Author	Thread: Lonely...oh, so lonely... :(
OldTimeRadioFan View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 12 Nov, 2015 04:56 PM I was married for over six years to a woman who I loved deeply, and who I THOUGHT loved me. Turns out, she had an agenda: she ONLY wanted children. After the divorce, she freely admitted this. We had two children: a son, who was only a little over a year old when she lied to her OB doctor and said I had emotionally abused her (she had, in reality, been abusing ME), and had the police tell me I had to leave with no recourse on my behalf (and it was over a MONTH before I was able to get the court to force her to allow me to see my son!); and a daughter, who my wife was pregnant with when we were separated, and who I didn't even know was born until three days after the fact. She lied to the court during the divorce proceedings and said that her beliefs were "similar to mine" (NOW she tells our children that she does NOT believe in Christ, and their only exposure to God's Word and Salvation through His Son is when they are with me), and even though she makes about twice as much money as I do, she got the court to award her so much child support that I was ultimately forced to move back in with my parents (yet she tells the children she is "better than me" because she spends more money on them - including buying them expensive gifts in a calculated attempt to try to buy their love away from me. That, at least, has thankfully failed...). The judge overseeing the case even said that the way she had treated me "could be construed as domestic violence", but the court STILL gave her primary custody once the kids started school on the Darwinistic premise that "the mother is generally the better parent in most cases". I have been trying to find a TRUE Christian woman to spend my time and share my life with, who could love my children as if they were her own, and who doesn't think I am some kind of loser because of my life circumstances. I have had no luck, and I am very, very lonely. I love my parents, but we have no interests in common (except my kids) and they sometimes seem to forget I am no longer 16 years old and need to be able to make my own decisions and live my own life with friendly advice but NOT interference or attempts to control. I can't afford to travel long distances to meet people (due to being a court-ordered ATM machine for my ex), but I don't live near any large cities so the pool of single Christian women I would be interested in going out with - and just as important, would be interested in going out with me - appears to be very small (perhaps non-existent?). My hobbies and interests aren't very mainstream - many are rather "geekish/nerdish" (i.e., ham radio, electronics, metal detecting, old time radio, etc.), I am absolutely not interested in sports (I especially detest football...), and I really don't like dogs (why do so many single women have to have dogs instead of cats?), so finding someone who has ANY of my interests in common is also slim. What can I do, within reason? More than anything, first and foremost, I need a friend... Post Reply
View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 15 Nov, 2015 08:05 PM Always tuned in to God's Word. Whatever difficulties in life we trod it give us a lesson to learn. I pray that through God grace you can find true happiness in life. Seek God word everyday and He will lead you the the right path. I know God is in control. He died for you. He will take the pain and agony you've suffered. God bless you and your family. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 18 Nov, 2015 01:30 AM God will guide you He has good plans for His people. No matter what you going through,don't give up.God makes ways where there si no way at all,remember He removed water fro a stone,He sees beyond us,just trust in Him,even as you continue looking.Believe He has something good for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 22 Dec, 2015 11:18 AM Yeah it sucks the way the legal system chews up and spits fathers out - and we don't even have it as bad here in the UK - but take heart because if you stay involved with your kids then they will eventually learn to see through all the lies they're being told and will appreciate your love and sacrifices. That takes time though, maybe not until their teenage years or even beyond. Once they've grown up you could consider emigrating and starting a new life in another country - maybe you'll even meet a better woman there as our experiences seem more prevalent in western culture. In the meantime though, you are totally correct, you need a friend: they don't necessarily need to be Christians provided you have some of those already, but you need to enjoy your time and hobbies. I know those hobbies aren't generally appealing to women, but the guys you'll befriend doing those hobbies will have sisters, friends-of-friends, etc. so you'll still widen your exposure overall. Post Reply
she_angelle View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 31 Dec, 2015 06:22 AM Hi everyone, i write here because i want to share my broken hearts. im married last 2004 to man i love but in year 2006 he abandoned me.. ill try to contact him and go to his parents house but nothing happen he does not want to talk to me. that time i want to end my life but all of sudden i read a verse on a bible Jeremiah 29:11.. till now thats word if God is my strenght.. I know that God has plan each overyone of us.. Post Reply
Hark View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 15 Feb, 2016 06:50 PM I feel for you Bro. My wife divorced me about seven years ago. My divorce was horrific, but not as bad as yours. I realize now that had I given more of my heart to God; that I never would have married her. My understanding of her relationship with God should have been that only criteria on my list of questions to her about our compatibility. God calls us to be evenly yoked. I should have listened more carefully. His will be done. After the divorce, I moved over a thousand miles away from friends and family; and have been very much alone for almost seven years. Since the divorce I have set out to follow his will more carefully. Since then, I have moved from one failed prospect to the next. It has been heart wrenching; but it was for my own good. God chastises his children. I have learned many lessons the hard way. God has recently given me the conviction to move closer to him than ever. I met a woman who recently found the same conviction. We think alike in every way that we have talked about. God wasn't ready for me to meet this woman until recently. I found her through my love for him. Had I married again, before I fully came to the understanding of who God is, that I now have, I would have again been unevenly yoked. Be patient my brother; remember that God loves his children; and he wants what is best for us. Remember that you belong to him; and so you are on his time. Post Reply
lovehope3 View Profile History	Lonely...oh, so lonely... :( Posted : 7 May, 2016 09:22 AM GOD Bless and provide for all struggling with loneliness. In JESUS Mighty NAME. AMEN. Post Reply