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Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 7 Sep, 2007 12:44 PM
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When 2 people are not equally yoke, problems arise and it becomes a bigger gap in communication as the years go by. I know now that without God in the midst of a relationship, nothing comes good. Everything comes from God and ends with God.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 7 Apr, 2008 01:35 PM
To me its something god gives spouse from his heart that he is love that doing when the right time to have and love a human being is when he is recieve that god remains center in my life that I will be alwayys dependent on him when his love is right and accepted. That doing the right thing is dignity in a relationship with him.That being who you our ,you deserve a spouse.thats important to meto be in the will of god. also its good that there both of the same faithbut not the spouse sactifies other spose in holiness both our preserve. there marriage and salvaion our saved because they our one in gods eye.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 24 May, 2008 06:53 PM
Angels6, that is really good advice that you gave. I'm not in a relatioinship right now, however a friend and I have been talking for almost a year and I am having doubts that he is the one for me. He believes in God in all and prays, but he really doesn't worship. I don't think I am any better than him; we just tend to be on two different levels. So, I'm going to let God lead me in the right direction.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 5 Jun, 2008 11:54 AM
Anyone who knows the scriptures knows that God has one way and 'man' (us humans) has another way. I believe that when we do things God's way we are happier and we certainly honor God and His word. Does that mean that we'll never have any problems? Heavens, no! It does mean that when we are equally yoked we can freely come to each other before God and seek His face for our solutions/ responses.
In my life I decided long ago to do "it", whatever it is, God's way. This I will not compromise. I love Jesus too much to do that. Does that mean I always do it right? No, because sometimes I forget, or I'm stubborn, or neglect to seek God first, but at least I do try.
Long answer for saying, "Do it God's way" and things work out better:applause:
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 19 Jun, 2008 12:16 PM
Hi Everyone,
For those of us who are single and dating or wanting to date or possibly engaged, there is a very important question we have to consider. Are we "equally Yoked" with the person we are dating or engaged to? The scriptures are actually very clear on this issue and we must truly submit to the will of God in this or else we are actually in disobedience to God Himself. If we are in disobedience to God, will He bless us? Not at all! Here is a passage that deals with this.
2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
First off I want you to see that we are not to be yoked together with an UNbeliever. What is an Unbeliever? It is aperson who is not truly Born Again. A person who is not saved. Many people can "claim" they are a believer and say they believe in God but that doesn't make them a true believer. A true believer is someone who has had a true conversion in their heart and a change from their former life. It is someone who has accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior and has been Baptized by full imersion in water. Acts 2:38; John 3:3-5, Mark 16:16.
Notice in the verse above how Paul contrasts a believer who is righteous and is of light as opposed to the unbeliever who is unrighteous and is of darkness. So you see, it doesn't really matter how nice a person may be or treat you. The bottom line is that if they are an unbeliever then they are still unrighteous and of darkness. But look below in the following verse where Paul uses even stronger language.
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
Paul quoted Ezekiel 37:26-27 which is a passage concerning a prophesy when God will rejoin the house of Israel and the house of Judah and make them one house again, one people and He will separate them from the Heathen. He will make a new Covenant with them. The point to this for us is that God wants us to be separate from pagans, heathens, the unsaved in the sense of marital relationships which would include dating obviously. While we have the responsibility to share the Gospel with all people otherwise how can they be saved apart from hearing the Word, we must not intermarry with them.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. KJV
God commands us to be separate from the unbelievers. Not isolationists mind you but separate with regards to marital relations.
I know there are many who think they can get a person saved while dating them. Though that would be great, it is a rare case for that to truly occur. Eventually, if you do marry an unbeliever, your walk with Christ will suffer. Your unbelieving spouse will hurt your spiritual walk. Remember that an unbeliever is NOT a child of God. Eventually, if you are truly putting the Lord first in your life and serving Him daily, your spouse will become jealous and your relationship will suffer and he or she may eventually leave you unless you compromise your devotion to God. How can you walk together unless you are both on the same path? It just cannot work and anyone who believes otherwise is only fooling themselves. How can an unbeliever truly respect Christ's commandments when they do not have a relationship with Him? How can they follow someone with whom they have not placed their total trust and faith in? How can they truly love someone with whom they do not really know? How can you expect someone to honor and respect your marriage vows when they do not love, respect and trust in God and Christ who binds the marriage?
