Author	Thread: Does Age Matter???
mssuplada21 View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 4 Jul, 2012 08:45 AM What would be the advantage and disadvantage of having partner of the same age?? and What would be the advantage and disadvantage of having 10+ age gap?? Post Reply
View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2012 07:35 AM For me, it doesn't matter. I don't mind dating men 10+ years older than me. What matters most is we are "equally yoke". Post Reply
View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 31 Oct, 2012 08:28 PM Yes, controlling your desires comes with age, some of us sooner than others. Post Reply
View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 31 Oct, 2012 08:43 PM I think when both reach the age of 40 and beyond age does not matter so much, My X is 12 yrs. younger than I and I married her when I was 40 and she was 28 that did not work so well . I think if I was 52 and she was 40 when we got married it would have worked out better. Basically when a person is 40 they are mature enough that it is less likely to be an issue. Post Reply
View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 31 Oct, 2012 08:57 PM It also just depends on the individuals, some people mature sooner than others, but a couple should make absolutely sure both are mature enough before marriage and not rush into anything. My X and I rushed into ours finding out later we did not have as much in common as we thought, and both wanted different things. Just a word of advice. Post Reply
Jeje85 View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 1 Nov, 2012 08:08 AM I'd like to agree with mibesfriend (I am sorry for the mispelling). It is way wiser and better to really know that person characters before get married. Whether or not you can balance out the gap of age and make sure that you are ready to spend your whole life with that person even though you already figured out all the bad sides of that person. because oftentimes regret always come too late...just like mibesfriend said...later they figured out that they didnt have much same interests like they thought, too many differences...so good Christian friends or families are needed, especially for anyone who is in love because love can make us blind..make us cannot see things that we are supposed to see before decide to get married. Theoretically, scientist say that women tend to be more mature faster than men, BUT practically I'd say it goes back to the social background of that person. Case A, there is a man who grew up in a family where he lost father's figure since he was a little boy and he had to take care of the family. For this reason at some points, this young man can be more mature or as mature as men who are around 30's. in another case, there is a man, around his 30's, comes from quite rich family. He gets used to have everything he wants, anytime he wants. He gets used to have fun and live just for his pride. Everyone praises him and always tries to make him stay happy. When he faces some situations like having to share with others, taking care of others, we can say that the guy in case A can be more mature than guy in case B. but speaking from experience, I felt a huge differences between dating a guy younger than me, dating a guy close to my age and dating a guy some years older than me. Quite surprising that the guy (my ex) who is younger than me, could manage a conflict well enough, although we ended up with a break, but it was for each other's good, no hatred..While with my ex who is older than me, i tried to suggest the same method to solve the conflict, by talking heart to heart, and I was listening, but still he didn't even care about my feeling and refused to look back at the bible to solve the problem. But I also know some older guys who are indeed wiser because they are more experienced in many life departments and the younger men are still child inside. In all relationship there is always a potential conflict. So, when it comes about maturity, especially in solving conflicts, leading the relationship, growing in faith..etc.. I do think that..maturity is a matter of perspective and it is an applied 'science' which is so much influenced by One's social background and that person's personalities. And no one is perfect. Let Christ make the couple perfect to love, forgive and support each other. I am not sure if this can bring any help, just feeling nice if we can share thoughts. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Does Age Matter??? Posted : 1 Nov, 2012 03:01 PM You are so right about love making you blind, I was blinded by it when I got married. I hope we at least helped 1 person with this conversation. God Bless you all and take care. Post Reply

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