Author	Thread: Experience Galore
BrandonB94 View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 9 Aug, 2017 03:47 PM I met a wonderful girl about 2 years ago online and not long after meeting and talking online, we met in person. She lived 2 hours away so I drove to the church she goes to and we met there. After that, we started dating. I would drive down to where she lived almost every week and we would just hang out for most of the day and then I'd return home. This costed me a lot of money and time, but for her, it was worth it. I got to know her family, and well, they didn't like me and I didn't like them but it was fine. I remained respectful to them even if they treated me like dirt. After about a year, we got engaged. On Valentine's Day. It was her favorite day after all. I planned to go to the park where we had our first, where I had my first kiss, and propose to her but instead, there was a blizzard and I ended up proposing in my car. She hated it. She told all of her friends how awful the proposal was. I brought her flowers, made her her favorite cookies, white chocolate macadamia nut, but none of it mattered because the proposal was awful to her. After that, I became a bit distant. Over the next year, I had several part time jobs but to her, I needed a full time job so I eventually moved in with her and her family and held a full time job, and after a month of being talked down to, told what to do with my money, when to get married, and how the wedding should be, I went back home. A month later, she moved in with my family and I because her family was ready to kick her out for staying with me. And another month later, she went back home due to getting sick. We became even more distant. I stopped going down to visit her and she refused to come and visit my family and I. And then I found out that she has been talking to other guys behind my back. It wouldn't been a big issue except that I was not allowed to have female friends. And so after a lot of fighting, tears and silence, she broke up with me. I tried to make things work between us but I guess we just weren't meant to be. It's only been a month since we broke up and I'm still coming to terms with everything that's happened and I feel it will be a long process to get over it all, but I've learned a lot throughout the past 2 years and that makes it all okay. If you read through this, I thank you for one. And for two, I pray and hope that if you're dealing with similar pain, that God helps you through it. The biggest help for me has been prayer and I know that doesn't help everyone, but I hope you can find peace through whatever storm you're in. Post Reply
View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 12 Aug, 2017 07:05 AM If someone told me that he's going to give me a million dollars, I wouldn't care whether he gives it to me on a perfect sunny day or stormy day... Post Reply
View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 12 Aug, 2017 07:10 AM Maybe one of the problems was that you made all the investments and you didn't let her invest in the relationship. You did all the driving. You bought the chocolate. But you never mention what she did. Did she make an equal value investment into the relationship? Did she pay for your fuel to drive there? Did she pay for some of your expenses while you were there with her? Did she buy you something of equal value? When one person makes all the investments in a relationship, it gets out of balance and eventually it falls apart. This can either be a cause of breakup or an indicator that something is going wrong. When two people both think it is beneficial for them to be together, then they both make about equal contributions to be able to see each other and be together. unless you're helping out a street girl who is totally broke and has no possessions whatsoever. Post Reply
View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 12 Aug, 2017 07:14 AM I am sorry for what happened to you. I hope the next one is successful ! Post Reply
BrandonB94 View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 18 Aug, 2017 08:32 PM She did sometimes, but the relationship was very unbalanced and I did mention this to her more than once. In the end, it came to me not having enough money, ironically. Post Reply
View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 21 Aug, 2017 09:52 PM Do not be discouraged, the lady of your dreams has not yet arrived. Have faith in God and also try to meet other girls. Do not get depressed, exercise and be always handsome because you never know where love will shine for you. God bless you! Post Reply
BrandonB94 View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 22 Aug, 2017 09:47 PM Thank you, I appreciate it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Experience Galore Posted : 2 Jun, 2018 12:21 PM Amen it will work out in the end. You are blessed. Forgive everyday...these things or situations are often painful. Your story has helped allot of people. Post Reply