Asher said: There is much research that has been done and is being done into the dance of love. Should Christians use it?
Ella says: Asher, please SPLAIN yourself. What i in the misssst is "dance of love?" Can't say if Christians should or should not use it, if no one knows what "dance of love" :dancingp:is all about....thanks
Harness the power of emotion to deepen your love with your partner, become more successful at work, and more.
by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.
Anticipation - Steps in the Dance of Love
Those feelings you get at the start are so energizing.
Published on February 5, 2011 by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. in Emotional Fitness
Anticipation, as Carly Simon sang way back when, can break your heart while you wait for that call (or text) from that special someone. If he or she is slower than you'd like, it can make you a little bit anxious and sometimes crazy. Those reactions can make or break a relationship.
The silly feelings you get at the start of a relationship are so energizing (and anxiety producing) that I would never want to give them up for the reassurance or even a guarantee of love. But still, you want to know that the one you are sending your energy to is sending some back.
Some anticipation is a mandatory step in the dance of love. Without it, I don't think we develop a feeling of vulnerability, and though being vulnerable can be uncomfortable, it's a necessity if you want to be in love. That is, being vulnerable is both a curse and a gift.
That may be hard for some to relate to. Many people loathe that squirmy feeling and hate that their hearts are now open and so can now also be broken. But if you don't take the risk of opening your heart and soul completely, you won't love (or feel loved) completely.
Holding yourself back out of the fear of getting hurt is understandable, a person may reach this place for many reasons�most of them unpleasant�but it's usually a choice to stay there.
No one likes feeling insecure. But you can choose how you respond to being vulnerable, for it's really a state of mind over which you have some control. You may want to remind yourself that being vulnerable is part of the process of falling in love. You can also find constructive outlets for your thoughts and emotions.
Talking with your friends can help and be fun. As long as the relationship is not abusive or inappropriate, professional advice isn't a necessity. After all, though it may be difficult, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Exercise or puttering around the house can also be a good use of the excess energy that anticipation can bring.
This may also be a good time to keep a journal. It's a safe place to put your feelings, a good way to release your angst, and something you will enjoy looking back on after you've spent a few decades with your loved one.
Anticipation is also an energy booster. You may have the strength to move mountains or create the ultimate date night. Anticipate increases your creativity, and don't be surprised if you get a poetic thought or two. You will find new ways to bring joy to your lover and to yourself. It is amazing how much life force a growing love can give you.
In any new relationship, there is always an element of risk, and that may be what the anticipation is about. Let it keep you on your toes, so you can dance the night away with the one you love.
*** Should a Christian do this ???...Christians are people...we all have Feelings and Feelings are not Fact...Ifin GOD is formost in the newly Aquired Feelings and Love Dance...All is possible with God...it depends on a persons personal relationship with Jesus...xo
ET there are things that we can do to increase the likelihood that one with like us. For instance, making the most of first impressions. Utilizing principles of body language and eye contact. Using linguistic principles that are likely to induce relational intimacy prematurely.
To define the dance of love, the process where by one falls in love with another.
there are things that we can do to increase the likelihood that one with like us. For instance, making the most of first impressions.
*** Very important...1st impressions do last...but increasing the likelihood of a person to like us...if that�s what you are meaning here ? I believe if there is no initial Spark of interest the likelihood is not going to happen...:laugh:...
Utilizing principles of body language and eye contact. Using linguistic principles that are likely to induce relational intimacy prematurely.
*** This is definitely part of the human dance of love...intimacy in communication is a good start in any relationship...but if leading to physical intimacy within the 1st meeting...well...just not a good thing...sometimes people base there Feelings on the Spark & Lust of Flesh and then follow through with that intimate act and then are left to figure out if there are Other compatibilities...kinda backwards...:rolleyes:...All in all...the Courtship Dance is necessary...all critters Father God has Created have a Courtship Dance...even humans...but for us...we Love ( Emotion/Action) and that is the Dance of Love...and while engaged in the Dance it would be good to use Sound Judgment in Wisdom while Pursuing�xo
