Author	Thread: They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart
DebraChua View Profile History	They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart Posted : 30 Jan, 2012 04:05 AM I have had two serious relationships so far. The 1st was with a guy from Mumbai,he was my first love and i loved him.When my parents found out,he disappeared for 3 months,leaving me to deal with my family who were at that time extremely hostile.I fought for him but after 3 months without a word or reply to my mails,i broke up with him.Months later he came back and he wanted to get back with me.We did and he disappeared again for 3 days.Late he suddenly appeared and told me it would not work out.he broke my heart 3 times in total,appearing when I had found someone else and asking for me back when he had a girlfriend already.He said he wanted to break up with her coz he only got with the girl coz she reminded him of me.i told him to hold on to her.He broke my heart but i thank God,coz after 3 years i finally forgot him. My recent boyfriend and I just broke up a few weeks ago.It was during my finals and I could not study.He had wooed me for a year and I did not accept for I felt that wasn't what God wanted.He was also an Indian,a staunch Hindu.Finally after all his efforts,I gave in.At first I did not love him,it was merely coz I cared for him deeply.Then i started to fall for him.His mother would call me and yell at me telling me to leave her son alone.She even threatened me on FB using all kinds of vulglar words.Admittedly at that point I lost it and was very rude to her,but I did not utter a single bad word against her.She hated me for no reason I could think of.Because of that,after a few months he too started to treat me like trash.I loved him so much I tried everything to make him happy.I bought him things,paid for dates and movies,paid for the calls and used up my food money for uni to buy him a WD hard disc.So i told him I would let him go so he would be happy to marry someone his mother approved of and whom he could love freely.He told me that he was glad coz he had only been in the relationship as not to hurt me.That he had no faith in us ever getting married.This was from the man who had earlier told me he would do anything and fight anyone to be with me.He didnt even try.He told me that i should keep in contact n answer his calls even if he had someone else later.He told me that if he married i should come to his wedding.I felt like dying.I think he already fell for someone else.There was a girl who he kept messaging and calling even infront of me.It hurt but I didn't say anything.I knew he would just yell at me.But I accepted it all.In the end he did ask for me back but i told him he had to ask my parents for permission first to date me.His answer was a no.With a thousand excuses. I feel so hurt.I am surfing this site in hopes God will steer a loving person my way.I don't understand why a man can not love a woman,the way the woman loves him. Post Reply
View Profile History	They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart Posted : 1 Feb, 2012 05:20 PM Don't be offended at what I say, neither misinterpret it, but you are still young and these experiences, though they break your heart, also build your character. Your heart is precious and Jesus paid the highest price for it - you will take longer next time to give it away, and be more sure of yourself and the other person when you do. Post Reply
View Profile History	They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart Posted : 2 Feb, 2012 09:18 PM Hello. From a person who has had their heart and trust broken I am going to share this wit you. On my profile I have a saying, it's not mine mind you but wise so i adopted it. It says; A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek him just to find her. And that is what you need to do, yes looking is fine but we are just looking with human eyes. God has someone for you and though the desire to love and be loved in return is strong within us we need to remember that just as God took his time lovingly creating us, he also took his time lovingly creating your husband. Take this time to seek out a relationship with Him and WAIT upon the Lord. I put wait in caps because it is important, they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. You need time to heal, time to come to want God more than you want the answer to why men break our hearts. I know in waiting there is a blessing and I know one day I am going to be face to face with my blessing at the altar. I know what you're going through but set your eyes on things above and one day you'll look around and see where God has brought you from and shout "Look how God has been good to me!" If you ever need to talk please do not hesitate to write me. God bless you in your journey. I will be praying. Post Reply
JLAMIR View Profile History	They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart Posted : 20 Mar, 2012 05:51 PM I have been trully blessed by all of your comments. I have had my heart broken majorly by two people back to back. By an ex fiance/college sweet heart and child hood friend. Overtime I learned who I was as a person. I can honestly say that the person I am today could never be with people like them. They are not the pieces that fits to my puzzle. I have currently been in andi out of a relationship with a long time friend of five years but I have decided to just be his friend because it's probably best . Apart of me wants to give in but the other would rather be patient and wait on the lord. Until then I usually get over a broken heart by remaining positive and focusing on my passions ! Post Reply
dimples929 View Profile History	They ask you to trust them,and when you do,they break your heart Posted : 2 Jun, 2012 04:04 PM Amen my sister! I too have had my heart broken in the past. I recently been deceived by a man but I can't say he broke my heart but I will say I am very disappointed. The only reason why I can't say he broke my heart is because God has my heart right now and He has His hedge of protection around me. Everyday I pray and ask God to remove any and all obstacles out of my way that are not pleasing to Him. My relationship with God has grown tremendously these last few years and I continually seek Him by reading His word daily and basking in His presence. I have to thank my last heartbreak for that. The break-up left me so devastated, I cried to Jesus for healing because the pain I felt was so unbearable and lo and behold He heard my cries and gave me a sense of peace that I will never forget and from that day forward I have been on fire for the Lord! Surrendering myself to the calling of His will and I must say it has been an amazing journey! Trust me I still go through my trials and tribulations but I have a sense of peace knowing that my loving Father is in control and His protection is all around me. Praise God! Post Reply