Author	Thread: Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted?
LovesTheSunshine View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 05:12 PM Ive recently broken up with my boyfriend because I fell out of love and even though it was my decision I feel more broken hearted then ever before. Noone really understands. They think cause I fell out of love and broke up with him I should be relieved. arg :( Post Reply
View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 05:44 PM No, because I've never had love. I've been in love I believe but I've only had someone tell me they love me but I've never had someone show me. There's a huge difference between the two and someone showing you is the best way to experience love. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 08:18 PM You're probably feeling bad because you've lost all the hopes and dreams you had with this individual. Your post scares me to death, though. I wonder if someday my gf or wife will announce that she fell out of love. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 12 Nov, 2010 09:18 PM I kind of know how you feel. Sometimes you have the desire to love someone, even if the stuff they do brings their side of the "deal" into question, or they do stuff that isn't "healthy" for your relationship. Sometimes it just goes to far and you can't live with it. Then you wonder why they keep doing it if they "really love" you, and then you start to lose your attraction to them. You don't want to be with them...but you still love them. Real love hopes/endures all things, and it's hard to really stop loving someone. I think that's just the nature of real love though. You never really stop caring for people, you just can't stay with/stay attracted to them in a "romantic relationship". :peace::peace: Post Reply
LovesTheSunshine View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 13 Nov, 2010 08:57 PM I apologize, I never meant to scare anyone. You are right. I lost all my hopes and dreams. I finally thought this was the man I was going to be with forever, and now that I cant see a future it really hurts. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 13 Nov, 2010 10:20 PM When you first meet someone and start seeing them on a regular basis and find yourself "falling In Love"...your brain tells your body to produce a variety of chemicals that give you a "high" (feeling of Euphoria). This lasts anywhere from 6 months up to 2 years (on adverage). This is when you either start the "Real Love" (if you have mutual likes and dislikes) and this is where many couples end up breaking up. The excitement and "Thrill" of being In Love wears off and the real work brgins. If the two of you are "Really" In Love then you will end up having a long relationship (depending on how ready both of you are). My advicr is "learn from your failures" and strive to be better and to do better. Steve Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 12:15 AM Archimedes This is very well said, thank you. Yes I can't stress this enough how we get confused by our bodies and the releasing of endorphins. Unfortunately love is not like the movies and it will take work to keep it on track. I look around me and see all the relationships falling apart. It is sad as it is not necessary in most cases. People do for the most part do not really know the person they are dating. A lot of what you think they are is realy just the fantasy in your head. The best way to actually make a relationship work is to be realistic. To understand that there are going to be times that you do not like your partner. That you will some times feel too tired to put in the work but know you must. Love is a choice and not just some thing that you have no control over. Infatuation and being in love is not love. Once you understand the difference and how you have control over making your relationship work the better it can be. It is very possible to also be in love once you actually love your partner. Falling in love can happen in an instant but actually love takes time. It takes work to maintain. Even if your relationship has died it is possible to breath life back into it. You both have to be willing but it is very possible. Also it's not just up to your partner to make you happy. If you are board of them and think some one else will make you so much happier then you will be very disappointed. The fantasy will once again wear off and you will once again be disappointed. Unfortunately people seam to hae to go through a few relationships to finely realize that there is no perfect person out there. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 12:23 AM I must apologise for that post. Reading over it I realized how I am too tired to write properly. Hope it was not too painful a read and you were able to get the content. We really need the option to edit our posts once it is posted and easer to read over. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 11:21 AM Well, I've felt broken hearted, but I don't think that I "fell out of love". I was in a relationship for just over three months, and I really thought that he was "the one"...and he lead me to believe that he felt the same. Three months might seem like a short period of time, but both of us really wanted to get married, and we saw no point in dating casually...our relationship would have been called "courting" by a lot of people! Anyway, I don't think I really loved him yet, but was certainly on my way to falling in love with him. After all, love is often a choice, not just an ooey gooey feeling. I was at the point where I was ready to make that choice. So was he, and he made the choice NOT to fall in love with me. (That's what he said, actually. He was ready to fall in love, but he wasn't going to fall in love with ME.) Talk about being crushed. That was in mid-April of this year, and I'm just now really seeing how God was behind that break-up for reasons that are too lengthy to go into here. I realized quickly that it wasn't that I was heartbroken because HE was out of my life forever, but because I'd been putting a lot of hope into that relationship. I was already picturing a future with him, and was rather happy with that prospect. When he broke up with me, he killed every single dream that I'd had, every hope, every little happy thought about my future. I think what you are feeling is understandable, but take it from me...turn to God. That's not what I wanted to hear in mid-April, but that's where I found comfort. God will heal your broken heart, and give you new hopes and dreams. Post Reply
LovesTheSunshine View Profile History	Ever fall out of love and feel broken hearted? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 05:15 PM Thank you all for your help and advice and also trust in the Lord. I know that with every door he closes he opens another one. It is very hard to see that at first but I am slowly seeing better things for my future. Post Reply