Thread: SEX AND THE WORD FOR MARRIED/SINGLES/WIDOWS...
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SEX AND THE WORD FOR MARRIED/SINGLES/WIDOWS...
Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 04:46 PM
I Corinthinas Chapter 7...
Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me. It is good FOR A MAN NOT TO TOUCH A WOMAN.
Nevertheless, becasue of sexual immorality, let each man have his OWN wife, and let each woman have her OWN husband.
Let the husband rendor to his OWN WIFE THE AFFECTION DUE HER, AND LIKEWISE LET THE WIFE RENDOR TO HER OWN HUSBAND THE AFFECTION DUE HIM.The WIFE DOES NOT have authority over her OWN body, but the HUSBAND does. And likewise, the HUSBAND DOES NOT have authority over his OWN body but the WIFE does.
DO NOT DEPRIVE one another except with consent for a time that you both may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and then come back together again, SO THAT SATAN DOES NOT TEMPT YOU, becasue of your lack of self control.
But I say this as a concession NOT as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself. BUT each person has his OWN gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. But I say to the UNMARRIED AND TO THE WIDOWS. It is good for them if they remain even as I am, BUT IF THEY CANNOT EXERCISE SELF-CONTROL, LET THEM MARRY. BECAUSE IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN WITH
Since we know that the above is the Word of God and thees are principles we are to follow in our daily chirstina life-styles.
Why is it that Christian men feel that when they enter a relationship with a woman, its necessary that he SLEEPS with her? And if she refuses to sleep with him, he breaks off the relationship and moves on to another woman?
Many men say they can't be in a close intimate relationship with a woman, unless he has sex with her. Paul writes, that HE DOES NOT HAVE SELF -CONTROL AND IS NOT ABLE TO CONTAIN HIMSELF,. AND IF HE IS UNBALE TO DISCIPLINE HIMSELF WITH SELF-CONTROL, IN ORDER TO NOT BURN WITH PASSION THEY SHOULD MARRY!
And if the woman goes along with the wishes of the man to try and keep him, and she lies down with him, the man and woman both are in SIN! And there are consequences for sin.
So what is the problem here?.. lack of self-control and OR both, lack of self-control and disobedience to God's word?
Tuche" ET...It is lack of Fleshly Control an most diffinately Dis-obediance ta GOD...If we are Saved by Grace an Born Again...We are ta die to our Self an It is best ta be an do as GOD says...I have found/learned that some Gents jus dont get this...or...ta put it plain an simple...They want their needs/intimicy met but do not want/need comitment an its the same for some Gals to...Its jus really sad...
I dated a Gent for a week a long time ago...an when the pressure was on an I said NO ! ...well...I was told that Our Spirituality was differant...LOLOLOLOL....Go figer...xo
"Why is it that Christian men feel that when they enter a relationship with a woman, its necessary that he SLEEPS with her? And if she refuses to sleep with him, he breaks off the relationship and moves on to another woman?"
The simple answer is this: Men want sexual intercourse, Women want emotional intercourse. Men will endure emotional intercourse to have sex. Woman will have sex to keep an emotional relationship. In marriage, sex is the fire that fuels the emotional part of the man. This passage 1 Cor 7:5 IMO implies sex in marriage is meant to be so consuming Paul says, give it a break sometimes for prayer and fasting.
Men who want to take sex for a test drive before marriage fail to understand that sex is for the consummation of marriage.
Woman must also know that an emotional relationship is also itself a type of foreplay.
If Woman wants to drag out the emotional attachment that SHE desires, not caring that his emotional supply is limited is IMO like the "precious life," in Proverbs 6:26.
But is your question about sex before marriage or sex after marriage? I think most men expect sex when they marry.
Sex before marriage creates the same physical bond as in marriage. Having sex binds you together and chemical releases change the brain giving it an addicted quality.In other words, having sex was designed to bring you closer together or to become addicted to your husband or wife.
The emotional and physical were meant to go together, Men cannot separate a woman's body from her emotions. And likewise a woman should know men have physical desires.
