brother and sister, when you get angry, did you still control your anger? what ever your situation, you have to patient. I do mistake to one of my friend( friendship online). I am so sorry for that. he call me when I was in cinema. I dont pick his call and not call him back but I text him after that. Guy, did you felt ignore if your friend dont call you back? That become a issues to him. We argue after that. I try be patient and ask forgiveness to him.
I still accept that. but the worst things is when he say I am so stingy and stupid. I much talk but actually I am empty without action. you know that feeling very painful. The awkward is when he ask me to call him again when he already mad and angry to me. I felt he treat me like his gf. Proverbs 17:17 -A friend loves at "all times...". He keep saying he will leave and never bother me again. But I still message him at fb until he blocked me. I dont want him leave me and I think I will miss him later. But when I call him after that, I am speechless. keep say I am stupid and stingy. now its more hurt. when you meet me in real, old friend, I am sure you will regret what you saying to that night. you cannot judge and give your opinion with one call. Now I get it when you say I deserve more better than you. its true.
Its so sad when you friend keep saying harsh words to you. What you can do is be patient. Pain inside and I am sure God will proud with me what I am doing. Love each other. Luke 6:28 "bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you". Be careful little lips what you say because it lead broken heart astray.
You might try easing into what you consider friendship more gradually. Let a person start with no bias from you but make them earn their right to be called a friend.
IOW, if a friend loveth at all times, then he should have demonstrated this pattern before being considered a friend, no?
Blessings and may the God of broken hearts visit you continually :)
My name is antalie, feeli like imy heart is also broken, my problem is at work. my colleague bring their books with and laptops and do their work ay yje end of the day their work is not done and i need to do it. I spoke to them nothing happened and told my boss. Result was tht im the one to be blamed cause i dont communicate and looking down on others and i dont.
My one colleague said i told her about the email to my boss and the email my boss send back she said she never went to our boss. Yesterday my boss confronted me and said tht I made them feel unwelcome and i should remeber how long it took me to get training. I will do my best to train someone even do role play so the nxt person understands and this is so hurtful and a specially knowing tht a colleague i liked trust and loved would go and lie to my face and say such thing.
Im sad, hurt and thought i was not angry but i am a little, she gave me gifts so il be returning them to her, cant keep something knowing someone lies to me hate lieing. Got any advise for me
Do not return her gifts! That will be perceived by your coworker as spiteful. Regift them to someone outside the office if you don't feel comfortable keeping them; but let that issue go so that the animosity between you begin to cool.
Here are some assumptions I think you should challenge, dear Sister. Ask yourself and then your boss, "Do I really need to do someone else's work that is not done at the end of the day?" Not knowing how your boss allows you to identify 'your' work vs a colleague's work, I think this should be the first thing that gets defined unemotionally. In my job, this is identified 100% through log-in data and automated reporting.
One way or the other, if your colleague(s) are stealing from their employer by being off-task or doing personal business on employer time, they will eventually be found out. If you've been given supervisory responsibility for a colleague's performance, you probably should bring the issue to their attention by stating the company policy and that you are in fact documenting for their performance review . . . both compliance and refusal to comply. {Documentation of performance should always reflect both praise and room for improvement.}Then let your boss know in a quick memo that you have shared the company policy with all employees you are expected to evaluate.
I'm puzzled that your boss did not address or at least define for you and your co-workers the policy for cell phones, ipads, tablets, and e-readers at work. At my workplace, cell phones are forbidden; but my very likable Christian Sister who is training me uses hers with impunity. She also takes a lot of frequent personal time; but she comes in early and stays late and she doesn't always take an hour for lunch. She is also the company's most productive worker and has set productivity records that benefit everyone when commission checks are calculated. Her work patterns do affect my training productivity; but if that becomes an issue for the boss, I will share forthrightly with him how things could be moving along more efficiently. Meanwhile, I have developed other projects I can do independently when she is not available; and this keeps me from feeling frustrated.
Finally, Sister Antalie, I think you might benefit from something my precious Christian sister/mentor said to me when I found myself highly resenting the treatment and behavior of another Christian sister. She said to both of us, "The more mature Christian bears the greatest accountability." This revelation has never failed to move me out of my self-righteous bent and into a heart attitude that will allow the Holy Spirit to build the Ministry of Reconciliation.
It's not easy to tell, either, whether your colleagues are believers or unbelievers. If they are the former, perhaps they are immature believers or "baby Christians" who need the example of a more mature believer to motivate them . . . or at the very least just to set the bar high for ethical standards at work. I will be praying that if you pursue The Ministry God has given us all ~ The Ministry of Reconciliation ~ with your colleagues, the Holy Spirit will help you sort out who owns what responsibility at work and which battles He really wants to help you fight. ~ God's Peace ~
