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Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 17 Sep, 2010 08:44 PM
I feel really dumb asking this, but the question has been floating around in my head this evening, so I might as well.
So... I am pregnant and wondering if it's wrong for me to keep the baby when she could be adopted into a 2-parent Christian household? I was just thinking that God designed families to have a mom and a dad and so if a woman knows ahead of time that she's going to be the only parent, would it be selfish to keep the child? Like, would you be denying the child the family that God intends for her to have?
I hope that makes sense. I feel like I'm having a really difficult time putting my thoughts together right now.
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 02:34 PM
Holy freakin' cow, that's rough. Dang. :( :( :( I'll be praying for you, for real.
Well...I don't think that it's selfish to keep the child, nor is it shirking responsibility to give him or her up for adoption. I myself lean towards adoption simply because of the mother/father aspect (and not having a father is an understated problem in America -- it is a serious epidemic), but that doesn't rule out single parenthood in my book. If you are willing to seek out strong male role models for the child (which probably requires not moving for a while), then he or she will turn out ok. Also, the child may end up having a father after all if things go along swimmingly as far as your relationship goes, right? I guess this is something that you can pray about, consider options and their costs, but I don't think you have to make any binding decision right now.
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 03:20 PM
:glow: Hello my friend,
Wow, what a hard thing you are going thru.............I completely understand where you are coming from!! I myself was in your same shoes 13 yrs. ago with my son.
First and for most don't look at it as if it is Biblical or not.......look at it as is it God's will for you personally to be a single parent!! It is only for God and you to decide if it is right for you to keep and raise your unborn child........NO ONE elses decision or right for them to say or judge!!
I was and I'am still a single mother of a 13 yr. old most wonderful son. When I became preg. with my son 13 yrs. ago before his father and I was married and saw that his father wasn't going to stand by me, I had the same delema/decision that you are now in!! I thought the same thing as you for a few times.............but what made all the difference for me was the fact that I so wanted to be a mother although I knew without the help, support and love of his father it was going to be hard! What caused me to make the decision I made was the fact that I knew that even though I didn't become preg. by God's law/standards.........
I knew in my heart that God my father knew in my heart and soul just how much I already loved his (my) child and would love this child!! God knew that NO ONE could ever love this child more than his own bilogical mother, well at least in this case.............so there was no other option for our child (Andrew) then for me to keep him!!
It isn't what is Biblically right, as I stated before............the ?? to pose is what is God's will for you and this most wonderful, unique child he has given you the prilivage of being preg. with!!! What is right for you..........not what anyone else may say..........are you ready to be a single mother?? Yes, it is true that two people whom are married and can't have a child of their own for whatever reason and wants a child as much as a if it were their own flesh and blood can also love this amazing child of God's............but do you think and know in your own heart if it will be as much as you?? That is the ?? for you to search over.............not what is right my anyone else's standards or a church's teachings............but yours and God's will! My dear friend, we don't always do the right things my God's view, word and law..............but God has a big enough heart and LOVE for us to make anything possible and right!! As I stated earlier that for me it was to decided what was God's will for his son and I as he know without a doubt how much I was longing to be a Mother! I knew he wasn't esp. happy with me that I didn't wait until I was married to have sex and get preg.............however he did know that now that I did it wrong I would love his child more than anyone else could and that I was willing to work hard ever day from here on out to be a great and best Mother for this child of his for the rest of my life!! No, I'm not going to lie to you and say that each and every day has been easy for me being a single mother..............but would it be for two parents either?? What I will tell you is that even in the worst, hardest days I am still so blessed and thankful that our good, loving father, God has choosen me to be this child's Mother!! Yes, I went through a hard time when his earthly father won't stand up and do the right thing my our son and myself......but that all fades away compaired to the love of my son and being his mother!! One last thing yes, I am still looking for my MR. Right if there is such thing as that out there in this sometimes crazy world to be my husband and step-father for my son..............but I won't have been able to evr give up the child our father, God gave me!!
