Author	Thread: Maybe some light would be nice
fiferic View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 12:22 AM I am friends with this girl. I have written poems about how I know she just wants to be friends etc...so she knows that I really like her (I have not felt this way before). But she tells me that she believe God has this guy for her that she has known for 1 year and 6 months a year and 3 months more then me. Just a few weeks ago she decided to enter a long distance relationship with him. I am truly happy for her and I believe she knows that. Here is the problem, she keeps telling me how her boyfriend and I are a lot alike. Like I said we are great friends, I feel like and have told her stuff I havent told other people. My other friends are telling me I need to stop hanging out with her and that she is just using me. I don't agree but I also don't understand why she may feel the need to tell me that we are so alike. Does anyone have any idea why she would tell me this? Thanks and God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 06:15 PM well... could be shes just making conversation... or. Please don't think too much into this, just an idea... perhaps keeping you as a safe "back up" just incase this doesn't work with her long distance bf, if they don't work out she can fall back on you when she knwos you do have feelings for her. AS a sis in the lord, this is things some women do... sadly not caring, just for their own convinience of not being lonely. but i dunno... cos i don't know the whole matter Post Reply
View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 06:37 PM I am gonna level with ya dude. This chick is just toying with your feelings. While she may enjoy your company she feels no attraction to you. My advice would be forget her. Hang out with the boys more, and if the opportunity presents itself spend time with another women. maybe your a very nice thoughtful person. If so than this chick dont deserve you anyway. Post Reply
EverythingMe View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 5 Dec, 2011 05:01 PM Firstly I want to say sorry man, unfortunate and i understand you're just friends, but still.. I guess i speak that because it happened to me. I was real good friends with a girl, and started gaining feelings. Because i wasn't moving to her speed she kept me in the friend zone and moved on. She'd contact me every so often, telling me how she missed me etc. One day i woke from a dream (god had been giving me dreams for a while) But i came to the realization, i was the back-up in case things went sour, they argued, etc. I'm not saying what you should do, but i cut off all contact. I think my heart and soul deserve much more, and you do too. Keep us notified if everything is okay! Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 6 Dec, 2011 09:05 PM I think I am going to stick it out for now. I can't image my life without her even as a friend. I just have to guard my heart and be patiently waiting for whoever God has for me. I have realized over the last for days that I have to be patient and not look for someone and that is when God will put them in my life or make it even clear if it some I already know. I just hate it because for the first time in my life I have been having dreams about saving someone's life. So, I can't even get peace in my sleep. Please keep me in Prayer Thanks and God Bless Eric Post Reply
deb101 View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 13 Jan, 2012 04:29 AM Eric, Could be the girl is lonely, lost, and needs someone close to lean on until she can get it together. You can be friends, but bear in mind that to do so with your feelings you may subconsciously put more of your heart into it than you think. This will only leave you feeling rejected and hurt. If she is having doubts now, later on she may come over to your side, but not 100% of her will follow. If it doesn't seem right, there are reasons for it. Hear your own voice of warning and heed. Post Reply
Esmith06 View Profile History	Maybe some light would be nice Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 04:09 AM Eric I totally feel for you man, I've had some similar experiences with the whole "just friends" thing. It isn't much fun to say the least. A few years ago I had a similar situation with a friend of mine from class who I really genuinely cared for. It was very difficult though cause we were always together, and sometimes she would talk about the guy she had just started dating and there's this conflict of emotions going on inside me cause on one hand I am happy for her, and on the other hand I'm about to explode inside. Looking back on it now I wish I would have spent less time with her than I did because it only made my feelings for her grow and I really think it brought me down a lot cause I kept getting my hopes dashed. I know it isn't easy, but sometimes it can be best to let go. If you find that a part of you wants to check facebook every day in hopes that her status is back to single, I would strongly suggest taking a major step back in the relationship if not cut it off completely. In my situation it just resulted in a depressive episode for me, and our friendship became rather awkward because we both knew each other's feelings. Post Reply