Some will Never get married...so you won't have to be concerned about any divorce!!
Posted : 16 Mar, 2023 01:17 PM
If marriage is so difficult, why should I even consider it?
“Marriage should be honored by all” (Hebrews 13:4). A biblical marriage, consisting of one man and one woman in a loving, lifelong commitment, is an honorable and godly institution. Fads come and go, and the world has its biases, but God’s plan for marriage is still the building block of society.
Unfortunately, some people are losing their faith in marriage as an institution. Some, even those who call themselves Christians, denigrate marriage as “a fool’s game” that is bound to end in regret. Some take the disillusioned view that to make a lifelong commitment is foolhardy, since the other person is going to change—we don’t know what our spouse will be like in twenty, or even five, years. He or she could be a completely different person—are we to be held to a vow we made in our youth?
If marriage were intended only to gratify the personal desires of a man or woman, then, and only then, the description of holy wedlock as “foolish” might be valid. But a godly marriage is not selfish. The marriage vow is not a lifetime commitment to be loved. It is a vow to give love. Marriage is a commitment to give love for life. It is a determination to live for the benefit of the other person, to stand by and behind the loved one. To give and give and give, even to the point of giving one’s own life (Ephesians 5:25).
Even more fundamentally, man did not invent marriage. God did. When God made mankind male and female, placed them in Eden, and brought them together in marriage, He had a purpose in mind. The most basic purpose was that marriage would produce more people who bear God’s name and reflect His image (Genesis 1:26–28; 2:22–24). Human reproduction was God’s first stated mandate for the united Adam and Eve. Marriage, God’s first and most fundamental institution, is designed to be the foundation for the family unit.
Further, to properly and fully reflect the whole image of God, mankind was created in two genders, “male and female” (Genesis 1:27). The full reflection of God’s character in mankind requires both genders, man and woman. Marriage is the means by which the two genders are most intimately connected. When man and woman are united in marriage, they together reflect a picture of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22–32). Marriage is about much more than romantic bliss or companionship or sexual intercourse.
Believers find true joy in marital partnership with each other when God is their guide. Yes, the honeymoon will end. Yes, both spouses will prove to be somewhat different from what they presented to each other while courting. Yes, sooner or later both husband and wife will be disappointed in something about each other. Yes, people change, and not always for the better. But God had a good idea when He invented marriage—“very good,” according to Genesis 1:31. God even uses marriage as a metaphor for His relationship with His people (Hosea 2:19–20).
Marriage will reveal weaknesses in each individual. Trials and challenges will come. The strength of the vows will be tested. But we live by faith (2 Corinthians 5:7). Marriage is God’s institution for mankind. If He invented it, if He designed it to fulfill His purposes, and if He is in it, then it is good. We should not abandon the idea of marriage just because some people have not got out of it what they imagined they would. After all, it is not the takers of this world who find fulfillment, but the givers (Acts 20:35). Those who by God’s grace emulate the self-sacrificial giving of Christ will find marriage to be good. It will cost something—actually, it will cost everything! But, it is in giving of ourselves that we find the highest meaning of life in Christ.
None of this means that every believer must marry. God knows that it is better for some not to marry, and some situations make marriage undesirable. See 1 Corinthians 7. A single person gives self-sacrificial love in other ways and still reflects the character of God. Marriage is not for all, but marriage itself is a godly institution that should be held in esteem.
Marriage should not be miserable, and it won’t be if we understand what God intends marriage to be and follow His instructions. A godly, biblical marriage provides a lifetime of opportunities for two people to bless each other and their family in the name of Jesus Christ. Our Lord blessed His friends’ wedding at Cana with His joyful support (John 2:1–5), and He still blesses the marital union today.
Some will Never get married...so you won't have to be concerned about any divorce!!
Posted : 16 Mar, 2023 06:42 PM
Too many MARRIED people are fornicators with other partners than their spouse. They also have a lot of kids, some that they help support, and others that they ignore and refuse to "recognize". This is flat out SIN.
if two Christians cannot be faithful to each other and work things out, how in the world can one consider marrying into another religion. it IS important to have a Christian bf/gf/spouse.
