Author	Thread: Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone?
Admin	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 24 Feb, 2020 09:27 PM I've seen people on the internet say things like "I wouldn't date him/her because he/she is too skinny/fat." . I know people have certain preferences, but not wanting to date them just because of how much or little they weigh. And every time they are asked why it's always the same old tired excuses "He/she is unattractive, too weak, doesn't take care of themselves." . I have to ask these people? Where do you get off saying something like that to someone? How do you know they don't take care of themselves? How do you know how weak they are? Just because they weigh too little or weigh too much doesn't make that person unattractive. This might sound very corny, but it's not what's on the outside that makes a person beautiful, it's what's on the heart. We may can't see each other's hearts, but if you get to know a person you may like who the person is on the inside. You might find a person who would take a bullet for you if they had to. Can we not judge someone by the shape of their body and instead get to know whether or not their hearts are in the right place? Thank you for reading. Praise Jesus and God bless you. Post Reply
KJVonly View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 25 Feb, 2020 04:35 PM I have a husband who is a 4x size. I range from 2x to 3x depending on the design and brand. Some brands run small. We are going to go to Planet fitness to get in shape . I just bought some workout clothes at JC Penney when they had a huge sale this week. We hit at the right time. I dropped a whole pant size before I met him so I am more motivated than him I suspect. I know what you mean Morgan, some peoples profiles would state right up front that they didn't want fat girls because they couldn't push away from the dinner table or keep fit. I had a thyroid condition in my early 20's , then had 4 children plus abused so throw in some comfort food and there ya go! 230 pounds back then! I used to wear my dads hunting pants- 27 in waist and I remember being a size 11 once. My husband said I had tooooo many clothes and asked me to donate alot. I replied with ,"But I am losing weight and some of those clothes I may be able to wear soon"....ok, he knows I have a touch of a hoarding problem before we met . I got rid of alot when I moved. Too worn out to move it. !! Soooooooo..I obliged. Good thing too! He needed room for his new wardrobe. And a beautiful heart is overlooked by most people. I didn't share mine too often because people don't understand it. I think Chris is really starting to see it and said "AWWWWW..." and once in a while comments on it and how sweet of a person I am. I am not used to hearing compliments but I get them from him all the time. He had a soft heart too. He surprises me with random things he says and I say ," I am like that too!" Post Reply
KJVonly View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 25 Feb, 2020 05:09 PM I should clarify that I was previously married for 10 years til he succumbed to cancer. Chris is my second husband. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 26 Feb, 2020 12:30 PM There are many unkind people in the World . And thousands of Trolls on the internet . Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 26 Feb, 2020 12:32 PM I don't like skinny men, that's a preference ! I like older men that's my preference. We are allowed to have preferences for dating and relationships, marriage. There many people get rejected. I've been rejected. And I'm an attractive woman. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 26 Feb, 2020 04:51 PM We all have preferences even if we don’t admit it. I’ve met some nice overweight girls. In fact, l might have married one because I thought she held similar convictions. Over the years I’ve had a few lady friends wanting to marry. But there was one who demanded an explanation as to why I didn’t want to marry her. I hesitated telling her l wasn’t attracted to her because she had often decried such “shallowness”. But I told her the truth anyway because she was so demanding. Of course she erupted in rage at the explanation. Trouble is, her false rage was unfounded—you see, several weeks earlier she had made a negative comment about a woman who married a man much shorter than she! My enraged friend made it plain that she would NEVER marry a man “so short” !! But suddenly the volume of her outrage went to “0” when she was reminded about the comment ! Then I asked, “why is it you can refuse whomever you wish but I can’t”??!! She agreed I made my point. Yes, we’re were still friends! I even received an invitation to her wedding!! Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Should weight be a reason not to date someone or marry someone? Posted : 2 Mar, 2020 05:05 AM If your not attracted to someone then your just not attracted. There's no need to go into the whys & wherefores... Post Reply