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Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 11:20 AM better to marry than to burn, 1 Corinthians 7:9 First Corinthians 7:8–9 says, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” The King James version says simply “to burn,” which has led to some misunderstanding. Some have speculated that the word burn refers to burning in hell; however, when we take the passage in context, we see Paul is saying that, even though singleness is his preference, it is not wrong to marry. In fact, for those with strong sexual urges, it is better to marry than to be consumed by unfulfilled desire. Paul’s statement that it is better to marry than to burn supports the Bible’s strong stand against sexual immorality: if an unmarried couple are burning with passion for each other, they need to marry, not give in to sin. Many try to justify sexual activities before marriage with excuses such as “we’re engaged” or “we love each other.” But the Bible makes no such allowances. In 1 Corinthians 7:1–2, Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage: “Now for the matters you wrote about: ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.’ But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.” Marriage is God’s plan for the fulfilment of sexual desires, and any sexual expression outside of marriage is sin (Hebrews 13:4). Sexual desires blossom during puberty and increase as the body matures. The sexual desires themselves are not wrong. They are part of developing into a healthy man or woman. What we do about those desires determines whether or not they lead to sin. James 1:13–15 explains the progression from the temptation to the sin: “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” With his assertion that it is better to marry than to burn, Paul sounds a warning for those caught in the progression toward sin. Long engagements, young teen dating, and “make out” sessions between dating couples are all ways that temptation can start “burning.” First Thessalonians 4:3–7 also addresses the need to control our passions: “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” When we refuse to control our bodies in ways that are holy and honorable, we are in danger of allowing the natural sexual drive to turn into lust—or causing someone else to be filled with lust. This is especially true during late adolescence and the early twenties when hormones are raging and bodies are at their fittest. Sexual desire is at its peak, and the foolish or untaught often dive into sexual sin before they realize the lifelong consequences. God’s design is for those who “burn” with sexual desire to prayerfully seek a marriage partner and keep their desires under control until the wedding night. Those who can maintain moral purity should not feel pressured to marry. Singleness is a perfectly acceptable lifestyle. But, if one is begins to “burn” with passion, it is time to seek God’s guidance in finding a spouse. Post Reply
Streetevangelist520^ View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 04:51 PM I admit i need a spouse to fulfill these desires, it is hard for me to keep my sexual urges under control as a single person and i want a marriage partner to assist me with the ministries i do on the women's side and Christian companionship within a Christ-centered marriage from the United States. Thanks for posting this article Moonlight7, i needed it and Praise the LORD. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 05:05 PM That's great you have that gold in life. With God's Holy Spirit leading you can do it . So many Men say they teaching but just have book smarts. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 05:11 PM I've chatted with several Old men on here 60+ yrs old several are divorced and seeking only a girlfriend. Others never married but have grown kids. One man was very rude saying he wants a live in. Gal And don't say that's wrong. Sad what people call themselves " Christians" today.! Free sites are not good for Christian dating. Fyi I've dated off relationships site geared for just that . I don't disclose my venues. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 05:12 PM " goal ". In life Corrected Post Reply
Streetevangelist520^ View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 05:19 PM Thanks for your godly wise encouragment, it is greatly appreciated. I know that it's God's will for me to be married, PRAISE THE LORD Moonlight7. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 1 Jun, 2023 06:15 PM You're welcome! As you know now, I just like Posting on here now. Many don't like the conflicting arguments. And I can understand that too. Post Reply
thatguy93a^ View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 16 Jun, 2023 02:19 PM easier said then done when people will not even talk to you Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 16 Jun, 2023 03:22 PM A couple of men I chatted with left months ago because women wouldn't respond. Unfortunately those guys probably were contacting the Wrong women not interested in them. I read men's Profiles here some are very unrealistic what they looking for . In my opinion Most have had previous relationships. I usually contact the Men and Some are so happy just to get a message from a real person! Lol I'm not looking though now . Post Reply
thatguy93a^ View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 16 Jun, 2023 04:16 PM I was referring to myself. i've messaged about everyone in the US here that has been online in the last 3 days, I only got one reply from a scammer. that's been my experience on every dating site. always left on read. and in person isn't any better, 2 dates in 10 years whooo 😅. people just want to sit at home all day on youtube or facebook. meanwhile those of us wanted real inperson fellowships are left with no one. Even getting people involved at church is painful. oh well what can we do??? Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Get a Spouse Posted : 16 Jun, 2023 05:52 PM There are people who don't date online, still meeting a date in person close to home. I've dated gentlemen in my home town . Young people maybe on dating apps more last 2 decades. Of course I'm older lady not desperate seeking a marriage. Post Reply

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