Some will Never get married...so you won't have to be concerned about any divorce!!
Posted : 3 Apr, 2023 10:08 PM
It is true that if you don't get married, you will never get divorced. But on the other hand some people who never get married never experience the joy of marriage or having children.
Then you have people who would live in sin with another person have children but never commit to marriage.
Some people who can't handle being single can be tempted into other sins of immoral nature.
I mean look back to Genesis, God himself said it's not good for man to be alone and then made him a helpmeet, and created Eve out of Adams rib.
I personally believe God created marriage to deal with the loneliness issue.
Maybe we need to get back to basics and remember why God did what he did, why he created certain things.
Look at the pattern Adam worked as a farmer, he looked after the animals. Eve's job was to have children. Be a helper to her husband.
It ties into the thread of having a Christian girlfriend or boyfriend. A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand. It is not only important to be in agreement in faith, doctrine and theology, but it's also important to have the same priorities.
See I notice some women who have 4 year degrees and no children, I would say their priority is their career over their family.
Others with a basic high school diploma and wanting a family has more priority for her family than her career.
Me I want someone who puts God first and Family second. I understand my role is to provide for my family. Yes I am unemployed right now but I am working on going back to school to find tools and resources to start my own business because working for heathen and unsaved people has proven to be a colossal failure and a waste of my time.
If I meet someone now and she lives half way around the world, I would plan to relocate. If I end up single when I get my business going then I just accept that their is no one out there for me.and that I am cursed to spend my life alone.
Some will Never get married...so you won't have to be concerned about any divorce!!
Posted : 21 Apr, 2023 03:59 PM
Interesting Article
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A homemaker is typically a married woman who works full-time to create a welcoming home life for her husband and children. Homemakers traditionally do not work outside the home for monetary compensation but consider homemaking duties their full-time career. Before the 1960s, homemaking was the norm for wives and mothers. But by the late ’60s and early ’70s, many women were entering the workforce and learning to juggle careers and children. Some Christians still maintain that a wife and mother should never work outside the home, so this article will explore what the Bible really teaches about a woman’s role as a homemaker.
It is important to note that, when the Bible was penned, women had few employment options outside the home. It was assumed that, when a woman married, her sole focus would be on keeping house, bearing children, and helping her husband (Genesis 2:18; Titus 2:4–5). Life was more difficult before modern conveniences, and simply running a household was more than a full-time job. Many women whose husbands could afford it had maidservants (Genesis 16:3; 29:24, 29; 2 Kings 5:2). Others trained daughters to help as soon as they were old enough, just as sons were apprenticed by their fathers and grandfathers in the family business.
However, the fact that homemaking was the expected lifestyle for women in Bible times should not be construed to mean that it is the only option for wives and mothers in the 21st century. Even in Bible times, some women pursued business ventures. Lydia is an example (Acts 16:14). She was known as a “seller of purple,” a lucrative business in that day. Little is known about Lydia’s home life, but some scholars speculate that she must have been married, or it would not have been appropriate for her to invite Paul and the apostles to stay at her home (Acts 16:15). Her husband is not mentioned in conjunction with her business, indicating that it was her own enterprise. Lydia was a Christian businesswoman with the gift of hospitality.
Luke 8:3 mentions several women who followed Jesus and supported Him financially from their own means. This could imply that they had sources of income separate from their husbands. Matthew 27:55 also mentions some women who were present at His crucifixion and that they had “followed Him from Galilee” to minister to His needs. This seems to indicate that, even in Bible times, women could be both homemakers and financially independent, free to follow an itinerant preacher from city to city, supporting themselves by their own funds.