This is what you have to search your heart and soul for the right answer to.................Can you Love this child best or can two other people?? It isn't about two married parents.....as that can end in an eye blink..........it is about who is the best parent or parents for this particular child of God?? I have seen children raised by a single parent be just as healthy and happy as one raised by two parents!! I have seen a child be adopted out to what appeared to be a good family for only those two people be so different in their views of raising the child that the child end up worst off than being raised by their own single mother! Acourse, we have all also seen a child be adopted out into a good, loving home and the success stories of that too.
I hope and pray my friend this letter will give you some encouragement and positive thoughts in makeing the right choice for yourself and God's child! I will continue to pray for you through this most difficult and important decision!! If you find you would like to or need a unjudgement person to talk with, please feel comfortable in contacting me any time!!!
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 03:39 PM
Hi again,
So, sorry to hear that you became preg. from being raped! I apologize that I didn't read all your imform. before sending you an answer. If you find your preg. my friend having a child by rape is a completely diff. situation than just being a single parent.........however, I still believe that your decision needs to be based on God's will for you! Take all the time you need to pray and talk to God about this sit., be truely candit with yourself and God.. Remember God can handle any all all emotions you are now feeling. He loves you so very much and will give your heart and soul the right answer as what to do. Again my friend contact me if you need anything!!!
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 07:38 PM
To whom ever wrote that statement that Pixy must bear and raise this baby she is carrying due to being raped........
That is so mean to say that a women would be selfish if she would decide to give this child up for adoption! How do you know what it would feel like to be raped than have to be told that you need to keep this child...........?? Am I wrong in assuming this mess. came from a man? No one but our father, God can completely know what she is feeling and going thru at this moment in her life and what is the right answer for her!!
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 18 Sep, 2010 10:22 PM
@Storm- Thank you for your kind words.
@JesusLoves- It was a test from the store, yes. I have not been to see my dr. yet. I don't presently have health insurance and need to figure something out SOON so that I can go in to see somebody.
@Ella- Thank you for your prayers and advice. As far as whether or not I'm pregnant, I took a 3rd test today and it came up positive too =(
@SilverFire- Thanks for your prayers and thought regarding single motherhood. I'm not sure how it easy it is to find good male role models, which is part of what concerns me about raising the baby on my own.
@Christinia- You've given me some good insight here and lots of stuff to think about! Thank you. I'm really encouraged by your comment that God can handle all my emotions. That's so true, yet something so easily forgotten.
@Mark & MrRow- No... They don't take a report... looooong story... But basically, I was dating this abusive jerk several years ago (yes, I attract abusive jerks like a magnet!) and he got mad at me and filed some false paperwork w/ the police department that was then used to file a report from... And when the detective realized the information was false, she came to talk to me and wouldn't listen when I explained that I wasn't the one who had sent the erroneous information in. So, now they've pretty much labeled me as this psycho woman and won't help me. The guy who raped me last month had been stalking me for awhile and I'd called 911 numerous times and they never filed a single report. In fact, they threatened to come arrest me if I kept bothering them. After I was raped, I called 3 times and the 911 operator would say that an officer would call me back. But... An officer has STILL not called me back. And I'm afraid of getting in trouble if I try to pressure them into a filing report, especially since there really isn't any evidence now. I mean, there's the baby, but there's too early to get any DNA from her and the presence of a baby isn't exactly proof of rape. And my bruises and scratches and whatnot are mostly healed now...
Anyways... I appreciate you all taking the time to comment. I feel like my mind is going off in 5000 directions and am having a hard time focusing on anything and thinking through anything logically.
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 01:13 AM
Hi Pix,
Maybe you should start writing an email about what happened to u. Then just broadcast it, one thing happened with a girl here and finally the email reached the media, and finally reached the President of the country. Maybe u can do the same with ur case, anyway we do need justice to be done on earth!
Is it Biblical for a single pregnant woman to keep her child?
Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 07:15 AM
There are other ways to get justice even if the worthless police do nothin, and I mean worthless. File for child support and every time he gets a raise or moves up, sue him for bigger payments it will eat him up for 18 yrs or longer cause if he misses any payments they do not go away even after the child is over 18.
