Author	Thread: Pursuit
Ruth4 View Profile History	Pursuit Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 11:26 AM I know this is a CHRISTIAN website and mostly everyone who is on here is looking for a good man or woman to have a relationship with we"re not looking for anything immoral and seeking a Godly relationship(at least that what I hope). I know it can be a process of finding the right person. What I want to know is that how should two people treat each other when they are dating one another? Is it okay to jump from one person to another to another if we can't find what we are looking for in someone? Or should we wait patiently on God to bring us the right person. I know I have had a few dates myself where the other person doesn't have what I am looking for and vice versa where I don't meet the other person's expectations. I know sometimes we don't want to hurt the other person feelings or be hurt and we ourselves know when its not the "one" it is not the one. Sometimes we do get our hearts broken ourselves cause we are happy with someone then out of the blue things change and they leave. Should we automatically decide quickly when we meet someone new to move one or give it a chance? Should we judge the other person how they have gone about pursuing other relationships before they meet us. I have had my experience on here where some men do "claim" to be a Godly man but they don't live by the Word, is this right? Why should some people pursue a relationship on here when they don't have the right intentions? Post Reply
View Profile History	Pursuit Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 05:16 PM Good questions. I think we have all asked these questions, and all struggle with these issues. How do two people treat each other? I can only answer for myself. How the other person treats me is up to him. I treat him as I want to be treated. I treat him in a way that honors God. Jumping? Well, do you mean serial monogamus dating, or serial dating? Now, in the online world, you can have serial contacts going on --- in other words be talking to more than one person. Until you get to know each other all you are doing is saying "Hi" and finding out more about each other -- you are not exclusive. Moving on? If the person is incompatible, it really is better to let them know. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes and while it may hurt their feelings in the short term, it is much better (for both) in the long term if you find a way to politely say you are not compatble. Decide quickly? Like -- speed dating? I don't think deciding quickly, labeling, judging, etc. a person quickly is honoring to God. People are different, and some take more time to know than others. Give the person as many chances as you yourself would like to have. Why should some people pursue a relationship on here when they don't have the right intentions? I have run into these folks on here too. They are players -- they like the chasing and catching, then lose interest. Their minds are set on worldly things and not heavenly, long-lasting things. The way to weed these kinds of folks out (in my experience) is to wait. They do not want a sustained relationship -- they want quick gratification. Once the initial "Oooo! She's so wonderful!" wears off they lose interest. So go slow and steady and wait it out. That has worked for me; others may have other experiences. Post Reply
Ruth4 View Profile History	Pursuit Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 07:52 PM Good advice Godslamb! Post Reply