The Proverbs 31 woman is another example of a homemaker who also conducted business. This passage is a mother’s counsel to her son about the sterling characteristics he should look for when seeking a wife. Among those desirable qualities is a good head for business (verses 16–18). The virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 considers a field and then buys it. Nothing is said of her husband’s involvement. He was busy conducting city business (verse 23). What is important to note is that she was so industrious that she could pursue business opportunities while making sure her husband and children were well cared for. She managed her home so well that she could put their interests first and still have time to conduct her own business on the side. There is no indication that she ever sacrificed her family’s interests for her own (verses 21–22). And that is the heart of biblical homemaking.
Christian homemaking is far more than merely “staying at home.” Some women who do not want to work outside the home do not work inside the home, either. They park the kids in front of the TV and pursue their own interests all day. The husband comes home to a filthy house, unwashed laundry, kids eating chips off the floor, and mom on the phone with her friend. That is not homemaking; that is non-working (see 1 Timothy 5:8).
Homemaking is exactly as it sounds: making a home. A comfortable, clean, well-run home does not happen by itself. Good homemakers consider the state of their homes and families to be their responsibility. A Christian homemaker considers it her highest calling to care for her home and family, so she has chosen to set aside her own dreams and career goals while the children are young. The cabinets are well-stocked because she thought ahead and bought on sale. The clothes are washed and pressed regularly so no one has to fear finding nothing to wear. Meals are planned so that the family can eat together whenever possible. School projects are checked, and kids have what they need because she has stayed on top of things. Her husband can focus fully on his job as the sole breadwinner because his wife is taking care of everything else. Homemakers wear many hats: doctor, plumber, chef, chauffeur, teacher, carpenter, repairman, painter, counselor, maid, and researcher. Christian homemaking often includes spiritual adviser and even homeschool teacher.
Biblical homemaking is what happens when a wife and mother makes her home and family her top priority. Her time, effort, and finances reflect her concern for her family. She has set aside other full-time ventures to dedicate her attention to her husband and children. Homemaking can also be a season in a woman’s life that prepares her for another career or ministry when her children leave home. If she has been faithful in her first career, God will often entrust her with a broader outreach (see Luke 16:10). As an older woman, a former homemaker has much to offer younger women and can continue to glorify God by sharing her wisdom and experience.
While divorce and widowhood make full-time homemaking impossible for many women, married couples would be wise to reconsider the assumption that both spouses must work full-time when children are young. Both husbands and wives should value homemaking the way Scripture does (1 Timothy 5:14; Titus 2:5). If at all possible, when children are young, parents should make whatever sacrifices necessary to allow at least one of them to make homemaking the priority. Christian homemakers are in a better position to follow the instruction of Deuteronomy 6:5–9 than mothers who must be away from their children the majority of the time. At home, a mother can seize teachable moments and model a lifestyle of godliness in daily living. The lessons she learns during those years of full-time homemaking will serve her well in the future as she shares those lessons with younger parents trying to make decisions about raising their children.
While it seems from Scripture that homemaking should be a top priority for married mothers, there is no condemnation implied for those whose circumstances do not allow for full-time homemaking. Rising financial pressures have made it nearly impossible for some families to survive on one income, so, even when a mother would love to be a full-time homemaker, she may find it necessary to create an additional source of income. Homemaking can still be her priority, though, and she can demonstrate that by eliminating extra time-gobblers like dinners with coworkers, “girls’ night out” every week, or accepting invitations to events without her children.
When her time to parent is already so limited, an employed woman committed to homemaking will seize every opportunity to interact with her family, even at personal cost. She will take a child to the gym with her, take another to the grocery store, and forego fancy dinners in order to have more time to unwind with her husband. Employed homemakers work doubly hard to ensure that their families do not feel like they have slipped on her list of priorities. Some have even taken a leap of faith and quit their jobs, believing that God has called them to be home with their kids. Women called to homemaking will stretch the budget and eliminate extras in order to give their families more than money can buy. When God calls us to do something, He also provides what we need (Philippians 4:19). Like every other career path, Christians should seek the Lord’s plan in deciding whether full-time homemaking is His path for them.
