Author	Thread: My mistake
Rubidoux View Profile History	My mistake Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 02:16 AM January 08 I was in prayer and fasting, asking God to send me what I needed in a man, not what I wanted. I'd been married 3x, evidently I couldn't get it right on my own. He showed up on Valentine's Day. "You have beautiful eyes and the type of mouth a man wants to kiss". He carried my books home from school, I fixed him a sandwich along with a cup of coffee to say thanks. We ended up in my kitchen, sandwiches and coffee, talking for hours that night. We began spending a lot of time working together on his pet project. He told my sister he had prayed for a woman like me. I almost fell over. I had NOT revealed my prayer request to anyone. By Easter I realized I was falling in love. I opened up to him, letting him know I was not the girlfriend type. A man either marries me or leaves me alone. Memorial Day he moved me into his home. Labor Day he kicked me out on the street. I was crushed, my spirit broken. I've come to accept that sometimes God hits the pause, reset button in my life to get me back on track. I believe God told me to love this man. He never told me to sleep with him. My mistake. Post Reply
View Profile History	My mistake Posted : 2 Feb, 2009 07:14 AM Hi Rubi, Yes, we all have prayed for certain relationships in our lives, and think its God who has answered our prayers, failing to understand and know that the devil also answers our prayer requests according to the lusts of our flesh for a mate. Especially, when we're not praying according to God's perfect will for our life for a mate. Sometimes God's desire is for us to wait and get out relationship with Him in good standing, before we get involved with someone. God's answers never bears sin. Moving in with this guy, you know was not God's will for you before marriage. So this we know is not of Him. Our problem is that for some reason, we still haven't learned how to question God, when we think our prayers have been answered, to see if the answer is truly of Him. We also haven't learned that grace is not going to abound always when we do sin, but when we find ourselves in sin ignorantly, God will make a way for escape, if we listen and keep it moving... Prasie God!... you listened and got out through the escape hatch God provide for you before it was too late. ET (ella) Post Reply
View Profile History	My mistake Posted : 2 Feb, 2009 06:17 PM I've never been married but I made a mistake like you, just a bit different. I got engaged probably to quick to an ex who I was reunited with. At a moment of weekness I made the choice to sleep with her thinking engagement was close enough to marriage. I was wrong, she broke up with me and cut me out of her life. I was heartbroken and didn't think I could trust another woman again. Still not sure but after some time God has healed me a little more each month that passes. I felt like I couldn't trust God again and that I didn't want to wait for him to bring me my wife. I have been seeking God and am taking a healing and deliverence class soon. As I have found that it's not me waiting on God it's God waiting on me to get fixed/healed/set free and then shortly after he will bring me my wife. It took seeking advice and lots of prayer for me to see what was keeping from receiving the gift God had spoken that he would give to me. It was me all along. We all have flaw we just have to figure what they are, what is hindering us in our walk with Jesus the best friend we could ever have. Once you figure it out then you will be more open and free to receive the many gifts God has for you. It wouldn't be fair of me to go into a relationship and exspect my wife to be on fire for God if I'm not. So ya it's not all about me/you. It's about us and seeking God with all your heart seeking his desires for us and not our selfish desire for ourselves. Just thought I'd share my thoughts and views and the way the Lord has been moving in my life. Hopefully this gives you something to think about or answers any question you may have had. Anyways hope I was of some help. Arod77 Post Reply
View Profile History	My mistake Posted : 2 Oct, 2009 10:12 AM I have never lived with a man out of wed-lock but I have made the mistake of sex before marriage..agh..once that happens It's pretty much the beginning of the end to the relationship. My dad told me one time, "You cant expect a fig to grow Into a fruit tree, when you are willfully sinning" In other words..I was sowing bad seeds with the man and making exuses for it and still expecting God to honor our relationship. It can be so hard now days to refrain from pre-marital sex. Even Christians make light out of It..as I myself did at one time, but I have sense learned my lesson...I will not EVER give myself to another man before marriage. It's not worth the cost. I want to glorify God In the relationship and I cant do that If I'm not honoring him and his commends. I believe that when God brings somebody to us we should take It very seriously because If not handled correctly then God will allow them to slip right through our fingers. (just my opinion) Thanks for sharing..be blessed! (I know It's an old post but I felt the urge to reply) Post Reply