortable because I actually am holding out for my husband. I dont think he would like the idea of another man kissing on his wife. I think kissing is an initmate thing and shouldnt be done unless sex is on the horizon. Maybe a peck on the cheek is more of a friendly thing but anything more actually prepares your body for a physical encounter. So, I would say no. If I am physically attracted to a man, I think to myself uh oh, run the other direction. For me, the spiritual is the first connection that has to be made. Physical is important too but for ME, spiritual then physical. Abstaining from sex until marriage is our goal, we have to set our own boundaries, what works for us individually. Blessings, Riveroflife Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 21 Feb, 2010 06:20 PM dear new, welcome to the forums. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 22 Feb, 2010 05:48 AM i think your more of a man than most. i also believe there should be no hugging,,no kissing,,and no touching of any kind before marriage. the reason being it puts a person in temptation mode. i believe you are not a boy but a real man. be kind to yourself. jesus looks at the heart of things and brother thats what your doing. being obedient. Post Reply
pluc View Profile History	Do I Kiss or Not Kiss Posted : 23 Feb, 2010 01:56 PM Thanks pureinheart59 I do not know what to say. I am trying to live right but I think I am going to break down and hold some ones hand lol. I may even kiss. But I will not do anymore. I guess I have to find someone first right. Well you guys pray for me as I continue forward. Post Reply

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