I hadn't been back on this dating site for about a year...until a few days ago. If you look at my profile, don't believe a single word of what I said...because during the past year, I have permanently turned my back on God, Jesus, and the bible! I don't believe any of it anymore...simply because of a failed promise found in scripture. The promise is found in more than one book of the bible...so as far as witnesses are concerned, I've got at least 2 witnesses for those of you who need proof that Jesus said it. Anyway here's what happened:
I asked God to provide me with a wife back in June of 2009...and believed when I prayed that I would receive what I asked. Well, here it is 3 years later and still no wife. The provision was never provided even though I know with absolute certainty that I believed!!! The young lady who did happen to come across my path led me on for nearly a year before ending the relationship over something that never should've been an issue. The emotional pain that resulted was like someone stuck a sword right through my chest...and the anger and rage inside my heart has been building ever since...and I refuse to contain it any longer! For those of you who might happen to think I should've given God more time, let me explain something to you once and for all:
A truly holy, all knowing, and all powerful God doesn't need 3 years or more to provide a suitable wife for me...especially considering that he would know exactly which young lady would be a perfect match for me...and could easily have brought her and I together.
By the way, I was going to look up the verses in the bible to make it easier for everyone to find them, but I'm already angry enough...so you'll just have to look them up yourselves.
I know many of you aren't going to like what I've said here...but I can't help that. Just being honest, I never in all my life thought that it would ever come down to this!
I agree, FocusOnTheUnseen, that "(a) truly holy, all knowing, and all powerful God doesn't need 3 years or more to provide a suitable wife for (you.)" And I don't like that you feel you've turned your back on God, Jesus, and the Bible. You indeed got that right. Thankyou for your honesty.
I realise that you might not care to read our responses. Nonetheless, for what it's worth, I have had a similar experience. A young lady came across my path, led me on for nearly a year, and ended the relationship over an un-issue, and suddenly. I know this part of your pain, as you have described it. Empathy, dude, right there.
If you want to tell, may I ask why you became a Christian in the first place - why you became a believer, and what brought you to keep believing for a while?
For the rest of us: FocusOnTheUnseen might be thinking of Matthew 7:7-8 and Luke 11:9-10.
I asked God to provide me a wife more than 10 years ago and Im still waiting. God does things in His time, not ours.
Im not a "casual dater". I only date women who I think God has sent to me. For that reason, I have only had two really serious relationships in my life. The first I "dated" for over two years and then she was offered a job in St Loius. She choose the job over me. But thats ok. God knew this beforehand. Now I feel as if I "dodged a bullet" because she turned out wrong. Even her own family has nothing to do with her now.
The second, well, that one nearly killed me. I had been dating her for about 18 months. We had talked about getting married toward the end. What she had not told me, or anyone else for that matter, was that she had been feeling sick and having some medical problems. She collapsed on me one night while we were on our way to her home from a restaurant. I called her father immediately and told him to meet me at the hospital. She was still unconcious when we arrived. Her entire family arrived 5 minutes after they took her back. Two hours later the doctor came out, asked for next of kin, and proceeded to tell her father that his daughter had ovarian cancer and had him sign a consent form for emergency surgery. One of her ovaries, which had been the size of a grapefruit, had ruptured.
After the surgery the doctor told him that the cancer had already spread. It was in her intestines, her liver, everywhere. They tried everything, but nothing worked. She lived for 103 days after the first surgery. I begged her to marry me, but she refused, telling me that she was not going to make me a widower. It took me 10 years to get over her and we were never bound br God.
I could have turned by back on God. But God is not the one who gave her cancer. God is not the one who deceived me in the first relationship I mentioned. I felt unspeakable pain both times, but God was not to blame. The rain falls on the just and unjust alike. We are not promised an easy time in this world. We are not promised a perfect life. The perfect life is what is to come after we have met death.
God and Jesus did not lie to you. God knows what is best and we must accept His judgement.
I can't see you, so I will focus extra hard! I thought I'd write here, sort of to get that double impact effect, kind of like dry wiping a counter with a paper towel AND wiping it with a clean, soapy washing rag. What would you know of such things, though, these are womanly things. Nothing is ever spotless enough, you might say I have that scrupulous eye for detail.
