Author	Thread: Frustrated and Hurt
Admin	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 17 May, 2010 03:53 AM I have been praying about renewing my contract for the next school year, finding a different teaching job somewhere else in China, or returning home and find a job in the States for almost 2 months. I have known for about 2 weeks that I am supposed to stay in China, at my current school, but I didn't want to admit it to anybody because I didn't want it to be true (most days). So I have been wrestling with my Father for two weeks and I decided that I was going to get a job in the states, so I started looking and I told my best friend that I was looking because we talk all the time and we tell each other almost everything. For everything I found there was always some thing that disqualified me from the job-like I had to be a male, I had to have such and such experience, or I had to be in or just finishing college. It just confirmed even more what I already knew. This morning I was going to pick up a package from the International Office and I wondered if I could still renew my contract, so I started talking to my Father about it. After every question the response was Matt 6:34 "Do not worry about tomorrow". Will I be able to go home without having to pay for my own ticket? What about the return flight, if they pay for the ticket home will I have to pay my own way back? I knew the office would ask me about it, because I was supposed to give them an answer two weeks ago, and they did. So I asked about going home and they said they would pay for the ticket home and they would pay for me to come back, all I had to do was give dates and the route I wanted to take! I didn't want to fight anymore so I signed the contract for the next school year and I felt an immediate rush of peace and the weight I had been carrying on my shoulders was gone! I knew that's what I was supposed to do. I was so excited, so I sent an email to my best friend to tell her about it. We talked almost on a daily basis last week and she knows that I have been extremely discouraged and having a really hard time with some things-not just my classes. She emailed me back almost immediately saying "Is this what God told you or a result of your fears of not being able to find a job in Omaha?" She went on for pages about how she doesn't care anymore - she doesn't want to hear me complain about how miserable my life is or how frustrated I am because one student showed up to class, she isn't going to pray for me anymore, and she isn't going to be on facebook until 3am hoping that I will be online. I am just a little frustrated and hurt by her response. I don't think that my life is miserable, I just have a lot of things I am struggling with and she knows that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 17 May, 2010 05:16 AM maybe God hardened her heart. you know how he did with the pharaoh in egypt when he wanted moses to lead his people in the exodus. i heard somewhere when you can't find someone to talk to, no one seems to care it's because God wants your undivided attention :winksmile: so, be honest with yourself, continue to feel the way you feel. don't force "happyness" but just keep in mind that God is up to something good and be thankful you'll be fine. he'll start to show you stuff:dunce: as the guy said, don't worry! Post Reply
View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 17 May, 2010 09:11 PM Katie, I'm really sorry that your friend is being like that. It sounds like you did the right thing and I think that we ALL need to vent to our friends from time to time. In fact, we are supposed to bear one another's burdens. I would give her a few days to think about what she said and then contact her and express to her what you've said here. Hopefully, she'll take it to heart and apologize. If not, then I would could continue to pray for her and be kind to her... But, I would not consider her to be a true friend. Fair-weather friends are not the kind of persons to have as close friends. "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity," (Proverbs 17:17). Post Reply
View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 17 May, 2010 09:57 PM I think she'll come around. It happens with friends and people you get close to. It's good for people to say what they feel, even if it's ugly, at least it's honest. Try not to hold it against her. Things will get better because you'll know each other better. :glow: Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 18 May, 2010 03:35 AM It is the classic case of a friend who listens to you and hears you say you want to go back to the USA and prays for you to do so and then hears you say that God has decided to have you stay in China. She is upset because she does not understand what the real function of praying for somebody else means. If somebody is in doubt of what decision one has to take, we cannot pray in the form of solutions. Like for instance, dear LORD help Katie be strong enough to come back to the US! I feel that this is exactly what she has been doing. The right way to pray is: dear LORD help Kathie see Your Will. Now she is very upset with you as she feels you have not listened to the LORD but do your own will. In reality she is upset with her prayers not being answered. She is wondering why the LORD could make you do the opposite for what she has been praying so hard for.... Just know for yourself what is the real problem here and do not be hurt or frustrated because of it. Ooh and by the way, I do not think you should point this out to her, she is not able to confront this yet. Give it some time, she will figure it out. Post Reply
View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 18 May, 2010 06:09 AM sos that's quite a brilliant analysis of the situation, shows a true light of experience. i can see what your saying. Post Reply
View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 18 May, 2010 06:07 PM Katie, It's only for a season :) Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Frustrated and Hurt Posted : 19 May, 2010 09:38 PM Katie.... congratulations!! You're getting your prompts from the one that it "most" important! Our Lord! Your "Father".... Sometimies we gotta take time to think about whose opinion/input is most important. You already know that my sis. You just vow to be available for your friend regardless of how she's responded to you. Don't be frustrated. God has blessed you with an arena fulll of other believers who are standing by you in support, even if she isn't... But, continue to be the same friend you've been to her, no matter what . You are to be the salt and light... no matter what, no matter who.... ~ GraceMae Post Reply