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Admin	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 10:05 AM dear folks, im just wonderin since man , the husband is sposed to be head of his household then should every divorce be concidered his fault? what are your thoughts? ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 10:44 AM Its just a thought...Nope ! it takes two to make it or break it....xo Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 11:42 AM I'll go with what Richard Nixion said "i'll take the responsibility, but not the blame!". Peace Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 03:08 PM *LOLOLOLOLOL* Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 03:27 PM no one is perfect so you must go case by case. think if the wife lusted after another guy and ended up leaving the husband? She could say her husband didnt make her happy enough to stay but her actions destroyed the marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 05:39 PM It is a case by case situation for sure, but I do feel like God has ordained the men to lead the home in love and so many men do not pray with their wives and children for starters. Then there is the love factor and spending quality time with the family. The women who refuse to let the men pray with them? That is not right either. Post Reply
Tarasye View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 10:59 PM Marriages are so complicated, and even case by case, I have to agree with Godsjude on this one...Nope. And Archemedes too (wow, agreeing with Richard Nixon, now that makes me swallow my last fragment of pride just a little!) People are so quick to slice and dice the "blame". Let me lean on Dr Phil for a second, "We teach people how to treat us" and having lived under domestic violence with an unfaithful husband, it would be nice to just blame him, but realistically, victims scare me. Really, when my marriage broke, I was sick. You cannot live with someone that is sick and not get sick. Yeah, he was sick too. So which one of us was sicker? Which one of us was sicker first? Perhaps to some I looked like the prefect victim back then, but looking back, I am sure I was not all that easy to live with either as I was mighty unhappy too, which I am sure did not make him want to step up and be a better husband either. If a man leads his house astray, shame on him, but often there is a vile and bitter tongue involved on both sides, and I've yet to see a divorce where either party knew a Godly way to behave in the midst of its breaking, even if it was a matter of vile thoughts only, but it usually also involves vile words and behaviors as well. God might hold a man accountable for his house, but He will also hold a woman accountable for the treatment of her husband, and I think that accountability is likely to be in word, thought, and deed. I don't see where if both are behaving according to the Word where there should be an issue, for the Lord tells men to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, and women are to submit to their husbands. If a man loves his wife as Christ loves the Church, then there would be no lying or cheating or hitting. If women submit to their husbands, then they would not be submitting to anyone that is not their husband. She would submit and not lie, or cheat or rise up against him. If they love each other more than they love themselves, they could not do the things that lead to divorce, but each needs to do their part for the two to be as one, which takes what it says about love in Corinthians "Love is patient, Love is Kind.." well all know the rest of the verse, for it is said at every wedding practically, but apparently not practiced in nearly as many marriages, or there would not be so many divorces. Tarasye Post Reply
Phoebe2 View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 2 Dec, 2009 01:31 AM Its not a one man call, it takes two to ruin it, then break it! Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 2 Dec, 2009 07:25 AM When my wife left me her words were," It is nothing that you have done.I just do not want to be married to you." Now that was her words not mine.I did try to talk her out of it.I gave her a chance to come back.She said, "No". So,I gave her what she wanted.Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 2 Dec, 2009 07:53 AM dear folks, i like that all of your hearts are open and are not throwing the blame all around .. and dg thats wonderful she let you off the hook with her own words.. im still wonderin though , if the husband did as the bible instructed him to .. that is husbands love your wives like CHRIST loved the church. how many wives would of strayed or would have even wanted to get away from that kind of love? ya know as i came to really understand what the husbands responsibility is , i came to realize that they were all my fault. so it was then that i forgave them and asked forgiveness for my own self from the LORD. thats when you can really move on... ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	husbands fault... Posted : 2 Dec, 2009 05:16 PM you can use the same example cattle. Christ has a perfect love for the church yet people constantly leave the church and reject him. Many who claim them as their savior later fall away. Similar to God's decription of Israel as God declares his love for his people and yet they still pursued other Gods. why would a woman want to leave a great husband? why would someone want to reject a loving savior? simply sinful nature. It take both parties willing to love each other to make a marriage work and if one person chooses not do their part then its not going to work. It's not the fault of the other person. Post Reply

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