my boyfriend cheated on me... i am so upset now.. i don't know what to do... i love him.. but he hurts me... lord please help me.. give me strength to overcome this trials.... i am so sad,,,, please i want to get rid this feelings,, i want to be happy but evrytime i think about him.,... it makes me sad and cry...... how to move on.. please help me....
When I feel those deep feeling of rejection and betrayal I take them in prayer to God and seek how He would relate with me in them.
It truly is taking a hurt and turning it into a gem. When you find relationship with God in what your boyfriend did you will find relief from your pain and then find real love in God.
The Joy of God will fill your life and remove the sting of the pain. The pain of the reality of the death of your relationship. It is only in Christ can we find life and when the dead things of life come our way Christ is there to renew you and give you living water to drink.
But it is for you to join Christ in prayer and share of your heart with Him. In doing so you will find a greater relationship with Christ than any man could ever offer you dear one.
In Christ you will become a stronger woman and learn how to choose a man that is according to Gods will for your life and not one who would reject and cheat on you.
Somewhere you are not fully surrendered to Gods will in finding a man and that is why you chose for your self a man who would do this.
Repent to God for choosing for your self this man and seek Gods will for your life in learning how to be a woman who would attract a Godly man.
You have a great and marvelous journey dear one.
For as long as you hold onto this dead relationship rather than holding onto to Jesus will be the extent of your pain. The sooner you release this man to himself and persue after Jesus the sooner you will find relief for your grief.
"Somewhere you are not fully surrendered to Gods will in finding a man and that is why you chose for your self a man who would do this. Repent to God for choosing for your self this man and seek Gods will for your life in learning how to be a woman who would attract a Godly man."
What? wow.....way to pile the guilt on to someone who is already severely hurting. Is she responsible for that man's actions? If somebody marries a spouse who ends up cheating, you tell them to go repent for it? Do you think you are above cheating on your wife? Do you really believe that is true? Are you that prideful? If you do cheat, would you like me to advise her to repent for choosing you?
BRETHREN, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Gal. 6:1
She is not married to this fellow I believe. So her repentence would be for her best because it would include rejecting a man who has betrayed her trust and commited adultry against their relationship.
She can forgive him but he does NOT deserve a second chance. Their is now no way he could prove that he would never cheat on her again.
Would you want her to live with that sort of doubt and lack of trust? I think not.
Friendship on first of your last two replies you talking about forgiving & releasing,
I've been bettling to combine the two at once.
Can we have this conversation please...? (or turn this subject of forgiveness & releasing into a conversation dear please)
I know that its something that you've just mentioned in passing,
Can we maybe dwell & see how far can we get when unpacking this please.
You can kindly share your thoughts on this on our inbox massages, so we don't diviate from the main post about the broken heart. Will carry on latter about our soul winning subject, cause that one is gonna be onother long conversation on its on, I can just tell....
So we're not having too many conversations at once.
You see you are to loved to allow your self to endure such hardship again from this man who has betrayed you and broken your heart. He is unworthy of your devotion.
First, being a woman, I understand exactly how you feel. You have to believe what your boyfriend chose to do is not your fault. If he cheated, he made the choice to. Even though you may believe otherwise right now; there is nothing you could have done differently or better that would have prevented him for cheating in my opinion. Either a man will do it or he won�t, and women are left blaming themselves.
The hurt is tough and it will not go away with the snap of a finger, you have made an investment, and when a woman is in love, there�s no easy dismissal.
Your boyfriend was unfaithful, but Jesus isn�t. He never leaves us and he doesn't forsake us. He understands how you feel and knows what you are going through. He being savior is all encompassing; He will save you from this pain as well. Trust in Him, be honest with Him (He already knows how you fee),if you want to scream, scream.. God gives the ability to do that, and it a good form of release. Most importantly, let Jesus be your counselor.
When a woman is really hurting like you are, I know suggestions can be received skeptically. It�s difficult to focus on anything else. Just take one day at a time, and Sister darlin� even if it�s a hour of crying, spend as much time as you can with Jesus. Every time you think of, ask your Father to just be there, to hold you, to help you. He will guide and direct you on what to do and He will guide you out of this situation. Child, you�ll be looking back one day saying, �what was I thinking, I certainly have done or can do much better than him��.
