Author	Thread: why wait?
victorious52 View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:26 PM recently a woman i emailed asked me "dont you think you should give yourself some time??? I mean thats a scary thing to not quite be our of your marriage and now onto the next relationship." i replied "why give yourself time? where in the bible did people wait before getting married? off hand i can't think of any examples , i may be wrong, but i think this whole waiting thing is kind of weird, if anything, i think the bible shows one should not wait, david was worse than that! he rejected his marital duties to michal as a wife, but didn't even divorce her, but married other women! he didn't want her, but didn't allow anybody else to have her either! then there was abigail, she left nabal dead and went right away with david who was fleeing saul! she was willing to go on the run with david! it doesn't appear ruth spent too much time before she got married to boaz! i may be wrong though, can you tell me a good example of a guy waiting for some time after a divorce or separation, or a death, or something, perhaps you can educate me. guys really don't need all this "so called time to heal",in my opinion. if anything i think it would be good to have a time to get out and have some fun, one needs to have good experiences to take away the bad! my marriage was over a long time ago, it's been like 3 years separated or so, besides the bible says it is not good for a man to be alone, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:45 PM There is wisdom in waiting unless you know that you know, then only time will tell if you really knew. As for waiting in the Bible, many marriages were arranged so they had waited sometimes their whole life. Joseph was betrothed to Mary but not actually married yet, that usually took a year. And using David as a example might not be the best unless you are planning on multiple wives...lol! My opinion is this falls into the category of being in tune with God with lots of prayer, however it cannot be denied that sometimes two people "just know"....if I could only be so lucky! Post Reply
LOUANNflorida View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 05:15 PM 3 years of searation is a long time and yes as you say it is enough time to grieve the relationship and to move on if that is God's leading but if your divorce is not final then you are still married and i would say a truely Godly woman would not want to be dating a married man... Post Reply
victorious52 View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 13 Nov, 2011 09:20 PM well i am divorced now , so that isn't an issue any more Post Reply
victorious52 View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 13 Nov, 2011 09:24 PM no doubt i think prayer and fasting should be involved in this decision not to mention some books should be discussed like "men are like waffles , women are like spaghetti" and "the love languages" now one person did state that Jacob waited 7 years to marry Rachael, but he wasn't married or divorced before, so i don't see how this counts. Post Reply
View Profile History	why wait? Posted : 4 Dec, 2013 09:11 PM There also isn't anywhere in the Bible that says to get involved in a relationship right after a failed one but there is a lot written about using wisdom and seeking the Kingdom first. Hard to do when you are always looking for another future ex-girlfriend. Post Reply