Author	Thread: Is it best to be as James?
ephesians522 View Profile History	Is it best to be as James? Posted : 30 Jan, 2009 09:50 AM If God made man and woman to be of one flesh, why is it best that we live a life alone? With the apostles, since we all know the flesh is weak, why wouldn't they recommend arranged marriages? I.E.; And since the flesh is weak, and God creating Woman from Man, it is best that a mother and a father (who live in faith in the Lord) arrange a suitable spouse for their daughters. In that she will not grow into temptation. To which she can show devotion not only to her mate, both in flesh and spirit, but also show devotion to God... then go into widows and women of age teach the young in that they will know the ways to please their husbands and so on and so forth.. Should we have kept some of the laws of Deuteronomy 22? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it best to be as James? Posted : 30 Jan, 2009 11:11 AM Until fairly recently, a woman would rarely consider dating, much less marrying, a man that her Dad did not approve of. This choosing our own mate, without parental consultation, is a direct result of the American free love movement in the 1960's. One of the things that drove my daughters crazy when they were young is, I would make them introduce me to any boy before I would allow them to go out with them. My oldest did start thinking it was funny after a while, she enjoyed watching how nervous they were. But, the thing they learned was, there is more to a man than how attractive you think he is. The truth is, when we are young, few can control their hormones well enough to make a rational decision. We are like my male lab when a female is in season anywhere within a mile of him. He will stop eating, take off and not come back until he is exhausted and half starved. Hormones are powerful things and were designed that way for a reason. I think the ability to set oneself apart for God, is something that gets easier with age. There is no way I would have even considered it at a young age. I even rebelled for a while at this age. It is not a thing most of us think about. Blessings, Leon Post Reply
ephesians522 View Profile History	Is it best to be as James? Posted : 30 Jan, 2009 08:05 PM Thank you Leon, you prove to me that there are parents out there who care about the growth and wellbeing of their daughters. You didn't have to turn to the bible to for affirmation on how to make sure you were not raising ones that were going to be "Used" women. I pray all is going well with the girls you raised in that they can be testamonies of your love and guidance. God bless you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it best to be as James? Posted : 31 Jan, 2009 05:25 AM I know this is straying a bit but in conjunction with the conversation, my husband "dated' our daugthers...In other words he took them out and showed them how a man should treat a woman so they would have something to compare. It worked. They are not married yet but they always talk about how the boy treated them or didn't treat them. So in some respects, although the parent does not choose, certain principles are instilled as valuable learning tools. I do feel, going back to the subject, that the value to man being single would be the freedom of the movement of the Godly work they were doing without the responsibilty of family. It is a matter of choice and ministry. Robin Post Reply