It was January of 2013 when we found each other on a facebook page of our favorite basketball team. We became fb friends and there started a simple conversation which eventually led to an online relationship. At first I was hesitant because our only communication would be online since he is currently working on another country. But he asked for a chance and was able to convince me that a relationship is worth a try.
Months passed and we were happy with what we have. He always told me that he loves me ALWAYS and FOREVER. I can even see him as lifetime partner. There were some instances that we talked about getting married and build a family. He even told me that he would be home December, for Christmas break. I was very excited because finally I would be with the man I love. But August came and it seems like he started being cold to me. We've started to have little arguments coz he doesnt like it when I ask him about the girls she's having conversation with on FB. I can't help it,maybe I was a bit paranoid because of the distance between us and the fact we started with the same conversations fb and I feel worried that he might fall for someone else. Then September approached,my birthmonth. First week I was hospitalized because of Dengue fever. He never called. When I was discharged I got a message from him asking if I was feeling better. I replied that thankfully I have fully recovered.
But then to my surprise, he started talking about ending our relationship, that he's not happy that we kept on having arguments and he does not want to hurt me more.
I was dumbfounded that I don't know how to react. I loved him so much that I told him I will try to be more understanding and trusting. I will stop nagging him about the girls he talks to and we would work things out. He said okay.
We never broke up that moment yet he was never the same. I tried to be optimistic and continued showing him that I love him. November when he talked about breaking up again. I was so hurt that I agreed to what he wants. I was broken so I decided not to open my fb page for some months. I dont wanna see him.
March this year when I decided to open my fb account. I was already better that time. I was not that affected whenever I see him online. I felt happy. But then he sent me a message asking how I was doing. I replied that I am fine. Our short chitchats continued til April. At the back of my mind I know that I still love him but I know it would be better if I know if he feels the same way. So I confronted him, I said that I can live with him out of my life and I want to totally forget him so if he does not feel anything special towards me we should stop talking to each other. But then he told me that he does not want me to forget him and said he never stopped loving me.
Foolish as I was, I believed him. I let myself fall all over again. I was very hopeful. But then after a few weeks he started being cold again. He seldom send me messages, and I often seen him having conversation with a girl on his fb wall. So again, I confronted him, asked him what was wrong. He then told me that I should forget him. I felt like the most stupid person on earth. I feel so small and lost my confidence . I was thinking, Am I that worthless that he does not even seem to bother pushing me out of his life? I was really depressed, I felt cheated and hopeless. I lost my faith in FOREVER. I told myself I would never fall inlove again.
Thank God that He never left me. The moment I was suffering from pain He made me feel that I am not alone. It was Him whom I always cry to at night. I prayed and prayed that He may help me forget that man and move on with life. I trust in His words that He heals broken hearts and binds their wounds. And He never failed me.
Now I am fully aware that my ex have a new girlfriend and he seem to be very much inlove with her. It still hurts a bit but my prayer is not for myself anymore, or for him to be back in my arms again. I am praying for his new girl. That she may not be hurt the way I was and that their relationship would last. That they may be happy.
That I guess is the outcome when we let God heal us, we will never feel bitter towards those who hurt us, rather we would pray for them not to experience what we felt. I am really grateful that God made me realize that His plans are the best for me. That I should not give up on life just because I never get what I wanted. That I should only trust His will and His timing.
Thank you for reading my story. God bless everyone! :waving:
Hi PPrincess, thank you very much for sharing I am broken, he is happy. I am now going thru this situation too where the man is not into marrying you but sweet talks to you with promises! He is a Christian so I thought I can believe at first what he says. Subsequently he revealed that he is not into marrying but enjoying the 'desires of our heart'. I refuse to do that as I do not want to sin against God. So I am trying to forget him. Hope you will find a good faithful sincere Christian man. Lets start looking to Him and be strenghten in our faith again.
I have read your story and I don't think it's really anybody's fault. It's difficult to love someone that you can't see or feel.
God is safe for us because we can think what we want to think inside of our minds but we cannot control other people or what they want they want to do. To love God you must learn how to love other people, love your enemy as well because even people who don't know God love their neighbor when times are good.
You have to love those people even if they may have seemed to fail you. It is just like if you have a child, you can't abandon your child just because they fail you. That is why you have to think very long and hard before you decide to commit to a relationship or decide to have a kid.
I think almost everyone has had a broken heart dear but a the end you grow to realize what walked out of your life was not really meant for you. there are better things ahead. the best gift you can give yourself is forgiveness. forgive him and forgive yourself. a common quote, quit staring at the closed window. there is a door right in front of you. Take time to heal and give yourself a break. all will be well. God bless you.:glow:
I would like to bring another perspective to the "broken heart syndrome." I will keep it short unless more needs to be explained.
As James Chapter one says, "Consider trials with joy (paraphrased). A broken heart is simply the heart that can deceive us as the Bible has said. Consider yourself lucky to have lost the wrong person for you...learn from it and gain wisdom in finding the right person from the mistakes or missed signs of the failure of that relationship and set your sights higher and never settle for the man that wants you but the man that God wants you with. The man/woman that you can love unconditionally. The one that you both can each put 100% into each other.
Love is "patient" can also be translated as "long suffering." When one is ready to commit to the one who ready to commit back "by choice" is the more likely to be the right person. Love is not a feeling, it is a choice. Feelings come and go but a committed choice can last forever.
I have that in my life with a woman that lives on the other side of the world and we are being patient or long suffering as we plan to be together forever. We made that choice to love each other forever and anything less is not an option.
God bless all those with broken hearts. Been there, done that. It is time to be patient and he/she will come when you are fixed on Jesus and not looking for a mate and this mate will also be focusing on Jesus as well.
Hi there, thank you for sharing your story. I had the same heartache and up to now i can say im not fully get over with it.
But i continue praying that i will completely move on, i may not forget him but then cherish those days that we have a good time, that remembering those days that hes part of my so called growing up, that he made me smile in times i need someone to cheer me up. I learned that life is a journey , we meet someone for a reason. I lost him and Im thankful enough cause i believe that theres someone God has prepare the right one for me, someone that love me the way God does to me.
Continue to grow in Christ and never give up!!!Ajah!!!:dancingp::dancingp:
God bless us all and may we have a prosperous year ahead:glow:
If a relationships does not work then it was not to be. The man that will love you like Christ loves the Church and shows you this every single day could be the right one.
Love is not a feeling because feeling come and go especially under pressure but love is a choice that a responsible man and woman makes and treats each other better than themselves or else it is filled with selfishness.
Selfishness is at the center of most sin leading to pride which comes before the fall.
Take the word selfishness and separate it by syllables and you will see that the first letter in each syllable spells the word sin.
self ish ness = sin
Broken Hearts, you do not know how lucky you found about this man before you made a huge mistake. He is still putting himself first...perhaps even before God Himself.
Blessings to you all who responded with encouragement and pain.
