I was kind of desperate because I was working as a living-in-nanny for a muslim family and wanted to go out from there so badly as they treated me as a slave.
I had not many days to stay in USA because my workpermit was soon to expire and I wanted so badly stay in USA.
I had search for man in USA when I was staying there ( 3 and half years ) but had not find anyone to love.
In my pray in the church had I asked for a special man to come to me as they said so in the church.
The preachers said if we wish us a car could we get an old car and cheap one as long as it was driving us from one spot to another.
If we wanted a nice car should we ask for in details.
But it had not helped for me so now I changed my mind and I started to pray to God to give me a man whatever there was to get.
I ask for a man only as long as he loved God as much as me.
Three days later did I find a man on Internet. He had no photo in the ad but I didn't cared.
After three days more should we meet and this man loved God so much so he said to me that he wanted to be so close to God so he sat in God's lap.
He had a nice car when he come and park his car outside the hamburger place I said we should meet at.
And out from the car come a monster. The most ugly man I ever have seen.
I was thinking it was impossible to love that man because he was soo ugly.
He said we should drive to a better place but when we should drive away was all stopsign on red.
It was a fourway road and all 8 stopsign was on red in so long time so he had to drive to another street to come out on the mainroad. It ws like God wanted to saty NO with those red stopsigns.
He saw I was disappointed on him and we aid goodbye as friends.
I learned from that to always say in details what a man I wanted. There is no way to do it more than to tell God exactly.
Then later did I find out that God doesn't care or know about sexuality so in that subject we have to tell what we want too.
I got men that I had asked for but as I live in Sweden and we can talk open about sex did I find out on an early age that the man God had send me had a wiered sexuality.
It was very clear that God didn't see to sexuality so today when I pray, I also included it too that my man should be normal in bed.
Do you believe it ? That God doesn't look what kind of sexuality a person have ?
A homosexual couple live open for people to see it so there can God see it but those other hide it in the bedroom so there is it harder to see.
I think it's vital that our perception of God aligns with the Word of God.
I'm concerned that you may be seeing God as someone less than the sovereign God that He is... as someone who doesn't know us completely, who isn't wise enough to know what is best for us, who doesn't care about the little details of our lives, or who is unable to orchestrate those details.
I don't think that we need to detail out for God exactly what we want. He already knows what we want. And what we want really isn't the most important thing anyway. I think it is better that we ask God to reveal HIS will to us... that we ask Him for wisdom and discernment in knowing His will, for patience and endurance in waiting, and for the strength, courage, etc. to receive what He has for us. What He has planned for us is so much better than we want for ourselves and we miss out on that sometimes when we're so stuck on wanting this one very particular thing that we don't see the other things that the Lord is placing right in front of us.
And not to sound totally crass here, but since God designed us to be sexual beings and since He created sex, He knows better than anyone what we desire in the bedroom. We are in error if we think that God knows nothing of sexuality or cares nothing about it. And I don't mean that we should not be on the lookout for red flags in that area, but that we should not be closed-minded to what God has for us or think of the expression of our sexuality as something that has nothing to do with Him.
For sure: it takes some special ignorance for someone to even suppose that God doesn't care about their sexuality.
You need to be encouraged and strengthened in understanding that a lie from hell is propagated with that one bit of information.
If God didn't care about our sexuality would He go all the way to the cross to redeem us from all the suffering that sexual immorality has caused us? I think NOT.
I am living proof that God takes up the cause of His girls & honors their bodies in ways that men need special educations to learn about. Sexuality is a gift that does NOT belong to every man. It is SO honorable & unique in each individual woman that God personalizes her to satisfy her husband specifically. We are not created to satisfy just any man at just any time. We are redeemed by the life of Christ & HE satisfies His daughters in every way they need. If Jesus is Lord of your life, He will choose the VERY best for you if you will leave the choice with Him. If Jesus is not LORD of your life & every area of your life (including sex), then you need to give it ALL to Him and ask Him to lead you into His will & purpose and then let god and trust Him to do it.
