Author	Thread: Shattered heart that needs help
Admin	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 31 Mar, 2009 11:25 PM Ok. I had my heart shattered almost a year ago, and something inside me won't let it go, nor will it allow me to move on and regain the confidence I once had. I pray for the strength to find the confidence to meet new people, but right now, I feel like I'm going in an endless loop repeating the same pattern over and over. This routine has me staying up extremely late, watching the same shows, and spending countless hours on my computer. I am in need of some serious help, and don't know where to turn. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 4 Apr, 2009 01:00 AM Wow - I'm sorry, I just read this. I changed my "age limitations" so that I can receive emails from anyone, and I'm more than here for you whether you want to talk or just rant. The one thing that I can tell you right away is that we have ALL been where you are. It seems like it will NEVER get any better, it will NEVER hurt any less, and you'll NEVER feel "normal" again. But those thoughts are absolutely not true. You do heal, you do laugh again, and you do go on. I've spent countless hours crying into countless pillows over many relationships in my life. One thing that helped me is writing in a journal. I wrote every day, pouring out everything I was feeling, good or bad, on paper. I found as time went on, I wrote less and less, until I finally stopped writing altogether. Sometimes I'll look at the things I wrote - the pain I just KNEW I would never get over - and I laugh and think "wow - he wasn't THAT great!!!" Lol The heart is the easiest part of the body to break and takes the longest to heal. But it also grows stronger each time. One day, you will be an old man sitting in an easy chair, with the wife that God made for you making cookies with your grandchildren. And the only thought that will come to mind is, "Lord, thank you." Post Reply
View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 5 Apr, 2009 11:56 PM That's very true. Everyone has been in my place in one way, shape, or form. I was just crushed when she wanted to cut our relationship loose. She was a real close friend of mine. One that I had known since grade school. I could really use the support of anyone who is willing to give me the help that I need. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 5 Apr, 2009 11:58 PM I'm praying for you brother. Let me know if you ever want to talk about it. I'm here for you. Like I said, feel free to email me anytime. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 6 Apr, 2009 01:22 AM That would probably help me get back on the path I should be on. I would say count on me emailing you regarding this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 8 Apr, 2009 11:03 AM God's word said to forgive those that hurt you. By faith, forgive and pray for her daily. You will begin to heal in ways you never thought of. Sometimes, we don't know why we go through this and wonder if we ever will come out of it. The answer is yes. Pray for her, let go and let God....:prayingm: Aloha, Shayna Post Reply
PHmizpah View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 8 Apr, 2009 06:55 PM Painful memories are never really gone completely. They haunt you just when you decide to lie down on your bed for the night. They wave their hands at you while you are in the middle of eating, taking a shower, buying groceries, talking to someone or when you see someone that looks exactly like the person who broke your heart. A friend, who was aware I was in pain, said "don't fight it, you'll just get exhausted if you do, just feel it until it hurts no more". Sometimes I wished I had a selected amnesia and had the power to select the memories to forget. But it wasn't the case. Sometimes I allowed my self to fantasize that what happened was just a nightmare and soon I was going to wake up and everything would be alright when I open my eyes. But it wasn't the case too. Sometimes I wished I was dead so I wont feel the pain anymore. I would choose death rather than be constantly reminded of the past, of that pain. But I love my family too much to kill myself and cause them grief when am gone. Good thing I did do anything like that. I am still alive now. Painful memories caused by the ones we love are never really gone- like the traces of the long ago vine that had gotten embedded on a piece of wood. We are like the piece of wood when we go through painful experiences. They exist for the purpose of making strong individuals out of us. I hope this will help you a bit. I pray that you will receive the comfort you needed upon reading this. God bless you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 8 Apr, 2009 11:00 PM Your support means so much to me here, for I will need the support of my sisters. Besides you all, my sisters, God is the only one who can help me. The path to me being brought on the right path starts tonight. I will keep all of you posted on my progress. May the Lord Bless you all Post Reply
missmoore1990 View Profile History	Shattered heart that needs help Posted : 31 May, 2009 12:08 AM hey. im in the same boat. a scripture thats REALLY helping me and has for years is proverbs 24:10 "if you falter in times of troubles, how small is your strength." i wrote in on my bathroom mirrow, my bedroom whiteboard, and a sticker in my car. it always reminds me to be strong in all situations. not to mention the background of my cell phone says "dont let anyone get the best of you" cuz that should be saved for god, or marriage. because people just dont treat eachother right. guard your heart all the time because it IS precious. someone is out there. we are still young. we have the rest of our lives. spend this time you have to get to know god better and better yourself even for the next lucky lady, who will cherish you for who you are. dont give up. there are good girls out there who have to watch the nasty ones mess guys up in many kind of ways and it sucks.. but we exist. i bet lots of girls would agree. you have many bros and sisters in christ who care, even if you dont know you! im always here for you bud! keep your chin up, dont let her see you frown :) Post Reply