I noticed your feet are quite sunburned, and I said to myself, now here is a man that's walked a thousand miles under the scorching hot sun. Your feet are also quite hairy, you hobbit, you.
I got on a bunny trail here. Anyway, I was thinking these men here were wise men and were right. I believe the Lord has a purpose for all of us, who believe on him. You are a young man, only 24 years old! Will you not wait a little longer for the Lord to bring you that one woman you'll spend the rest of your life with, who'll steal the covers from you in the middle of the night, so you get a chill and wake up shivering. The woman who loves you and sets you apart, because she knows she is meant to be with you because she saw your good, godly spirit.
I would wait many odd years for such a one for me, god willing... and if it was to no avail, I'd get a cat... I'd get two cats, and I'd knit them sweaters and play bingo with all my single lady friends.
So, let me get this straight. The magic genie in the sky didn't grant your wish when you rubbed the bottle? Is that about right?
Now, you stand judge and jury over the King of kings and you offer your public indictment and sentencing for His disobedience to your commands. Is that about right?
I've personally prayed very faithfully for a wife now for close to 30 years. So, I guess that I just can't relate with all the pain and grief you must be going through after praying an entire...um...3 years.
Your post is filled with blasphemy. I would encourage others not to offer hugs and kisses to this kind of behavior and rhetoric.
16 And these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who, when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness;
17 And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time: afterward, when affliction or persecution ariseth for the word's sake, immediately they are offended.
Tell me about it my friend. Read my post on this forum, it's right below yours.
After waiting and praying to God for 2.5 years for a wife, try finding your wife at a Bible study, reading the Word of God with her almost every day, praying with her every day, going to church with her every week, working in youth ministry together, doing different ministries together with other people and then she cheats on you not just once, but twice.
After building a family together and having a child, she moves in her boyfriend who she has never met in person to live with her and your child. She divorces you and you have to pay child support while her new boyfriend sits at your old home and plays video games and sleeps with her. THEN while you are struggling from the pain of her affair, you lose your job and while you can't find one, she gets a job as a Chaplain at a local hospital. All the time denying that she did anything wrong by having an affair and moving a stranger into your home with your 2 year old daughter.
Needless to say I was so hurt and p!ssed I was ready to forsake God and kill myself. After six months, I'm slowly moving on and finding myself seeking God more and more. He was not the author of this confusion - Satan was.
Don't forsake God. Even if you find a wife, she could destroy your life lol. Will you forsake Him then too? Be grounded in the Lord.
My advice to you is take more initiative. SEEK out a wife. I'll tell you something I've learned that doesn't get preached enough: God honors those who take chances on faith. As long as you stay within the boundaries He's set, the riskier the chance and the more faith it takes to act, the greater the reward and it comes from God. SEEK out a wife. Be bold. Be courageous. Don't give up.
I am sorry but you sound like a little spoiled child who didn't get their way. Is not God's will more important than our own? Who are you to question the God of the universe? He is ALL knowing. He knows the plans He has for your life He knows your past and your future. Did you ever think that He may be trying to teach you and your future bride (that He already knows) some things that He feels are very important for your marriage to work. God's timing is not ours and He will work ALL things out for the good to those who love Him. Maybe you need to keep your focus on Him, maybe that is what He is waiting for, your 100% surrendering to Him. He wants you to love Him more than anything or anyone else.
Alright, gents....let's not jump him all at once and hang him from the highest tree. Telling someone they're a big ol' baby and you don't feel sorry for them isn't going to help either.
For those showing their kindness of heart in this matter, thank you.
OP First let me say, I am sorry your relationship did not work out to marriage. However, God is a God that does Not lie and his Word/Promises are always fullfilled, if God promises You something it will happen. Just that simple.
The lady you spoke of here , that you Chose was evidently not the right woman for You or either God is going to turn the situation around and marriage will happen. Just continue in Prayer and Never give up on God because he never gives up on You.
Many relationships fail but that is Not God fault. The fault is never with God.
