Author	Thread: FYI: Online Cyberbulling
Admin	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 10:27 AM This was sent to my attention by someone very special, and he ask that I share it on the forum. Hopefully, this will help someone, so I am sharing this with eveyone. This is helpful and Important information for all of us to know and understand. I'm not sure, but It is my understanding the source is from Bullyonline.com Online Cyberbullying The Internet provides the perfect forum for cyberbullies, individuals whose aim is to gain gratification from the distress caused by provoking and tormenting others. The anonymity, ease of provocation, and almost infinite source of targets means the Internet is full of predators from pedophiles targeting children to serial bullies targeting ... anybody. Cyberbullies get a perverse sense of satisfaction (called gratification) from sending people flame mail and hate mail. Flame mail is an email whose contents are designed to inflame and enrage. Hate mail is hatred (including prejudice, racism, sexism etc) in an email. Serial bullies harbour a lot of internal aggression which they direct at others. This may include projection, false criticism and patronising sarcasm whilst contributing nothing of any value. It may also include a common tactic of "a number of people have emailed me backchannel to agree with me". This is standard bully-speak which I've experienced on several forums. In every case it's a fabrication or a distortion - usually the former. It's also a variant of the serial bully head teacher who says "a number of parents have complained to me about you...". When challenged, the identity of the alleged complainants can't be disclosed because it's "confidential". The purpose of this tactic is to wind people up. Don't be fooled into believing it has any validity - it doesn't. People who bully are adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about them. The method of creating conflict is provocation which bullies delight in because they know they can always coerce at least one person to respond in a manner which can then be distorted and used to further flame and inflame people. And so it goes on. The bully then sits back and gains gratification from seeing others engage in destructive behaviour towards each other. This is known as trolling - see: Trolling The Web for more information about their tactics. Most serial bullies are also serial attention-seekers. More than anything else they want attention. It doesn't matter what type of attention they get, positive or negative, as long as they can provoke someone into paying them attention. It's like a 2-year-old child throwing a tantrum to get attention from a parent. The best way to treat bullies is to refuse to respond and to refuse to engage them - which they really hate. In other words, do not reply to their postings, and on forums carry on posting without reference to their postings as if they didn't exist. In other words, treat nobodies as nobodies. The anger of a serial bully is especially apparent when they come across someone who can see through them to espy the weak, inadequate, immature, dysfunctional aggressive individual behind the mask. If you receive abusive posts or hate mail from someone use the 'report this post' function, inform a moderator or mail the admin team If you are receiving persistent abusive emails , forward them to abuse@isp where "isp" is the service provider the abuser is using, eg "aol.com" or "yahoo.com". Although Internet service providers may not act on every complaint, the more complaints they receive about a particular individual (with examples of abusive email) the more likely they are to close down the person's account. The objectives of bullies are Power, Control, Domination, Subjugation. They get a kick out of seeing you react. It doesn't matter how you react, the fact they've successful provoked a reaction is, to the bully, a sign that their attempt at control have been successful. After that, it's a question of wearing you down. The more your try to explain, negotiate, conciliate, etc the more gratification they obtain from your increasingly desperate attempts to communicate with them. Understand that it is not possible to communicate in a mature adult manner with a disordered individual who's emotionally retarded. Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 10:46 AM oooops! sorry, I forgot somethng important he put in the email that didn't come out when I copied and pasted his email. If the bullying continues you can report this to the Internet Crime Complaint Cebter (IC3) www.ic3.gov Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 10:47 AM "This may include projection, false criticism and patronising sarcasm whilst contributing nothing of any value." :-x Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 10:48 AM bad typing:ROFL: That's the Internet Crime Complaint Center...laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 11:12 AM Thank you Ella. May be i will use it in future too.... Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 12:16 PM Ella, do you know who turned you in? Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 12:49 PM Sounds like Christians are being primed for the NEW WORLD ORDER. Does this mean that they need to take the Blue pill with the red kool-aid. Or is it the Red pill with the Blue kool-aid. No,the pink pill with the orange kool-aid. Oh which arm is the micro chip to be implanted in. Think i'm kidding,they already have the Technology, They just have not blown up any buildings lately for this to be implemented. lMat_24:13 But the one who endures to the end, that one will be kept safe. Shalom Mr.Meanie Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 01:58 PM Wow! That article describes et's tatics perfectly! And it wasnt me, twosparrows. LOL Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 01:59 PM Whilst it may be prudent to report bullying (online and in the real world), it's never going to go away - there's a never-ending supply of them being manufactured. You also need to immunise yourself against it as much as possible. That means recognising when you're being baited, being willing to disengage them rather than responding, etc. I believe everybody on this earth experiences some form of bullying at some point in their lives. Most are able to shrug it off and come out a little stronger and a little wiser for it, some don't and end up flipping, killing others or themselves. Tackling it is only one aspect, learning to cope with it is another. Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 02:12 PM A Bully posting about bullies! :ROFL: Now that's funny! Post Reply
View Profile History	FYI: Online Cyberbulling Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 03:51 PM Thank you DKJ, you gave a Very mature response... moreover, one thing that must always be kept in mind is that no one knows how bullying effects a person or even those who read such bullying comments made on a public forum by those who bully ... but one thing we do know for sure, its a very lonely and sad obsessed person who tries to control and have dominion over another person through bullying. Yes, Bahira, I think everyone should print out this information, because you never know when it might come in handy. And as stated in the information always report such to the administrator of a forum, and if nothing is done report to the givernment agency with all evidence that has be published, because there are laws to be enforced to protect your rights that are being violated by the bully or bullies who have emotional problems and low self-esteem. Smart information to know and keep... Post Reply

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