"Why is it that Christian men feel that when they enter a relationship with a woman, its necessary that he SLEEPS with her? And if she refuses to sleep with him, he breaks off the relationship and moves on to another woman?"
I find this hard to address friend, Your statment troubles me.
Why would a Christian man want to have sex before marriage? He is a christian!!!!
As a man I do not know how a woman thinks nor do I guess.
I do not look at sex as you are doing.
My belief it is for marriage only.As a christian I would question anyones salvation that thought sex outside of marriage is ok. Dennis
PS. As a christian man I have never had sex outside of Marriage. :peace: :prayingf:
That's the thing though....sex is what makes you married. Promiscuous sex is a lot of adultery, that's why it's sinful. But there's a little trick I think...my grandparents were married after my grandmother had become pregnant(I think)...but since they stayed together for the rest of their lives, I don't think it was a sin. They became one flesh and stayed that way. Whether or not they had a preacher say words over them first isn't that big of a deal...I don't think. Obviously it wasn't the best circumstances...but...I hope people can understand what I'm saying here. It's commitment. They "became one flesh" and stayed that way until they died. It was kind of a bad way to start a marriage, but they decided to stay committed to each other. I think that's what counts.
:peace::peace:
DISCLAIMER: Do not have sex before you're married! It is a mistake! We can't see the future! I'm hope I'm not contradicting myself here! I believe it's a "mistake"...but I don't believe it's a "sin" if you stay together...does that make any sense?
Mark, when your grandparents were married, it was a totally different concept of what it meant to be married or to date back then.
Men honnored women and their relatioships with them, marriages lasted forever, and dating was taken to be serious, because it was shameful to be divorced, and if dating, men took women to be of more honor. Marriages stayed together because of shame of divorce, but if there had not been shame connected to marriage, many couple would have divorced. Dating back then was almost the same as being married...
When a couple back then had sex before marriage, they knew that meant they were connected, as the Bible states. but today, many relationships end before marriage because of sex, and men tend to not want to be in a relationsuip with a woman unless she submits to sex with him. Now that WE ALL have come to our senses about the kind of relationship God is pleased with, it is a SIN to have sex outside of marriage. This is why Paul says, instead of buring with passion or lust, they should marry. Paul also tells Timothy to flee, run away from fornication (sex outside of marriage)All lust is sin, and sex outside the boundaries God established is a sin.. But for some reason men who call themselves Christians don't consider this, because they would rather satisfy their flesh, than to obey God.
I've had several so-called Christian men tell me, they can't be in a relationship with me unless we had sex. It matters not if they are Chrisians ornon Christians, men think every woman is SUPPOSE to lie with him if they are dating. And I always tell them, when I was young, and before I was born again, as most all women, submit to this lie. Well I've been there , done that, and ain't going back, and when a guy tells me this now, I just tell them that this is not the relatiosnhip for me in the first place, so keep it moving.
Sure, many of us had the sex outside of marriage, and still the relationship didn't work. Now that I KNOW the importance of being close and establishing a godly relationship without the sex, I'm not interested in a man who thinks he has to have sex to make a relatioship work.
The problem is, many men don't know how to control their instruments, as Paul says, because they don't know how to have an initmate close relationship with a woman from the heart, they think being intimate means having sex.. Everything is physical, and most men are still not into what real love is all about without sex.
GJ, Shepherd needs to explain himself, but I think I already know his answer. lol... :toomuch:
ET...dont think an explanation is necessary from Shepard Dave here....:winksmile:
No matter how ya look at it...disect it ...validate it....
Sex prior ta marraige is Dis-Obediance...SIN...Period !!!!
Intimacy comes from shared togetherness...gettin ta know someone...The mistake most people make is they rush off ta do the deed an then they are left with tryin ta figer out ifin they even like each other...kinda backwards dont ya think ?
Anywho...Im in the same boat with DG, MrRow & ET here...
An Hitman Mark...ET is right bout back in the day...dont matter what we think bout yer Grand Peeps...jus matters that you be here an walkin with the LORD...:rocknroll:
What ever choice a person makes concernin this subject...well...no pun intended..." Its yer Baby...You rock it"....Luv ya All....xo
