Author	Thread: CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important?
really_54 View Profile History	CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important? Posted : 1 Oct, 2009 09:57 AM Hi...I wanted to open a new thread this morning about a subject that is regarded among some in Christendom to be a sign of carnality... and that's the word "Chemistry". I've come across this word in several ladies' profiles as a sort of a "don't waste my time".... if "chemistry" is not there. I've been on this site for about a year now and talked with hundreds of ladies and have come to this conclusion: That "chemistry" is indeed important in a relationship...that spark...that WOW...that magic( oops...did I say that word ). What is it?...It seems to me firstly that it is a physical attraction to that person. When Jacob saw Rachel and Leah standing before him...why did he fall head over heels for Rachel and not Leah? Why was he so willing to work for Laban 7 years and another 7 years to be officially married to Rachel? And what was so special about Sarah that Abraham was drawn to? Even Isaac was blessed with a beautiful wife. Obviously God did not think it was carnal or sinful to find someone attractive if He would allow Abraham, Jacob, and Isaac to be blessed with beautiful wives. In regards to searching for my wife... I admit...that if I am not attracted to a lady physically I really do not have a desire to go further, regardless of other great qualities she may possess. Am I carnal? Someone will quote to me 1Samuel 16:7 as evidence of my carnality that God looks at the heart and man looks on the outward appearance. BUT WAIT!.... God was simply pointing out a truth, not a condemnation. I'm not God...I'm a man. God put two eyes in my head to be attracted to beauty. No one thinks it's wrong to find flowers beautiful, or a mountain, or the stars. Why is it wrong therefore to be attracted to someone's outward beauty? Why is it thought in Christendom that when looking for a mate one must only look on the heart and disregard the outward? However, as my son pointed out ...chemistry between people is a MUTUAL attraction... I agree... It's not really chemistry if your attraction towards someone is all one sided. I have found many ladies attractive on this site who simply did not find me attractive...no chemistry. And there are ladies who find me attractive...but I do not feel the same way towards them...no chemistry. Yet... I must confess that I have discovered that chemistry GOES DEEPER than the outward appearance. On two separate experiences where there was mutual physical attraction between us...there was still something missing... we were not connecting on all cylinders. So we decided to mutually agree to part company. If the chemistry is not there... why try to force it? So...my intellectual friends... let's hear your insight on Chemistry 101...What is it ? And is it important? Blessings, Paul Post Reply
really_54 View Profile History	CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 11:37 PM Kindgrace...WOW! That was a great explanation of chemistry. Thank you for sharing. FHandL... I totrally agree with you..."So is chemistry important? Absolutely." Blessings, Paul Post Reply
View Profile History	CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important? Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 02:18 PM The Women gave Excellent Comments on Chemistry! My comment will not be much different but will ring in the same tone. Chemistry is important on ALL levels due to aging will jump in and make us all laugh at ourselves :ROFL: When beauty fades you will end up with the character of the person & if you weren't attractive to the person's outlook on life it can be ugly. My personal experiences with relationships after Divorce has not been easy due to having a personal relationship with God (spiritual side of it). Chemistry for me has to not only be satisfied with the cover of the book (beauty), but fulfiling my desires as I read what's inside it (character). As one of the women said a person must go deeper or look deeper into the beauty to see if that Heart belongs to YOU :hearts: When two Hearts come together as ONE it becomes One Heart Beat as God's Word says "Two become as One" Chemistry is like a electric charge that draws you to the person with their Beauty, however, it's what's inside that ends up Winning the Heart. I desire a Godly Man who has a Strong Spiritual Walk with God that is first & foremost important along with the physical attraction. Thanks for letting us all express ourselves God Bless! Post Reply
really_54 View Profile History	CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important? Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 09:41 PM Thank you Charlene for sharing your thoughts on chemistry. Blessings, Paul Post Reply
really_54 View Profile History	CHEMISTRY... what is it?... and... is it important? Posted : 12 Aug, 2011 11:10 PM I think it's time to place this subject fresh on the forum. :zzzz: Post Reply

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