Author	Thread: In need of some encourgement
wikkie View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 19 Oct, 2012 04:25 AM I believe with everything God is faithful and just and that He has a plan for me. I met a girl on here 2 years ago. I wasn't into it in the first 3 weeks, but then I believe we fell in love. I had so much baggage from before since this was my first gf since becoming a born-again Christian. I made so many mistakes and we argued so much and I hurt her very very badly. I dunno why I did it , but I wasn't myself. She left from the place we where and then God opened the door again and we had a distance relationship for +- 6 months. I since went for deliverance and couciling and things got a lot better we identified what went wrong on both our sides and I believe we both matured as a couple. I invited her back and she said it was okay she needed time I waited and then a few days back she broke up with me. She said she can see how much I've changed and have forgivin me, but can't trust me anymore (I understand) I do love her very much and she was a big blessing in my life , but I feel so guilty for messing up. I still love her and care for her safety, but I can't tell her. It kinda sucks and I wanna hold on but it's drawing me into depression so I need to let go and it's hard. Know I know I might get a lot of flak but "God gives grace to the humble" I failed , learned but now thoygh every coin has two sides im feeling a bit hurt. I dunno what im doing on this site but I met her here and would like to meet some friends to give me advice or rebuke me lol Or just pray for me and definitly pray for this girl because I'm worried about her. Thanks blessings P'S im not crazy Om just a guy that messed up there is a block button if you are offended Post Reply
View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 20 Oct, 2012 01:06 AM First of all forgive. Forgive her and yourself. seek the face of God on how to be a better man and ask him to bring emotional healing to you as well. I also would encourage you to pray that any and all emotional ties to this young lady be severed. Keep yourself from temptation. Don't put yourself in compromising situations and if you do know that there is a way of escape all you have to do is ask. "walk in the spirit and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh" Post Reply
wikkie View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 20 Oct, 2012 10:40 PM Thank you for the encouragement and time you took. I am feeling better and I have been praying for everybody involved . God's will will always rise to the top and that's what I want. Blessings and thank you W Post Reply
wikkie View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 24 Oct, 2012 10:46 PM Stuff got sorted:yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 27 Oct, 2012 06:54 PM My story is that I married the same woman twice. In all that we do if our hearts are focused on Gods will we will find saftey at the end of the journey. When you reach the end and your heart is focused on God you will certainly find God faithful to you. Your heart will learn God is trustworthy. You will learn to rest and be satisfied in all things. Your journey is great. I am soory for your hurt but in the end it will reveal the reward of Faith. In Christ, Michael Post Reply
Jeje85 View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 1 Nov, 2012 07:18 AM Hey Wikkie, good to find your stories here. Speaking as a woman who has experienced broken hearted so so so bad...honestly sometime it takes time to forgive someone who has damaged my life so bad...but as a Christian couple, you two may want to look back at the bible again to solve the conflict. God has forgiven us, so we should forgive each other..but the thing is...sometime although we have forgiven that person...things cannot be the same anymore especially if it comes about honesty and trust... So, this is old method, but it is true that action speaks louder than words..if you still care about her, let her now. Show her how you have changed. Maybe now she doesnt care right now, but if she sees your persistence and consistence to be a new you in Christ, anything is possible to get her back..Even a drop of water (rain that is pouring years and years) can conquer a tough stone. it takes time and let our best buddy Big JC to be your mate in your mission to get her back :) He is pretty good and loyal mate, He will show you the way, just trust Him, put her in your prayer. God will listen..just sometime His answer can be right now, can be postponed for a while or a long time...according to His plan for your timeline. I am not sure this is helpful but yeah I can pray for you, mate. God bless you! :) Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	In need of some encourgement Posted : 27 Nov, 2012 08:17 AM Wikki, first I must say to you, fill your heart with the word and love of God. You must first forgive yourself, just as Sent1^ had written in his post of October. I must let you know that, for Christians who relish under load of unforgiveness of their own misdeed, the Satan is ready to continue to punish them and make them feel heavy. Its was the ploy of the evil one. God had forgiven you. You must forgive yourself. Then as Jeje85 said, its good you can show her how much you have changed, but the truth is, she is not your judge or umpire who will report to God how much she saw you changed!. She also has hers in a balance, lets not forget. I think God is the ultimate forgiver. You can try to reach her if your heart or situations teach you to so do. But flaunting how you had change in a view of wining her back is a misguided and mi-slaunched strategy. First, you are playing lightly the gift of grace, secondly, you are showing the world that you are taking advantage of grace of forgiveness for your own selfish end. James 4:3(King James Version (KJV)) - 3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. If she is spiritually enlightened enough, she will see you as God saw you - a forgiven man. She will see you as a man who is better than you were before. She will see you as a man God loved so much that he can forgive, she will see herself as having no choice than to follow suit after God and love you! If she does not see all of this, then rejoice cos she had shown she is not spiritually awakened to see what God did for you. Post Reply