Moving on with my life after getting hurt once again- an update
Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 03:01 AM
A few weeks ago I wrote on the forum just after I got dumped and rejected once again by someone that I thought loved me for me and wanted to be with me and I was so upset over it I was in tears and ready to give up ever finding love because I was just sick and tired of getting hurt and thought I would never find anyone that will ever love me for who I am simply because I thought I wasn't good enough for anyone to love me. I got a lot of great advice and it helped me a lot and I am grateful that people wanted to help me. I know it's been a while, but I thought I would give an update on the situation and what's happened since then. I found out a few days later that the reason my ex-bf dumped me was because his family and friends were putting ideas in his head about me that were not true, like what do you think she's doing when she's not talking to you, making it look like I was messing around and cheating on him with other guys and that I was only after him for his money or what he could do for me...and I am not that kind of woman because that kind of stuff goes against everything I believe in and stand for from a moral and ethical standpoint, but they managed to convince him that I was even though according to what he had told me about his family and friends..well lets just say they are not exactly saints or perfect little angels themselves and from what I heard about what they do and how they live their lives they have no right talking about anyone or judging anyone on anything they do or thinking that they're so morally superior to everyone else, which is one of the reasons why I don't judge anyone regardless because I know that nobody's perfect and the only one that has any right to judge anyone is God and I am most definitely not even remotely interested in doing His job.
Fast forward to a few days after I heard the real story he tried to apologize for what happened even though he denied knowing about it but I know he was in the room when all that was going on because I could hear him in the background but didn't want to take responsibility and face up to what he did, but I told him that while I accepted his apology and I do forgive him because God expects us to forgive everyone, but since he apparently thought it was ok to let his friends call me all kinds of vulgar names that I will not mention here simply because this is a christian site and since his family and friends thought I was only after his money and thought I wasn't good enough for him and especially since he couldn't break up with me himself, he had his friends do it for him, that we didn't have anything else to discuss and when he can be the good man that I thought he was and that I know he can be, he knew where to find me if he wanted to talk, but don't expect me to be waiting for him because I could be with someone else by then. I know that it sounded cold for me to say that to him, but that's how I had felt and that's just how hurt I was.
You never know what will happen, only God knows what's going to happen. I will be honest and say that it hurt a lot, but I think that its better it happened now than later like if we were together for a while or if we had got married or if I had got pregnant, because if they were willing to make up that kind of stuff about me to come in between me and him, God only knows what other kind of stuff they would have said about me on down the line and I know the meddling would have went on and on and they would have got their way regardless because I believe that the meddling and interfering by his family and friends would have never ended no matter what happened. Don't get me wrong, when I am with someone, I would never come in between him and his family and friends because I strongly believe that those relationships are important and I would have been polite and respectful towards them regardless of whether I liked them or got along with them or not, but if all they wanted to do was meddle in mine and his relationship and I can only speculate as to why they kept interfering and things of that nature, then it would have caused a lot of problems long-term simply because there is so much anyone can take before they have enough. I believe I can find someone better that is a real God-fearing man that has his life together and that will love me for who I am, not someone who lets other people make decisions for him and run his life for him.
I believe that everything happens for a reason and maybe he wasn't the right one for me to settle down with and start a life and family with, I was just really scared to death that at 29 years old, I truly thought that this might very well be my last chance to have the husband and family I have always dreamed about because I am definitely not getting any younger...but as much as I would love more than anything in this world to start a family and have as many kids as God will allow me to have and that He sees fit to bless me with, I shouldn't bring innocent children into a dysfunctional situation such as what I had described and allow them go through the pain and drama like that and maybe there will be someone else that will love me and appreciate me for who I am as a woman and who wants the same things as I do, a man that wants to settle down and start a life and family together with someone that would love him and appreciate him for who he is unconditionally and I treat people the same as I would like to be treated by them no matter what. I have praying to God to not only give me the strength to deal with that, but for Him to guide me and show me what He wants for me as He's been doing for me the last 4 years when I turned my life over to God and lead me to the one lucky man that He wants me to find who will give me the love that I would like to have for the rest of my life. Well, thanks for your help, everyone and if you have any thoughts or advice for me, I would love to hear it. God bless you and be with you always and always put Him first in everything you do
Moving on with my life after getting hurt once again- an update
Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 05:04 AM
angel-girl, be encouraged. take heart! song time will pass and you will feel alot better, feep on praying and God will surely see you through!
now... about that guy. the fact that he sit there and let his friends ad family talk to you like that would have usurped what ever he did in the FIRST place. girl........ that guy has no spine! which is the ABSOLUTE WORST things a guy can do, be, aspire to be or resemble. smh their's nothing wrong with you :yay: dear angel, HE'S A WUSS!!!
Moving on with my life after getting hurt once again- an update
Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 05:04 AM
angel-girl, be encouraged. take heart! song time will pass and you will feel alot better, feep on praying and God will surely see you through!
now... about that guy. the fact that he sit there and let his friends ad family talk to you like that would have usurped what ever he did in the FIRST place. girl........ that guy has no spine! which is the ABSOLUTE WORST things a guy can do, be, aspire to be or resemble. smh their's nothing wrong with you :yay: dear angel, HE'S A WUSS!!!
Moving on with my life after getting hurt once again- an update
Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 10:28 PM
Hi, this is a great pleasure to meet you! My name is Yoshua Aguilar, I too was dismissed as a paper to be thrown away.
but you know what, I made mistakes I will not re-commit, and you know, I do not regret anything, because if I did something that was wrong, it was for love, real love, and if I might have felt, because that person really missed it.
and maybe that person did not care my love, it was his problem, that person really missed it. He really doesnt know the damage that he did, but we must pray to God for those people who in their hands so they have something valuable, and that they do not know how to appreciate.
Even I feel that guy played with my innocence, a love fully innocent, but in the end, God will give you strength you need, as He is giving to me, cuz the person who i still loving said goodbye to me four days ago. hehehe
and he is looking right know another person...
I just can say to him.. God bless you, be happy, dont play with other girls... and.. bye 4ever! and i really pray to God that a girl dont play with you....
so... my friend... be more strong.. God loves you.. that�s the most important love over all loves!:applause:
