Thread: Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
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Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 7 Sep, 2007 12:44 PM
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When 2 people are not equally yoke, problems arise and it becomes a bigger gap in communication as the years go by. I know now that without God in the midst of a relationship, nothing comes good. Everything comes from God and ends with God.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 31 Aug, 2008 07:31 PM
It looks like this post has been around for a while, but I happened to come across this passage that lends support to various people's arguments (sorry if someone already mentioned it, but I didn't see it anywhere):
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 25 Dec, 2008 11:32 PM
Our weakness is God's opportunity to show how extraordinary His power is in our life. This is the glory of Christianity. It is not that we have no problems but precisely in every problem, there is the power to overcome even a broken neck or paralysis.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 11 Jan, 2009 04:47 PM
First, it is important to be equally yoked to the person that you are spending the rest of your life with. They could interrupt your walk. I am trying to find a fellow Christian, or rather a Christian fellow!
I think that non-Christian guys cannot possibly understand a commitment to abstinence before marriage. It is simply too hard for them to grasp that idea. They will constantly try to get you to compromise, and be waiting for you to "cave in". However, this narrows the dating possibilities. I wish "regular" guys could understand and accept that I want to wait to have sex (again) (I am not a virgin) until marriage, since I was "born again". But, I think most guys who are not Christians only have one thing on their mind and simply don't get the commitment that I now have. They think I am weird, a religious nut, and prude. Oh well!!!! See if I care! :nahnah: I am livin for Jesus!!!!
I feel very strongly about this, and hope that other Christians do too. I would hate to think that Christian guys think they can dabble in things that are meant for the sanctity of the marriage bed without getting into trouble with God. The Bible has alot to say about fornication, and nearly every single time it mentions which groups of people are NOT going to enter into the Kingdom of Heaven, it always mentions sexual immorality and fornication.
Don't do it! Literally!
Good luck in your walk, fellow Christian singles! :purpleangel:
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 14 Jan, 2009 09:11 PM
Well, first off, let's say this. I was married to a man who wasn't a christian. He didn't have a very high moral standing and he didnt support me in my beliefs. I'd beg his to go to church and of course he wouldn't. He started pulling me down. down, down. He's not the first person I've dated who didn't believe. And you know what, I've had some seriously BAD relationships.
I believe that God can't bless a marraige when there aren't two people who are both believers. If you're with a non-believer, that doesn't make them a bad person always, but from my experiences I've found.... they also don't have great values either and aren't really supportive. It's easy for someone to pull you down than it is for you to pull them up.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 15 Jan, 2009 05:59 PM
I believe very strongly that it is important to have a Christian BF or spouse simply because as a believer it is important to be with a man that shares the same ideals and is living their life according to God's plan for their life just the same as you are. If a christian is in a romantic relationship with a non-believer, be it dating or marriage, it can lead to nothing but chaos and heartbreak and I truly believe that God does not want that for us. He wants us to be with someone that He thinks would be the best choice and he wouldn't choose someone that would cause us pain. I personally believe that He is the ultimate matchmaker simply because He knows us better than anybody and he definitely knows what's best for us. So I would say to let God guide you and help you find the one that you're supposed to be with and when you do, leave whatever happens up to Him and ask for His wisdom and guidance every step of the way because He wants what's best for your life and just wants to give us the absolute best.:) May God Bless you and always remember to put God first in everything that you do because I promise you won't be disappointed.:)
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 17 Jan, 2009 09:46 PM
Hi Everyone,
For those of us who are single and dating or wanting to date or possibly engaged, there is a very important question we have to consider. Are we "equally Yoked" with the person we are dating or engaged to? The scriptures are actually very clear on this issue and we must truly submit to the will of God in this or else we are actually in disobedience to God Himself. If we are in disobedience to God, will He bless us? Not at all! Here is a passage that deals with this.
2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
First off I want you to see that we are not to be yoked together with an UNbeliever. What is an Unbeliever? It is a person who is not truly Born Again. A person who is not saved. Many people can "claim" they are a believer and say they believe in God but that doesn't make them a true believer. A true believer is someone who has had a true conversion in their heart and a change from their former life. It is someone who has accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior and has been Baptized by full imersion in water. Acts 2:38; John 3:3-5, Mark 16:16.
Notice in the verse above how Paul contrasts a believer who is righteous and is of light as opposed to the unbeliever who is unrighteous and is of darkness. So you see, it doesn't really matter how nice a person they may be or treat you. The bottom line is that if they are an unbeliever then they are still unrighteous and of darkness. But look below in the following verse where Paul uses even stronger language.
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
Paul quoted Ezekiel 37:26-27 which is a passage concerning a prophesy when God will rejoin the house of Israel and the house of Judah and make them one house again, one people and He will separate them from the Heathen. He will make a new Covenant with them. The point to this for us is that God wants us to be separate from pagans, heathens, the unsaved in the sense of marital relationships which would include dating obviously. While we have the responsibility to share the Gospel with all people otherwise how can they be saved apart from hearing the Word, we must not intermarry with them.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. KJV
God commands us to be separate from the unbelievers. Not isolationists mind you but separate with regards to marital relations.
I know there are many who think they can get a person saved while dating them. Though that would be great, it is a rare case for that to truly occur. Eventually, if you do marry an unbeliever, your walk with Christ will suffer. Your unbelieving spouse will hurt your spiritual walk. Remember that an unbeliever is NOT a child of God. Eventually, if you are truly putting the Lord first in your life and serving Him daily, your spouse will become jealous and your relationship will suffer and he or she may eventually leave you unless you compromise your devotion to God. How can you walk together unless you are both on the same path? It just cannot work and anyone who believes otherwise is only fooling themselves. How can an unbeliever truly respect Christ's commandments when they do not have a relationship with Him? How can they follow someone with whom they have not placed their total trust and faith in? How can they truly love someone with whom they do not really know? How can you expect someone to honor and respect your marriage vows when they do not love, respect, fear and trust in God and Christ who binds the marriage?
It doesn't matter how good looking they are or how well they treat you or how wealthy they are, for if that is what is motivating you then you have already compromised the integrity of your faith. Seek for those things that are eternal. Now especially for you ladies, the man you should marry is someone who is a spiritual leader. Someone who places God and Christ first in his life even above you and his family. If he is not of that caliber then he is not right for you. The question you have to ask yourselves is this. "Are you going to obey God and do HIS will or are you going to be disobedient to Him?
Concerning Paul's Epistles. 1Co 14:37 If any man think himself to be a prophet, or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things that I write unto you are the commandments of the Lord.
John 14: 21 "He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him."
22 Judas (not Iscariot) said to Him, "Lord, how is it that You will manifest Yourself to us, and not to the world?"
23 Jesus answered and said to him, "If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.
24 "He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father�s who sent Me. NKJV