It doesn't matter how good looking they are or how well they treat you or how wealthy they are, for if that is what is motivating you then you have already compromised the integrity of your faith. Seek for those things that are eternal. Now especially for you ladies, the man you should marry is someone who is a spiritual leader. Someone who places God and Christ first in his life even above you and his family. If he is not of that caliber then he is not right for you. The question you have to ask yourselves is this. "Are you going to obey God and do HIS will or are you going to be disobedient to Him?
Concerning Paul's Epistles. 1Co 14:37 If any man think himself to be a prophet, or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things that I write unto you are the commandments of the Lord.
John 14: 21 "He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him."
22 Judas (not Iscariot) said to Him, "Lord, how is it that You will manifest Yourself to us, and not to the world?"
23 Jesus answered and said to him, "If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.
24 "He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father�s who sent Me. NKJV
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 26 Jun, 2008 09:32 PM
YOU COULDN'T BE MORE RIGHT. THE MOST IMPORTANT IS TO SEEK GOD'S WILL FOR YOUR LIFE. ASK GOD TO BRING THE MAN OR WOMAN HE HAS FOR YOU. BEING WITH A NONCHRISTIAN WILL RESULT IN PROBLEMS. HE (SHE) WON'T BELIEVE THE SAME AS YOU AND WON'T RESPECT YOU FOR YOUR BELIEF. THE BIBLE SAYS THE NATURE MAN (NONBELIEVER) DOESN'T RECEIVE THE THINGS OF GOD AND THAT IT IS FOOLISHNESS TO THEM.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 4 Jul, 2008 05:32 PM
I'd challange all of you to reconsider something. You assume that having a GF/BF is actually biblical and blessed by God. For sure there is no doubt about marriage but have you ever though about what dating really entails? Go to this link to read one of the best biblical answer to the question "Is dating permissible to a Christian?"
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 8 Jul, 2008 04:13 PM
I agree with you DD. Knowing what the bible says that a spouse should be and holding to that standard is crucial. Cutting corners will lead to being unequally yoked and after you say, I Do - it may be too late. Why would anyone want to be unequally yoked? Everyone that has been born again and is in Christ has work to do for the Lord. We all should want someone that can support and work with us as we accomplish goals for Christ first and foremost.
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 14 Jul, 2008 04:53 AM
See what happened to Samson when he falls for Delilah (w/c do not belong to his people), the glory of God left him and he was put into captive by his enemies and got an unhorable death... we must pray for the will of God in order to have a successfull marriage life... God bless us all!:glow:
Why it is important to have a Christian GF/BF or spouse?
Posted : 9 Aug, 2008 08:05 PM
If two people are walking a separate path, they are not walking together. The Bible asks us what fellowship does light have with darkness? Look, let's face it, there are enough obstacles to overcome just being male and female! But, when you have a Christian with a non-Christian, you will not have unity. Why play around with giving your heart to someone who doesn't love the Lord?
I will take it a step further and say that you shouldn't just "settle" for someone who claims they are a Christian. You should be an equal with them in your maturity level as much as possible. I have seen mature believers with immature believers and there is a lack of relational experiences you have with that mate. I have done this myself, just settled for men who claimed the name but were not mature in their walks. One went on to accept some cult off the internet and now says the Bible is figurative only, there is no hell, and Jesus already came back. The other didn't have a strong commitment to the Lord so his lack of commitment to me was just a symptom of His relationship with God. I think a spouse's relationship with us can be directly proportional to their depth of relationship with God.
So, I encourage all of you singles out there to not rush into a relationship like I did, settling for someone who you think will just meet the bill. Hold out for a mate who is on your level spiritually. You will have SO much more to share with them. Your walk with God can be while holding hands with them! I think this encompasses being "equally yoked."
