Author	Thread: PhilipJohn
Admin	PhilipJohn Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 05:23 AM Shutup! Post Reply
View Profile History	PhilipJohn Posted : 1 May, 2010 03:01 PM of course i saw the application. it did not com off as though there was any love in it for obvious reasons. GJ used the analogy and it was perfumed with love but yours came off as being mocking. please do not be offended, those are just my observations. nyanda:purpleangel: Post Reply
View Profile History	PhilipJohn Posted : 1 May, 2010 06:17 PM Nyanda, What are the obvious reason you observed? And what part of my comment was one of mockery. I didn't know I was suppose to perfum what I say with any thing but truth, to please anyone. After all, according to Proverbs isn't a true word spoken in reproof considered love to a wise person, but to a person who disdains truth, it is not effective? So, it matters not whether the hearer likes it or not. Its the response that counts. Dennis is a big guy, he understood what I meant... I'm not one who gets offended by what others say to, or about me. too old for such, been there done that, Being offend means nothing nor does it change anything. When I have something to say, I speak it, ain't got time for perfum or sugarcoated words.:zzzz: I'm ok, you're ok... so let's keep it moving:hearts::peace: ella Post Reply
View Profile History	PhilipJohn Posted : 1 May, 2010 11:49 PM In regards to the discussion here b/w Dennis and PhillipJohn... I think it's so easy for us to take sides here and to point fingers. On one hand, we see Dennis bringing up an allegation publicly that PhillipJohn is saying is untrue. And I think that can make us feel like he is attacking PhillipJohn. On the other hand, there may be times when pointing something out publicly is not an attack, but a warning to help others be safe. Not knowing the specifics and not being able to really know each other's hearts and motives w/ certainty, I hesitate to make any kind of judgment here on either party. I really think that unless we have first-hand knowledge of another member here doing something that would endanger another member, it would be unlikely that there is cause to bring up the issue publicly. As with any kind of sin, we should always attempt to talk to the person one-on-one first anyway. And I think that if they deny it, we should go ahead and drop it in most cases. (Innocent until proven guilty kinda thing?) Now, if the person admits it's true, but is unrepentant, and you feel that he or she could place another member in danger, then I would absolutely say something on the forum. It's difficult for me to really discuss this w/out bias, as I've had a couple issues w/ guys I met online. And if I saw either one of them on a dating website again trying to lure someone else, I wouldn't hesitate to take steps to help ensure the safety of other women. If anyone wants specifics on any of that, feel free to message me. Anyway. Enough about that. Thank you to several of you for the positive feedback to my suggestions; the encouragement is much appreciated =) Since this topic has been bumped to the 2nd page (I sooo wish that the most recently replied to thread would get bumped to the top!!!), I'm going to start a new topic that we can continue to discuss this on... Or to just give others a chance to read through these things... Post Reply

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