Author	Thread: Is cyber romance for real?
janeau View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 06:01 AM I have been on this site for almost a year i think since one of my friends was able to have a real relationship from this site. I posted my profile, thinking that there's no harm in trying. I don't get to meet many God fearing guys this days since i don't know where they are all hiding. Most guys i meet in the dating scene are all after one thing and i'm tired of hearing and going through the same cycle. I had one cyber relationship that lasted for 4 months. but seriously, will you guys let me know if this is really possible? how are u able to sustain it for so long? I know God wants us to have patience and i'm really thankful for modern technology since we, christians, are now able to communicate to each other across all borders. Penny for your thoughts, friends...:angel: Post Reply
happyjer2911 View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 07:29 AM I think the best advise would be put your self out there. Talk on the forums. I have meet many people thru these chat areas. I would also pray about things, Is God wanting you to find your help mate on here??? My two cents Post Reply
raqsz View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 01:18 AM Its real for some but i suggest you pray hard for discernment before committing to anybody on any dating site......Always find in that man the fruit of the Spirit it will tell you his attitude and how real he is as a Christian. Dont rush into any relationship but try to know the person first......Hope this helps.......God bless! Post Reply
raqsz View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 01:18 AM Its real for some but i suggest you pray hard for discernment before committing to anybody on any dating site......Always find in that man the fruit of the Spirit it will tell you his attitude and how real he is as a Christian. Dont rush into any relationship but try to know the person first......Hope this helps.......God bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 27 Aug, 2010 07:48 AM is it fake. just a waste of time many pple not serious. it can lead also to infedility. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 11:00 AM i totally feel the same way i wonder if its for real... and i've been on this site for a few months but i've had experience with other christian dating sites and all the guy's i've met are after one thing and wont shut up about it its like i keep having to go around the same path with each one... you asked a good question i think a lot of women want the answer too where are the Christian godly men hiding.. believe me i really would like to know! anyway i think its important to pray and get to know a person like really get to know them before jumping in to a relationship with them, so if you find the right one yeah i believe it is possible.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 10:00 AM Just be aware of online fake people you fall inlove with and hurts you in the process. Don't put yourself in a "sugar coated fantasy relationship" and I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT ONLINE PREDATORS, WHO LIES ABOUT THEIR CRIMINAL HISTORY, SEXUAL HISTORY, AGE, PROFESSION, INCOME, LOCATION, AND RELATIONSHIP STATUS, ETC. A simple guidelines and tips: 1. A quick reminder - never place yourself into a made-up fantsay world. Be 100% real by talking about your daily activities to keep each other in the real world. Your online relationship needs to gain an understanding that we all have lives and other current activities. Distance can blind a person as you imagine if he/she is really like based off sms, emails, chats, and phone calls. People intent to build a false reality behind all the sweet talk. Ask yourself if he/she really sweet, nice, honest, trustworthy, patient, and caring? If you never meet this person in real life then don't set yourself up for failure by fantasizing. 2. Watch out for fantasy partner - these type of people are always online, friendly, supportive, and always there to talk. A common mistake in online long distance relationship is comparing a online relationship with a real person that is in your day to day life. The two are quite different and should never be compared. Never spend more time with your online relationship and neglecting your love ones in the real. Lots of people lose sleep and risk their health for a these fantasy partners. So if your in a online long distance relationship then be wise to spot out these fantasy partners. 3. Always ask questions - have no expectations when your special someone captures your interest like I will send you money, I will send you gifts, or I will come and visit you. But it will never come and your hurt - expectations. Don't be tricked by these people when you really was hoping this relationship will turn into marriage like a dream come true. Simply ask why do I love this person who so far away? Is it because you really love this person? Remind yourself why you fell inlove and always ask WHY because they can be stealing your heart when everything is based on false promises, hopes, and dreams. I'm just keeping it real. There is nothing wrong with finding true love on the internet. But be careful and allow not yourself to be victimized by these people who play games with peoples hearts. And watch out for those websex freaks too. Post Reply
janeau View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 08:13 AM Thanks for answering everyone :) i appreciate your insights.:angel: Post Reply
Aiza89 View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 10:18 AM yeah,its real..and i think im now a victim.i met him here and i fall in love with him very fast for some reason,sweet words and promises.i love him until now and i don't know how to forget him now that i have planned my future with him.He said he love me but he didn't act like he does..hard to trust someone just by internet:( Post Reply
cajunkonection View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 19 Nov, 2010 10:31 PM I think it can be real, but we have to realize the huge differences between an online long distance relationship and an up close one. The biggest thing is prayer. Ask God FIRST BEFORE even getting past the first few light hearted emails. Think about this it is so easy for people to put on this facade for a few minutes over a phone when you're 2000 miles away. Anyone can be your "dream guy or girl" in those situations. Which is why prayer is such an integral part of the Christian dating process especially online. The Lord will give us discernment IF we ask for it. The other guy before me really posted some solid advice. Don't set yourself up for the fall. I don't think it's possible to truly fall into the type of enduring long lasting love needed to sustain a marriage through the tough times without spending ample time with each other physically. How do you know this guy doesn't do things that would absolutely irritate you to madness once you've gotten into the marriage covenant with him and God. For example, how do you know just by emails and lengthy long distance phone calls and FB updates that he doesn't bite his toenails, pass gas at the dinner table, flirt with the waitress with you sitting right there, drive reckless, not clean up after himself be lazy etc., or (INSERT IRRITATING PET PEEVE HERE). You can't know these things without spending ample time with each other. And those are the types of things that cause people to want to get divorced more than anything else. Because it's the little things that mean a lot. Both in a good way and a bad way. So I think you can see if you're interested in pursuing a relationship from the emails and phone calls, but there will eventually come a time when you both need to agree to spend some solid quality time together to see if you can spend EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON. Someone once said "Don't marry someone you think you can LIVE WITH, marry someone you think you can't LIVE Post Reply
cajunkonection View Profile History	Is cyber romance for real? Posted : 19 Nov, 2010 10:39 PM I think it can be real, but we have to realize the huge differences between an online long distance relationship and an up close one. The biggest thing is prayer. Ask God FIRST BEFORE even getting past the first few light hearted emails. Think about this it is so easy for people to put on this facade for a few minutes over a phone when you're 2000 miles away. Anyone can be your "dream guy or girl" in those situations. Which is why prayer is such an integral part of the Christian dating process especially online. The Lord will give us discernment IF we ask for it. The other guy before me really posted some solid advice. Don't set yourself up for the fall. I don't think it's possible to truly fall into the type of enduring long lasting love needed to sustain a marriage through the tough times without spending ample time with each other physically. How do you know this guy doesn't do things that would absolutely irritate you to madness once you've gotten into the marriage covenant with him and God. For example, how do you know just by emails and lengthy long distance phone calls and FB updates that he doesn't bite his toenails, pass gas at the dinner table, flirt with the waitress with you sitting right there, drive reckless, not clean up after himself be lazy etc., or (INSERT IRRITATING PET PEEVE HERE). You can't know these things without spending ample time with each other. And those are the types of things that cause people to want to get divorced more than anything else. Because it's the little things that mean a lot. Both in a good way and a bad way. So I think you can see if you're interested in pursuing a relationship from the emails and phone calls, but there will eventually come a time when you both need to agree to spend some solid quality time together to see if you can spend EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON. Someone once said "Don't marry someone you think you can LIVE WITH, marry someone you think you can't LIVE WITHOUT" MY TWO CENTS P.S. I'm one of those "good guys" Post Reply

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