He loves & cares & fights for his children who need defending & protecting. He is a powerful & gentle God & deserves your love. I pray He will have your WHOLE heart or even just your BROKEN heart (then He will make it WHOLE)!! MUCH hope for you!!
Our God is a God of Wisdom. He knows about sexuality because He created man and woman. I do not know what you mean when you say God "taught you how to ask for a partner" because reading through this post, you had your "tips" from a preacher, a man, and not from God.
To know the will of God - the Bible says in Romans 12:2a
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
This means we need to change our mindsets about the wordly standards which we formerly had, and align our standards with that of God. That renewing includes changing our standards in choosing a partner.
The result? "Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - His good, pleasing, and perfect will." (Romans 12:2b
When praying to God for requests and petitions (like asking for a partner) we do not dictate to Him what we want - but we ask in faith what God wants for us. God cannot be trivialized into a "genie" ready to give us what we ask at our beck and call.
He is God and must be given reverent fear and awe, for He most worthy of the Trust and Faith due to Him. In His Omnipotent Wisdom He knows what is best for us even before we ask. He is not into a "trial and error" kind of answer and God has His own timing.
The main thing here is to remember that we are not our own, we have been bought with a Price. The life we now live is hidden in Christ our Lord Jesus.(Galatians 2:20) As such we ask according to God's will. It will be well if we, like Solomon, ask first for WISDOM.
In summary, we need to search according to what God in His Word tells us - not according to how we feel, how a man looks ("Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."), or about sexuality and bedroom capabilities.
Psalm 119: 33-37 gives us some points to consider regarding requests:
v.33 "Teach me. O Lord, to follow Your decrees;
then I will keep them to the end.
v.34 Give me understanding, and I will keep your law
and obey it with all my heart.
v.35 Direct me in the path of Your commands,
for there I find delight.
v.36 Turn my heart towards Your statutes
and not toward selfish gain,
v.37 Turn my eyes away from worthless things
preserve my life according to Your Word."
Notice the Word of God directs us first towards Him. God wants our intimacy with Him first and foremost rather than what we "think" we want.
Psalm 37:4 says
"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart."
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledg Him and He will direct you path." (Proverbs 3:5-6)
With all my heart I pray and ask God to give you a heart that hungers and seeks Him and is willing to trust His ways. I pray in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord that He will birth in you a heart that runs after God's own heart. May He in His amazingly Divine Goodness and Everlasting Kindness, touch you today and bless you with every spiritual blessing according to your need, Amen.
"For sure: it takes some special ignorance for someone to even suppose that God doesn't care about their sexuality." - Seems kinda harsh. Not saying whether you're right or wrong, just that your words seemed a tad, hard.
You are exactly right, Pixy, in my opinion. I dated non-Christian men who thought they were "good" and it was a waste of precious time. Now I'm looking for a Christian man, and I know God can send someone to me in a spectacular way, so I am trying to be patient. In the meantime, I need fellowship, conversations that strengthen my faith, and friends who believe in Jesus. As far as sex, I hated to admit that I was committing sin for years, thought God understood my physical needs and so condoned sex outside of marriage in my case. I had been married, figured He knew it was not my fault that I was forced to be suddenly celibate, etc. I was actually married to a preacher who left me and my kids. Then I dated mainly for companionship and sex (thinking it was love). But I know deep down, and can't deny to myself, that I won't be guilt-free unless I am married to the man I have sex with. Yes, there are things couples can do that aren't breaking those codes (I don't say Bill Clinton is right, mind you). I'm not prude. I'm just trying to live in God's will, and if I am doing something I feel is wrong, how can I expect His guidance? I feel if a couple is close enough to be intimate, they must have at least a commitment to be married and should be able to figure it out together. I haven't really started dating a Christian yet, and don't know what I'll do if he's a great kisser and I have to control myself. But I thank God He has forgiven me for my past mistakes.
Keep asking for confirmation if we still unsure. Don't rush in making decission
Listen to his voice when He speaks... how we can hear Him..only if you have intimate relationship every day? Talking to him not always shut your eyes..we can even talk to HIM just like normal one.
He is amazing God..Jesus is the only reason why we live..
oh ya..seek for God's kingdom first and everything will be added to us..