Author	Thread: Don't Judge ME!!
LukeC View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 12:46 PM I have been on this site off and on for a little while now. I am just trying to meet a good christian woman I can trust. My wife cheated on me, stole money from me, ruined my credit, and when I was at work she took all the valuable things out of the house along with my son and was gone before I got home. I put this right in my profile so that I do not have to explain later and have people upset. It seems that I get a lot of views to my profile but must be as soon as they see that then they are gone. I thought this was suppose to be a christian site? Does it not say in the Bible to not judge one another? I am not perfect but it was not my decision to end my marriage. I even tried to work on it and forgive her after she did all that to me. She still did not want to get back together so I have moved on and asked God to forgive her. Why can't y'all look past my past and actually believe that God changes and heals the broken heated. Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 02:13 PM I started this site much the same way you did. Like you said on your profile, you've been separated for three months. Trust me, I absolutely, whole-heartedly feel your pain brother. I know what turmoil you are going through. I would hug you and weep with you in Christian love if I were close to you. Trust me on this, I'm seven months along. At three months along I would have wrecked any relationship I had started. At seven months, I'm finally content with being single and starting to enjoy my life again. God is rebuilding my life and I am so blessed to think of my Lord and Savior as my other half now. YOU ARE NOT READY YET. Case in point: your profile. It's not attractive. You cannot woo a woman with your tale of heartache. Give yourself a few more months. Get it all settled. Get it all sorted out. Even though you both may be very, very angry or disappointed with each other right now, love may still win the day and you may end up back together. You are in the midst of the greatest, most tragic storm of your life. You are probably not at the bottom of it yet and you would feel really bad later on if you got some wonderful Christian woman involved in your life and things didn't work out because you went back to your ex-wife. My advice is this: DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT THE LORD DOES NOT TELL YOU TO DO. DO ONLY WHAT HE TELLS YOU TO DO. If you follow this advice, you'll leave less mess and wreckage to deal with later. And you'll have a badass testimony of how God came through for you and restored your broken heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 02:18 PM You're both washed clean, by the blood of the lamb, everything's forgiven. The Lord said not to call unclean what he has called clean. Find someone kind, there lies the forgiveness, because we were all at the Lord's feet begging for mercy and to be forgiven. We are all as white as snow. God bless you. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 02:56 PM If they pass you by, brother, think of it as their loss. Remember, not only do we seek forgiveness for our transgressions, but we must also forgive those who transgress against us. In the end it makes each of us a better person. If you can not do it out of love for your "enemy", you can always do it because of Romans 12:19-21 19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. 20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. 21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good. Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 3 Sep, 2012 12:47 PM Often times it is hard for Christian women to Trust divorced Men. Many times the women have divorced the husband because of Adultry, abuse, theif and many other hurtful things. We all have to forgive one another for whatever the reasons. However, We are careful not to step back into the same kind of Past situations. Post Reply
INHIMALONEISTAND View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 3 Sep, 2012 02:58 PM I am really sorry to hear all of that and I can sympathize with you. My ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive. I have been divorced now almost nine years and it really has taken me this long to heal with God's help. My first question to you is are you even divorced yet? Your post says your wife. If you are not divorced yet you are not free to even be looking. I do not know many Christian women that would even consider talking or dating a man who is still married. You must take some time to heal, forgive, and move on. I know it can get very lonely and discouraging at times but this is when we need to cling to our Abba Father the most and to surround ourselves with good Christian friends. With time and God's help the wounds will heal. When God tells you it is time then it will be the right time. My brother, many of us have been there and we feel your pain but you must let God be God and let Him guide you. No one here is judging you we are all washed in the blood and I am sure we all can testify that we have something in our past that is not pleasing to God and if we were all honest I am sure many of us would tell you there is still more room for more improvement as none of us are or ever will be perfect until our Heavenly Father comes to get us. I will be praying for you!!!!!:prayingm: Post Reply
View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 3 Sep, 2012 10:10 PM Amen! Healing comes through the Lord and we never know how long it will take our hearts to mend :) Take care brother! Post Reply
fast99 View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 6 Sep, 2012 07:26 PM I believe we, on this site ,have all been hurt and have a story..when you don't talk or think much about that time in your life is when you know you have passed through it. I know divorced people who become enraged while talking often about an ex and I asked how long have you been divorced and some have said 18 years !!! What ??? They talk like it happened 4 months ago !! It's bondage to allow hurt and anger to go on that long. we can not allow or yesterdays ruin our tomorrows.. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Don't Judge ME!! Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 08:20 AM I turn all my hurt and anger over to God. He can carry the load so much better than I. Vengence is mine saith the Lord, and I shall repay. Post Reply