Author	Thread: 1 Cor 7:8-10 thought experiment
Admin	1 Cor 7:8-10 thought experiment Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 05:57 PM At some point a person probably has to start wondering what to do. They can't find a mate yet they still desire someone in their life. 1 Cor 7:8-10 says: "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." That got me thinking. How is a person supposed to do that in 21st century America? "Ya know, I think I will just get married next week" That sent me done the next path. There are several models for marriage. In the US we have the "romatic" model. We think we are supposed to meet someone, fall madly deeply in love and live happily ever after. The fairy tale notion. But in many places in the world there is the "arranged marriage" model. Parents get together and decide who their kids will marry. I even say a video (I think PBS?) on a culture in one of the 'Stans (krygistan?) where the custom was for men to litterally go kidnap a woman they wanted and get married. Strangly they interviewed several couples who had done this years ago and they loved each other. Then there is a "pragmatic" model. In my family, the legend has it that one of my great grandfathers in the 1800's while living in Kansas wrote back to someone he knew in Kentucky saying he was wanting a wife. He was introduced to a woman via mail, and eventually without ever having met, she went out to Kansas and they got married. So there are obviously various ways of getting married. The verse I quoted would seem to support the "pragmatic" approach if needed. So if you were looking to get married, were having no luck, why not be pragmatic about it? There are a lot of women in other countries that want to get married and come to the US. Why not just say, ok. Lets draw up a pre-nuptual, have some kind of safe guards for her divorcing you once she got a green card, and be honest about it. You want x,y, I want a,b, we both want to serve God, lets make a commitment. Now would I have the nerve to go through with that? Highly unlikely. But like I said, thought experiment. What does everyone else think? Post Reply
View Profile History	1 Cor 7:8-10 thought experiment Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 09:22 PM :ROFL: Really enjoyed your post as I have ridden this thought train also. As I read closer to the end my anticipation was starting to peak, then suddenly I was plunged to the depths of remembered despair when I read that you also....chickened out! :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	1 Cor 7:8-10 thought experiment Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 12:10 PM Adaptability IS the hallmark of an advanced species. I think a relationship can be kindled from friendship with enough dedication to the same goal. I was brought up on Cinderella and romance...and divorced at 30. I am letting God guide my heart this time...and I will wait patiently on His grace and mercy...but I think nothing will happen until it falls in line with His plan. The wait will just makes me appreciate it more. :) Post Reply