Author	Thread: love of my life....
caringheart1741 View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 1 Apr, 2012 07:33 AM I met a guy online 2 years ago. I fell madly in love with him. He has 1 child and I have 3. He had his own place and asked us to move in. Things were great except he never raised his child full time and only has 1 so he doesn't know how stressful it can be. My kids are good kids but they are kids. If we would decide to do something like for instance I wanted to go to watch the Indians and tigers game...he knew how much I wanted to see it but his daughter mind you who is 17 didn't want to so we couldn't go. He repeatedly told me once his daughter says the party's over we were done. I gave his daughter everything. Love, friendship, money etc. She had a boyfriend and on her Facebook put to his sister...to be honest your like the little sister I never had....my daughter who is 13 saw this and it hurt her because she considered her to be her sister...I mean we were suppose to be a family..so I said something to my ex...just explaining that my daughter was really hurt by that. Now mind you a week prior to this he gave me a second engagement ring....the first one I caught him talking sexually to other women and I threw the ring......anyways the next day I see that his daughter removed and blocked myself and my daughter from her Facebook. I was also hurt by this with everything I had done for her....her response was....I don't care....therefore my ex told me that my kids and I had a few days to get out that we were done. I had to pack up myself and 3 kids alone...uproot them from their school and friends, quit my job and move to Michigan. Post Reply
View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 1 Apr, 2012 08:27 PM That sounds very painful. It also sounds like he was not committed to you (the 17 year old is immature, which is predictable... she's not an adult yet). Blending families is hard at the best of times, which is why God gave us all kinds of helpful boundaries to help us keep from getting hurt, though there are never any gaurantees against a broken heart. My suggestion, from the guidance in God's word, would be, not to combine your families until the committment is sealed and those details of what comes first in the heirarchy of family values is worked out. And if he was talking sexual with another women after making a promise to you (with a ring), or even if he had no relationship with you, I would seriously question his relationship with God. This does not sound like the kind of man interested in loving and protecting you or your children. My two cents worth... run girl!! Seek God and sold-out Christians for comfort and future guidance. Post Reply
caringheart1741 View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 2 Apr, 2012 12:06 AM Thank you for replying. He preached about God many times and I would tell him how dare you preach God's word with the horrible things you have done. Sad thing is he's on this site pretending to be a follower when he is the devil himself.. so watch out ladies he's not who you'd want to be with. Post Reply
View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 11:03 AM I have read your post several times and I am reminded that we need to be equally-yoked. Bear in mind that we don't need to see everything the same way however, it does mean that deep in our hearts, where our truest selves lie, there is the expectation that we must be honest with ourselves. If we are truly honest with ourselves, we can then see in others those traits that we embrace or those traits that we don't want in our lives. This doesn't mean that we have to judge another for who they however, it does mean that we must judge the situation and circumstances as they relate to what we believe to be true and right, what we want in our own lives. This leads us to equally-yoked. They may like meat, you don't (as an example) and if this is not an HONEST, TRUE issue for you, then it matters none (not an equally-yoked consideration). If they seek to speak of Christ without the evidence in their day-to-day lives, then we have an unequally-yoked situation and now a decision must be made. And as much as many wanted to limit this scenario to Christian or Non-Christian, it really comes down to how we see and live in the world and bring others into our lives according to those beliefs. If they are willing to speak sexually to another and this goes against your belief system, then you must ask yourself what the importance of commitment is to the two of you. Finally, it is not for me or anyone else here on this site to decide what is right or wrong for you, only you can do that. Bottom line, speak with God, commune with the Holy Spirit, have patience as you await the answer to your query and above all, be honest about what it is that you really want. So sorry for your hurt. Wish you God's best! Post Reply
truemiracle View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 05:56 PM Hey caring heart, he does not deserve you! I know your heart is broken now but try to feel blessed. You derserve much better. Post Reply
truemiracle View Profile History	love of my life.... Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 05:58 PM Very nicely said-thanks your words were a comfort to me Post Reply