Author	Thread: Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single.
Admin	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 3 Dec, 2012 05:15 AM It wasn't east being single for so long before. I was in a dark place before I met him. I know that God brought him into my life for a reason and he has the choice to take him away as well. I don't know why it happened. Maybe it was a learning experience for me. I know that he encouraged me a lot to be myself and that I have so much potential for success. But it still makes it hard to accept losing your first love, and boyfriend ever. Yes I did imagine a future with him. Unfortunately I think his job affected our relationship more than I thought it would. Fulltime job, 12 hour days didn't leave us much time to see each other. After a while he stopped coming to see Me. I guess in reality I need a guy who will still devote his time to me, even if it means going out of his way. I work a 9-5 job, I have weekends and I need that type of commitment of another to make a relationship work. I never knew exactly when I would see him. He never said yes half the time I asked him to see me. He always had to do something for his family. I'm not mad at him. I just have to constantly keep telling myself that no matter how hard I wish I could be with him, it probably would've gotten worse. Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 01:50 AM Something wouldn't let me go after reading your opening thread...You said "I just have to constantly keep telling myself that no matter how hard I wish I could be with him, it probably would've gotten worse."..Maybe you are right there. Probably you can take some time to even discover yourself. Seem lately most of you had been given out looking for "him". Can you pause a bit now and look inward at yourself..discover yourself...walk through yourself, if successfully and faithfully done, you will discover what you need and who will fill in that role! Sometimes, when we go for the missing rungs of the ladder, down, down, down we go! Never up. Find yourself. Locate yourself. You will understand what you need and who deserve to fill that appointment. You are Precious. Stop being forlorn. look out for yourself. Post Reply
View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 05:26 PM Just a couple days ago I had emptied a dresser in my room and got rid of some things. I moved furniture and made space in my closet. Why did I do these things? Because I am making room for the one I love in my life. I have made room in my heart, room in my schedule and now since I will be getting married soon room in my house. A relationship that doesnt have room is no relationship. Any man who truly loves you will make room for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 6 Dec, 2012 08:22 PM Sweety, take it from me, an older woman. When you have a broken heart over losing someone , you must pray and ask God in Jesus's name to break, cut and cauterise the soul tie that you had for this man. Love is a very strong emotion, but if you will pray that way, the suffering might be over with. God bless and keep you,BarbieB Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 9 Dec, 2012 01:52 AM @Jitterbugger08,one sure way to keep your heart UnBroken is remember the words of our Lord Jesus Christ. Read through these verses, you will see that UNTIL YOUR HEART IS OVERTAKEN AND HELD BY THE LOVE OF CHRIST COMPLETELY, YOU WILL CONTINUE TO HURT AND LOOK FOR A LOVE THAT IS TRANSIENT. Study the verses below carefully, you would see God's love for you and your reciprocated love for him will not let you know the hurt of a wounded heart. In my time, it was this love that healed the heart of pain. Mark 12:30 - And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. Luke 10:27 - King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.) "And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself" Matt 22:37 - English Standard Version (�2001) - "And he said to him, �You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."" Deut 6:5 King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.) - "And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might." @letthismind2, your advice is good. "If a man love you enough, he will make room for you". Ditto with a woman! @barbieB, Thanks for your insight. When we know the Father's Love all other loves will not sway us away or tie us! Post Reply
MikeWheeler View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 19 Jan, 2013 07:12 PM i too have experienced great heartbreak. the key though is to bring it all to god. sounds like the typical answer and all. but, it's the way to go. every time you feel that pain or lacking... think of it like pouring from a cup, to let god take it. every time, just let god absorb that pain. eventually, you'll find that place more filled by awesome peace, rather than deep drowning. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Thought the ex was the one...still trying to cope with being single. Posted : 13 Feb, 2013 01:11 PM There is a lot of good advice and supporting scriptures to help you cope with the broken feeling. By the way...Barbie, are you older? LoL Seriously though, the key is the initial statement which is I thought the ex.... As individuals, we come to a point in life where we hit a transition zone (spiritually). There is a clarity that hits us about ourselves and what we want and where we want to be. What often happens is, we get in a "I've got this" mode and we move to procreate this new awareness in our own image with what we have in front of us. I have done this before. But, the person we pull into the picture is never really suited for the next level. They're just perfect for that moment. The pain is when that pure optimism is crashed by the reality of the person NOT becoming what they were actually never capable of becoming in the first place. So we feel worse than ever because the original thought was so new and fresh and promising. But, they result of the move is soooooo heavy. Post Reply