Author	Thread: Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"?
Admin	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 30 Nov, 2011 04:20 PM So I had a guy friend who even told me he had feelings for me and he is 36, we kept in contact and good friendship even decided to see if one day we can meet and see what happens, we really liked eachother. Well, it so happens the long distance was getting to him and what happened? He lied to me... yup, he texted me (wow, lol so juvenile) "I went to dinner with another woman. sorry", ok fine i was hurt but what the heck we weren't together officially. A few days later we talk on the phone and he said "I was lying. I never went with anyone. Its just I tried telling you this long distance can never work though i really care for you. But I didn't know what else to do but I lied. in all honesty (ironic lol) I am very truthful person... except this". So we talked it out and decided to just remain good pals! I mean right? Right... he even said "Hey wanna see if we can talk this weekend, we can even keep on skyping" ok cool Ya he never texted or called me. as a matter of fact I found it he deleted me from all his online contacts. and found out i've been blocked. when our last convo was and smiling and yes was rough cos he was a liar to me, but hey i forgave him. but finding out he blocked me... wow... I would expect that from someone juvenile barely getting out of high school or puberty, but from a full grown man I respected and admired alot... wow that hurts. But hey, i'm glad this happened, cos it helped narrow down to what kind of men I should trust. Ya i'm hurt, and ya i may regret writing this... but there are times when you just need to vent. Thing is... I still think kindly of him. Though its hard to believe cos of this long message, but in the end... hes still a good man. sigh. dang it... I do believe in the best of people even if they were liars toward me once even or become immature and avoid me even if they say "lets be friends (friends actually talk lol not block) and i'll talk to you this weekend" that weekend never came. Thanks for the vent! :) haha Post Reply
View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 1 Dec, 2011 10:32 PM My father once told me that Its not the number of years that a man has been alive that determines his maturity but the number of trials he has been through and the number of lessons he has learned from God. So basically, a God-fearing 20 year old could be 100x more mature than a 60 year old that has no God. I hope this helps :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 2 Dec, 2011 01:51 PM "Better is a poor and wise child than an old and foolish king" Having said that, 36 is hardly "older" male territory (don't write me off just yet!) and maturity comes through experience: the trend seems to be for people to live with their parents much longer than previously so experience is coming later than it used to... Post Reply
aalleexx View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 2 Dec, 2011 03:42 PM Lilo, he lied to you now as a friend, you dont want to know what he could have done later! I hope you forget him soon, he is forgiven but he better get lost. Stay stong, blessings :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 2 Dec, 2011 06:54 PM thank you all for such wisdom, and yes years to not make maturity is the character of a person and experience that does... I do forgive him and truly with all that i am hope the best for him for i too am not perfect, but it was just a shocking thing, i've never had a guy friend do such things like that to me! But hey, sigh... i too showed immaturity with writing what i wrote. hehe... but thank you all so kindly with your honesty, truly appreciate it :) Mucho lilo love! Post Reply
EverythingMe View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 5 Dec, 2011 05:03 PM Hey! I had almost the exact scenario play out, where the person basically made me feel as though our downfall was my fault when she was only disguising it as a way to tell me she didn't want to be with me anymore. Age is a #, the best way to quote maturity is by asking god and seeing that persons body of work. I'm so sorry this happened to you, because their immaturity led to heartbreak when it didn't have to go there Post Reply
Vivere View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 7 Dec, 2011 06:45 AM Sorry Lilo! Sending Hugs! Post Reply
View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 7 Dec, 2011 01:45 PM thanks mamas love you so much! Post Reply
ADay View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 3 Feb, 2012 05:02 AM I was married to an older guy, thought that would bring security and stableness, he was even a christian so I thought this will work - well no it didn't. My ex although mature in years was very immature in his emotions - he was equivalent to a 2 year old spoil child who would have tantrums . Only thing was this man was a black belt in Karate so not wise to get him upset, in the end I just could not take the abuse and we are now getting divorced. Not all men are like this though, so forgive, let go and move on with God guiding you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Aren't older men supposed to be "mature"? Posted : 5 Feb, 2012 09:57 PM It is too bad guys will do this and not be truthful from the beginning. Believe me they do it all the time thinking nothing of it. Sometimes, I believe lonliness does that as some are living for the moment. I had a date once, he flirted with any woman who would look at him, screamed over me when I was talking and he was an older guy with no respect. Unfortunately, his wife found someone else while they were married. I felt like he was upset with me on the date and yet I was just trying to enjoy the evening. I was in disbelief about his actions. I doubt if any other woman would have continued with that date after he made it clear he was a gift to women. Post Reply